Started new life...but still miss ex....emotionally in pain

[sissy106]

Hi all.

 

I broke up with my ex, my first and only love, one year and 4 months back. Got married soon after breakup, due to pressure from my family and surroundings and my own emotional helplessness.

 

The background is that I had 6 years relation with my ex and we were engaged in the last year of our relation. We were in same college, and after that I was doing higher studies while he was trying for it, but didnot get it till 2 years. He was 2 years behind me in studies, but I kept on encouraging him till he got fellowship in another country. He went to another country for higher education. I loved him unconditionally and truely.

 

His family was not as much established as ours, so I helped him all the way to encourage him by all means. He also came from a background of failed relationship between his parents, which had huge impact on him. He used to restrict me from going out especially with male friends, and I did the same as I could understand his insecurities. But sometimes we used to have big fights over the things which were nothing and happened just because he felt insecure all the time. Leaving aside this thing we were very much in love.

 

But during our relation too he did certain things which hurted me a lot. When he was about to go out for studies we got engaged, in long distance relation, he started behaving rudely to me day by day. He asked me to apply for fellowship in that country where he was, and when I did got that he compelled me to stay back. This thing really shattered me, coz I was doing each and evry thing to make him happy and there he was, competing from me and feeling jealous all the time from my success in career. Infact in the later stages he was the one who was no more interested in me. He made me cry to the point where I thought of dying too. It was then that I decided to breakup with him. He too didnot seems to be bothered till the day I really did it and stopped contacting him.

 

I want to mention that since 6 years there was no single day that we would not have talked and he also was stubborn about talking daily, except during the last year of our relation when he was abroad, where he didnot seems to care anymore. He behaved like being lost in his work, so used to ask me not to disturb him, but this doesnot implies when I was bzee and he was free without work for 2 years in our own country. Over that he still wanted me to remain inside house and dont go out with friends, while he was chilling out with his new friends in a new country.

 

Well I decided to part from him coz he did not really cared anymore about me, infact he wished in front of me that I could die and he can make a fresh start. So I stopped calling him, this thing disturbed him coz he used to take me for granted and was surprised to see that I am not calling him anymore. But as the days passed by, he started missing me. But I still kept NC. He started mailing me, but I replied it only once a week, then he started calling my friends and family members too. 4 months passed like this. During these 4 months I got myself engaged in an NGO working for social cause, so that I dont get deepressed. There I met my present husband, But till that time i was not in any kind of relationship with him, although had I shared my situation with him. I told my ex that I am bzee in social activities and he was angry over it coz he never let me go out to any place with anyone. I spoke to my ex few times during these 4 months but his attitude was still the same and he really insulted me. Out of anger I lied to him and told him that I have moved on and started talking to somebody else.

 

This made my ex crazy and he desparately attempted to get me back, but at the same time used to threatened me that he will leave me. So 5 months after the major fight and fake breakup he came back home to see me (he came back after 1 and half year gap) telling me that he wanted to marry me asap. But the day he came back, he met me and asked me if I was going around with somebody and I told him no I was not, we met 2 more days, till last day when he searched my phone and found msg of my present husband in which he has written that I should seriously think about my marriage with that person who is hurting u. My ex read that msg and immediately did breakup with me, without even bothering to ask what I want, and was I actually seeing somebody or not? Although I wanted to tell my ex that I had shared my situation with somebody, but I was waiting for the right moment coz I knew that he has a doubting nature, and he will get angry over me. But my ex really dont bother and brokeup with me, as if he was waiting for this moment, and he did assault me too in our last meeting.

 

Now things went really worse after that, there was confusion everywhere, my parents and others didnot knew a thing that was happening and he went on to tell everybody that I cheated him. I was broken.

 

But it was surely my good luck that the same fellow for whom he left me, came for my rescue and told evreyone that there was no such thing as that moron was rumouring everywhere. He gave me huge emotional support and in the end proposed me for marriage. I was so broken at that time that I accepted his proposal and we got married just 5 months after my breakup.

