Disenchantedly Yours Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 (edited) But truthfully I didn't find any of them attractive. And some of these younger women don't find you attractive. Which is why they don't want to date you. Edited October 28, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator fixed code 3
Disenchantedly Yours Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 Its a physologocal/metal/emotional fact! Woman are about 10 years more emotionally/mentally/psycholocially MORE mature than men there own same age. If a 29 year old woman is more mature than a 29 year old man, something is realy wrong. It is true that girls mature emotionally faster when they are teenagers through their early 20s. But when we are full grown adults, it should even out. When we get past 25, if a guy isn't as mature as a woman his own age, something is off about that guy's maturity level. 1
xxoo Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 It's kind of true. Like the thread that Ross made where he wants to date younger because he doesn't feel like he is at the same level as women his own age. I suspect that alot of guys feel the same way. So they date younger because they can feel superior. I see that happening IRL sometimes, too. If a 29 year old woman is more mature than a 29 year old man, something is realy wrong. It is true that girls mature emotionally faster when they are teenagers through their early 20s. But when we are full grown adults, it should even out. When we get past 25, if a guy isn't as mature as a woman his own age, something is off about that guy's maturity level. How would that work, though? How would they men "catch up" in such a short period of time? I think it continues. Women are ready to settle down in the late 20s, men in early/mid 30s. Women desire parenthood before men, and so on.
mesmerized Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 I see that happening IRL sometimes, too. How would that work, though? How would they men "catch up" in such a short period of time? I think it continues. Women are ready to settle down in the late 20s, men in early/mid 30s. Women desire parenthood before men, and so on. This is one of the biggest misconceptions of our time. In fact it boggles my mind how people so easily believe in it. Look, the only reason women desire parenthood faster is that they know they dont have all the time in the world. Tell women they can have kids till their 70s and tell men they only have time before their forties and see what happens. Women are NOT more mature than men in their mid late twenties and up. They desire settling down because they have to, period.
xxoo Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 This is one of the biggest misconceptions of our time. In fact it boggles my mind how people so easily believe in it. Look, the only reason women desire parenthood faster is that they know they dont have all the time in the world. Tell women they can have kids till their 70s and tell men they only have time before their forties and see what happens. Women are NOT more mature than men in their mid late twenties and up. They desire settling down because they have to, period. And that is why women mature faster: physical realities. Isn't this circular logic? It's true that men can have healthier babies at younger ages, but the thought of getting a woman pregnant at age 40 can be less scary (because he's readier, mentally and financially), that it is for a woman to get pregnant at age 40. It is MUCH easier to carry and