 

Now the thing is that I am married for a year almost, although I stayed with my hubby for 6 months only, after that I went back to the place where I used to study to complete my studies. and I am here from past 5 months. Now during studies I always goes back in time and started missing my ex coz I used to discuss my studies with him when we were together. I miss him although I knew that he did wrong to me, still I cant help myself. I truely loved him but he never trusted me. I do care and love my hubby for all his kindness but I dont feel it the way I used to when I was with my ex. What to do?

Edited October 26, 2012 by sissy106

[sissy106]

Well seeing the response here I think nobody cares for wat I am going through. And maybe coz I am married to genuinely nice person, but that doesnot mean that I cant miss my ex. Well to be true I am happy to see that nobody responded, coz maybe I am at a better end now. I should forget that moron ex, who made me suffer at the time when he was enjoying in his life. While I was with him in his hardest times of 2 years when he had no career and was uncertain about his future. But as soon as he got a good opportunity he started loosing interest in me. I think time will heal me soon, coz I was not wrong from my side and did all those good things that I was supposed to do as I loved him, but that moron faked me in all those 6 years of his struggle and left me in his good times. Thanks all for letting me share my feelings and making me realise that I should be happy for myself. Just one request please pray for me that I forget that moron asap and could complete my studies on time and show him that he will always be behind me in his career as well as in personnel front, also in terms of happiness.

[sissy106]

I want to share one more thing that I send my ex a poetry on his email id last week from a fake id of mine, as I had little fight with my hubby dat day. In that poetry I first told him that I am sad for what he did to me without knowing my feelings, but next day again I send him a msg in which I told him that I did a mistake by msging him yesterday and that I am happy with my decision and my life and that he will regret for his deeds one day.

 

I am feeling bad for what I did, I should have not contacted him at all, this could have boosted his ego again, but the thing is that we did not had a proper closure, we brokeup with a huge fight and after that never met again. So maybe that's why I always imagine going to him and releasing all my anger on him for whatever he did to me and want to tell him that he will always be a looser in his life. Although my marriage gave a big blow to him, as I got to know this from common friend, but now I am feeling bad coz I msged him and now he might think that he is still there in my mind.

 

How should i get over with this guilt of contacting him again? and also how should I let go the feeling of meeting him for the last time to take out my anger and frustation that he caused me by breaking up with me after 6 years for no reason?

[taya]

Well seeing the response here I think nobody cares for wat I am going through. And maybe coz I am married to genuinely nice person, but that doesnot mean that I cant miss my ex. Well to be true I am happy to see that nobody responded, coz maybe I am at a better end now. I should forget that moron ex, who made me suffer at the time when he was enjoying in his life. While I was with him in his hardest times of 2 years when he had no career and was uncertain about his future. But as soon as he got a good opportunity he started loosing interest in me. I think time will heal me soon, coz I was not wrong from my side and did all those good things that I was supposed to do as I loved him, but that moron faked me in all those 6 years of his struggle and left me in his good times. Thanks all for letting me share my feelings and making me realise that I should be happy for myself. Just one request please pray for me that I forget that moron asap and could complete my studies on time and show him that he will always be behind me in his career as well as in personnel front, also in terms of happiness.

 

 

aww we just dident respond yet but you would have some respond soon but am happy for you starting over and am sorry you going thru this pain and if he treated you like that you better off with out him ..he left so just let him go what gos around will come around hw will get his

[taya]

I want to share one more thing that I send my ex a poetry on his email id last week from a fake id of mine, as I had little fight with my hubby dat day. In that poetry I first told him that I am sad for what he did to me without knowing my feelings, but next day again I send him a msg in which I told him that I did a mistake by msging him yesterday and that I am happy with my decision and my life and that he will regret for his deeds one day.

 

I am feeling bad for what I did, I should have not contacted him at all, this could have boosted his ego again, but the thing is that we did not had a proper closure, we brokeup with a huge fight and after that never met again. So maybe that's why I always imagine going to him and releasing all my anger on him for whatever he did to me and want to tell him that he will always be a looser in his life. Although my marriage gave a big blow to him, as I got to know this from common friend, but now I am feeling bad coz I msged him and now he might think that he is still there in my mind.

 

How should i get over with this guilt of contacting him again? and also how should I let go the feeling of meeting him for the last time to take out my anger and frustation that he caused me by breaking up with me after 6 years for no reason?

 

 

and hun you have a hubby you have to let this ex go right ? beause dont the hubby treat you better then that guy??

[sissy106]

We did not had a proper closure, we brokeup with a huge fight over one thing but we did not discussed anything about our breakup and he just said to me that he is breaking up and that was it and left like that without letting me react to that and after that we never met again.

[taya]

We did not had a proper closure, we brokeup with a huge fight over one thing but we did not discussed anything about our breakup and he just said to me that he is breaking up and that was it and left like that without letting me react to that and after that we never met again.

 

so he left you think about it there is nothing you can do when someone leaves you but just to set them free we cant do nothing but move on with our life i have been there he left it hurted like hell but he dident want me as much as i want him so its better to set him free maybe he will miss me and come back but until then am moving on with my life and keeping my self respect ..he left i dident so am leaving him alone

[sissy106]

Yeah taya, he is definitely a better guy nature wise and he is much like me too, but i married him under some very unusual circumstances. And the thing is that my hubby is also struggling in his career and needs my support and this makes me irritated sometimes, coz I seems to loose faith now. I am filled with insecurity that if again I will put all my efforts to help my hubby in careeer and then if he also leave me like my ex.... then wat will happen. I have grown this kind of insecurity first time in my life and it is very tough to get over it. Moreover I am tired of helping someone in career again and again, as I have no more energy left to boost up somebody's moral. I should be standing with my hubby coz he is going thru tough time, and also coz he is much-much better than my ex but I am not able to do that.

 

So tell me how should I react to this situation..?

[taya]

I want to share one more thing that I send my ex a poetry on his email id last week from a fake id of mine, as I had little fight with my hubby dat day. In that poetry I first told him that I am sad for what he did to me without knowing my feelings, but next day again I send him a msg in which I told him that I did a mistake by msging him yesterday and that I am happy with my decision and my life and that he will regret for his deeds one day.

 

I am feeling bad for what I did, I should have not contacted him at all, this could have boosted his ego again, but the thing is that we did not had a proper closure, we brokeup with a huge fight and after that never met again. So maybe that's why I always imagine going to him and releasing all my anger on him for whatever he did to me and want to tell him that he will always be a looser in his life. Although my marriage gave a big blow to him, as I got to know this from common friend, but now I am feeling bad coz I msged him and now he might think that he is still there in my mind.

 

How should i get over with this guilt of contacting him again? and also how should I let go the feeling of meeting him for the last time to take out my anger and frustation that he caused me by breaking up with me after 6 years for no reason?

 

and dont send him anything more ..move on beacuse THATS WHAT HES DOING HES NOT LOSEING SLEEP OR LIVING IN PAIN OVER YOU

<SO WHY SHOULD YOU OVER HIM>

[sissy106]

Yeah Taya, I wont send him anything, and I'll be strong thanks, but baby I do want to punch his face once, Oh God! plz do that on my behalf, for me and let him hit by a group of ppl But Taya I feel bad coz at present moment me and my hubby both dont have jobs. I left my earlier job as I have to complete my studies and my hubby is still struggling to get permanent job, on the other way I see my ex having fun with all his fellowship and moving around in a new circle of friends and enjoying in new country, whereas I am at the same place with same bunch of friends and over that without any job.

[taya]

Yeah taya, he is definitely a better guy nature wise and he is much like me too, but i married him under some very unusual circumstances. And the thing is that my hubby is also struggling in his career and needs my support and this makes me irritated sometimes, coz I seems to loose faith now. I am filled with insecurity that if again I will put all my efforts to help my hubby in careeer and then if he also leave me like my ex.... then wat will happen. I have grown this kind of insecurity first time in my life and it is very tough to get over it. Moreover I am tired of helping someone in career again and again, as I have no more energy left to boost up somebody's moral. I should be standing with my hubby coz he is going thru tough time, and also coz he is much-much better than my ex but I am not able to do that.

 

So tell me how should I react to this situation..?

 

 

let me tell you somthing that happen to me today i had a ex that i dated a year ago he cheated lie and celled me names tell me the lowest things and walk out on me for another girl this was some one i loved i have help with money and would have done the world for...i finaly left him a year ago and but the table have turn he started texting me like crazy but i never answer telling me hes sorry i naver answer he called me today after not talking to him for one year or reaponding to his tex for one year i answer his call he ask me how i was i say am great i ask him how is was he say he was great then he ask me out to dinner i say to him the reason i answer your call is to tell you the true,,,i forgive you for all that happen but i will never for get am a beautiful and strong woman and young and hot and i will meet a great guy that will treat me with love and respect so no i will not go out with you am happy now and am moving on with my life and no man will treat me like **** again no man then i tell him good bey ...hum if i can be srong to give up on a bad past and move on to a new future so can you start telling your self your worth it stop making others pull you down ...let this ex go now and i mean now if he wanted you he wouldent have left start living a life with your husband and stop thinking he will leave you be confident in your self to knew he wont leave you....stop worring about what others think or will do....tell your self so what if my hubby leaves i will do it on my own

[taya]

Yeah Taya, I wont send him anything, and I'll be strong thanks, but baby I do want to punch his face once, Oh God! plz do that on my behalf, for me and let him hit by a group of ppl But Taya I feel bad coz at present moment me and my hubby both dont have jobs. I left my earlier job as I have to complete my studies and my hubby is still struggling to get permanent job, on the other way I see my ex having fun with all his fellowship and moving around in a new circle of friends and enjoying in new country, whereas I am at the same place with same bunch of friends and over that without any job.

 

 

hun stop watching what the ex is doing . look for your job and get it and start having your fun too stop looking at the ex think about it <HIS HE WATCHING YOU>show him you have moved on to a better man then him ..and am sorry about the job thing am sure you and the hubby will get one soon but i do understand its so hard seeing the ex looking like he having fun without you but he left you remember so show him LIFE GOS ON when people do leave we must set them free we all have our life and decision and the choice to choose what we want...so guess what HE CHOOSE HIS

[sissy106]

,,,i forgive you for all that happen but i will never for get am a beautiful and strong woman and young and hot and i will meet a great guy that will treat me with love and respect so no i will not go out with you am happy now and am moving on with my life and no man will treat me like **** again no man then i tell him good bey ...hum if i can be srong to give up on a bad past and move on to a new future so can you start telling your self your worth it stop making others pull you down

 

Taya, that's really brave of u. I am proud of u gal. Yes I need to get back my old confidence back again (which my ex was always scared of). I knw my hubby is a great guy and I will try my best to support him. I will not let my insecurity (which my ex implanted on me) ruin my wonderfull relation with my hubby. Me and my hubby only lack financial security in our relation and its not a big deal for me coz I am pretty much qualified person, we will pass this time and I pray God to help us. Once we are settled I will be having nothing to look back to, coz my hubby loves me exactly the same way I used to love my ex. I know I will start loving my hubby the same way too... very soon. And then I will be complete, but I am sure that my ex will never gain happiness in his life coz he knows that he did something very wrong in his life.

 

So thanks for talking Taya... and I am happpppyyyy to meet a brave gal like u... kudos!

[sissy106]

Woof....sorry for myself. Ok I make a promise today to myself and u taya that I will never peep into his account again, coz thats pretty much the reason for all my sufferings. So I promise today.... I will never ever care for him again...damn him...I was too good for him and thats why I am not with him anymore. I will remain strong in future watever comes coz I have overcome the biggest blow in my life, so now I can take on any difficulty that comes my way now on.....

 

And still if I feel low anyday I will come here and talk about it and will get over it....

 

Till then Stay Strong, Stay Happy.... me and all !

[taya]

Taya, that's really brave of u. I am proud of u gal. Yes I need to get back my old confidence back again (which my ex was always scared of). I knw my hubby is a great guy and I will try my best to support him. I will not let my insecurity (which my ex implanted on me) ruin my wonderfull relation with my hubby. Me and my hubby only lack financial security in our relation and its not a big deal for me coz I am pretty much qualified person, we will pass this time and I pray God to help us. Once we are settled I will be having nothing to look back to, coz my hubby loves me exactly the same way I used to love my ex. I know I will start loving my hubby the same way too... very soon. And then I will be complete, but I am sure that my ex will never gain happiness in his life coz he knows that he did something very wrong in his life.

 

So thanks for talking Taya... and I am happpppyyyy to meet a brave gal like u... kudos!

 

your welcome and yes support your hubby and move on from a bad past move on from a bad guy ..wish your ex well and move on thats what i did beacuse i refuse to have him make me have hate in my heart i havent always been this brave or stong i was once weak so weak i have lost all my self respect but one day i realize life is too short to live my life like this i want before i die i can look back and say yes taya you have life a great life girl you sure have ...i dont want to look back and see all i did is live in pain and having people walk all over me ...the past few weeks have not been great for me the new guy i have been talking to tell me he needs to fugure stuff out and he cant see me any more until he did am not going to lie it hurted and i did cry but i pick my self up and i havent call or text him for the past few days i will leave him alone he knows my number i will only talk to him if he calls or text me from now on . if he comes back great but if he dosent its all good beacaus am already moving on and i know i will find someone new thats not a problem at alll so am doing great

[taya]

Woof....sorry for myself. Ok I make a promise today to myself and u taya that I will never peep into his account again, coz thats pretty much the reason for all my sufferings. So I promise today.... I will never ever care for him again...damn him...I was too good for him and thats why I am not with him anymore. I will remain strong in future watever comes coz I have overcome the biggest blow in my life, so now I can take on any difficulty that comes my way now on.....

 

And still if I feel low anyday I will come here and talk about it and will get over it....

 

Till then Stay Strong, Stay Happy.... me and all !

 

 

for sure girl let him go <BEACUSE HE HAS LET YOU GO you go> he has made his choice and chose his road so let him walk it

[sissy106]

your welcome and yes support your hubby and move on from a bad past move on from a bad guy ..wish your ex well and move on thats what i did beacuse i refuse to have him make me have hate in my heart i havent always been this brave or stong i was once weak so weak i have lost all my self respect but one day i realize life is too short to live my life like this i want before i die i can look back and say yes taya you have life a great life girl you sure have ...i dont want to look back and see all i did is live in pain and having people walk all over me ...the past few weeks have not been great for me the new guy i have been talking to tell me he needs to fugure stuff out and he cant see me any more until he did am not going to lie it hurted and i did cry but i pick my self up and i havent call or text him for the past few days i will leave him alone he knows my number i will only talk to him if he calls or text me from now on . if he comes back great but if he dosent its all good beacaus am already moving on and i know i will find someone new thats not a problem at alll so am doing great

 

I know exactly how u might be feeling taya, it takes lots of courage to let go the one u loved, especially when he tried to come back, coz that happened with me too. But everything happens for good. All these are life lessons. We should learn from each and everything that happens to us and also in our surroundings. If we take everything in our life as an experience and try to improve from our mistakes and remember all the good things of past, then maybe we can live a much better life. I know its easy to say and hard to do... but take life as it comes, dont expect from anybody, take everything that happens as life lessons and keep on moving. Afterall the one who lives to tell his story is the one who has really lived it.

 

Dont worry bout the present man u were dating, I knw u might be feeling lonely and sad, but stay as u are... dont expect anything, if he calls thats good and if doesnot then also its good, coz ultimately u should be with that person only who understands u without ur explaining anything to him and even loves u more than you love him and that one can only never let u feel like this... Till then take everything as life lessons... Also, from time to time try to engage urself in some social activities...thats the best way to feel satisfied and to feel that u are not spending time like this only... Try to help the needy (like the way u helped me today ) I tell u one thing: ENGAGE IN GOOD WORKS, U WILL FIND SOME GOOD PEOPLE THERE, and maybe who knows U FIND A REALLY NICE PERSON, coz NICE PEOPLE CAN ONLY BE FOUND AT NICE PLACES..... So go on and dont sit back here.....

[taya]

I know exactly how u might be feeling taya, it takes lots of courage to let go the one u loved, especially when he tried to come back, coz that happened with me too. But everything happens for good. All these are life lessons. We should learn from each and everything that happens to us and also in our surroundings. If we take everything in our life as an experience and try to improve from our mistakes and remember all the good things of past, then maybe we can live a much better life. I know its easy to say and hard to do... but take life as it comes, dont expect from anybody, take everything that happens as life lessons and keep on moving. Afterall the one who lives to tell his story is the one who has really lived it.

 

Dont worry bout the present man u were dating, I knw u might be feeling lonely and sad, but stay as u are... dont expect anything, if he calls thats good and if doesnot then also its good, coz ultimately u should be with that person only who understands u without ur explaining anything to him and even loves u more than you love him and that one can only never let u feel like this... Till then take everything as life lessons... Also, from time to time try to engage urself in some social activities...thats the best way to feel satisfied and to feel that u are not spending time like this only... Try to help the needy (like the way u helped me today ) I tell u one thing: ENGAGE IN GOOD WORKS, U WILL FIND SOME GOOD PEOPLE THERE, and maybe who knows U FIND A REALLY NICE PERSON, coz NICE PEOPLE CAN ONLY BE FOUND AT NICE PLACES..... So go on and dont sit back here.....

 

but for sure... i wont lie in the back of my head i do think about it but i can say its not at all taking over my life see i have learn in the past to never make a man make you lose it or make me lose my self respect first have all hes the one that say he cant see me anymore beacuse he need to go figure out what he wants . so that show me i dont mean the world to him ..me knowing that make me even more trying to move on now i havent talk to him in 4 days and normally i would text him but girl i sure wont and yes am not sitting down thinking of him, tonight me and one of my friend me and her will be hanging out at a few places and i know i will get a few guys trying to talk to me and if i meet one i like i sure will be passing on my number hahahaha you get my point ..but no no no am not sitting down stressing my self in pain making him the center of my life ...<IS HE DOING that OVER ME > NO ...if he come back i will talk to him again beacuse he is a good guy and have treated me good and have show me much respect ...and i know he would be a great partner for me and i can say for sure i love him but if he dont i will move on and sure will find someone new that share the same love i have for them....you know why am so strong even tho this as happen to me beacuse I LOVE MY SELF MORE THEN I LOVE HIM TO NO IF HE DONT RETURN I WILL BE OK:D

Edited October 27, 2012 by taya

[taya]

I know exactly how u might be feeling taya, it takes lots of courage to let go the one u loved, especially when he tried to come back, coz that happened with me too. But everything happens for good. All these are life lessons. We should learn from each and everything that happens to us and also in our surroundings. If we take everything in our life as an experience and try to improve from our mistakes and remember all the good things of past, then maybe we can live a much better life. I know its easy to say and hard to do... but take life as it comes, dont expect from anybody, take everything that happens as life lessons and keep on moving. Afterall the one who lives to tell his story is the one who has really lived it.

 

and yes i did let go of the ex i tell you called me yesterday i know beep down hes not the man i want or will be the man i want to married or have my future kids call dad i forgive him and i dont hate him but i will never for get what he has done and all the dirty stuff he have said to me ...so i let him go beacuse hes not what i want.. SOME STUFF CAN BE FIXS BUT SOME CANNOT

[sissy106]

Dats a great plan taya... have fun Let ur good guy come for good girl like u... Keep loving urself gal... U Rock!

[taya]

Dats a great plan taya... have fun Let ur good guy come for good girl like u... Keep loving urself gal... U Rock!

 

 

thanks and so do you girl always remember that ....and whenever your ever in pain or stressing over a man or just giveing up on your life beause he left you or whatever it mabe think about this <HIS HE IN PAIN OR STRESSING OVER YOU > NO < SO WHY SHOULD YOU > love your self first then a man after BEACUSE <THATS WHAT HES DOING >making him self first then you after

[sissy106]

Dear Taya, time will heal all hurts...

 

Although I also msgd my ex one month before my marriage that I have forgiven him for his sins but I still had something stuck in me coz I did not get chance to argue with him or keep my points in front of him, or to ask him why he did this to me, or even to tell him face to face that he is really a loser and a bad person.

 

But I think he never contacted me after abrupt breakup coz he knew that he could not argue with me and he had no reasons to leave me except for that he himself proved to be an unfaithfull person to me.

 

Anyways, earlier I was thinking that I want a chance for closure, but now I feel that its good that we did not argue coz it might have hurted me more to know from him all the shiit reasons that he would have made up.

[sissy106]

thanks and so do you girl always remember that ....and whenever your ever in pain or stressing over a man or just giveing up on your life beause he left you or whatever it mabe think about this <HIS HE IN PAIN OR STRESSING OVER YOU > NO < SO WHY SHOULD YOU > love your self first then a man after BEACUSE <THATS WHAT HES DOING >making him self first then you after

 

Yeah gal, I will remember all ur words to heart. Enjoy ur weekend today

[taya]

Dear Taya, time will heal all hurts...

 

Although I also msgd my ex one month before my marriage that I have forgiven him for his sins but I still had something stuck in me coz I did not get chance to argue with him or keep my points in front of him, or to ask him why he did this to me, or even to tell him face to face that he is really a loser and a bad person.

 

But I think he never contacted me after abrupt breakup coz he knew that he could not argue with me and he had no reasons to leave me except for that he himself proved to be an unfaithfull person to me.

 

Anyways, earlier I was thinking that I want a chance for closure, but now I feel that its good that we did not argue coz it might have hurted me more to know from him all the shiit reasons that he would have made up.

 

yeah you dont need know closure from him girl the closure is that he left you and moved on so nothing he will ever say would or could tell you more then his action...action speak louder then words ..he moved on and so will you .. the crazy thing is he may look happy now by looking at his pics but you never know what is really going on in his life right now people are not always as great as they seem so dont beat your self up thats hes happy bacuse he may not be i was thinking my ex was happy when he left me for that girl last year then a month after he came running back to me and he had put her up on his face book they looking all happy but his ass came running back to me lol and i took him back like a fool but like i say i was weak very weak back then, but life is a lession you live and learn all the bad stuff that ever happen to me they have made me the woman i am today ..i still have alot to learn beacuse i still see stuff in self i need to fixs but am teaching my self everday to learn to be ok no mattter what, am teaching my self everday to be stronger and a more confident woman

Edited October 27, 2012 by taya

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yeah you dont need know closure from him girl the closure is that he left you and moved on so nothing he will ever say would or could tell you more then his action...action speak louder then words ..he moved on and so will you .. the crazy thing is he may look happy now by looking at his pics but you never know what is really going on in his life right now people are not always as great as they seem so dont beat your self up thats hes happy bacuse he may not be i was thinking my ex was happy when he left me for that girl last year then a month after he came running back to me and he had put her up on his face book they looking all happy but his ass came running back to me lol and i took him back like a fool but like i say i was weak very weak back then, but life is a lession you live and learn all the bad stuff that ever happen to me they have made me the woman i am today ..i still have alot to learn beacuse i still see stuff in self i need to fixs but am teaching my self everday to learn to be ok no mattter what, am teaching my self everday to be stronger and a more confident woman

 

Hey Taya yup closure is that he left me and yes I know I am also moving on. Time is the greatest healer and I am feeling it too. These situations that we go tru definitely make us stronger person. I read this quote today :

 

"Holding resentment is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die" ............Closure will come from within you. No answer to a question will suffice.. .there will always be more. ..and what does it matter anyway? Its over. Just forgive, let go, move on. Don't dwell on the past. That is the meaning of this quote.

 

Also one thing I would like to share with u that I am feeling this now that why our parents used to say that wish they could be child again... coz they have gone thru all these things...these things have been going on from forever...So, its like that we have just started our real Journey to this world which in reality is cruel and yet beautiful. One need to pick up in which side he or she wants to live, so be optimistic......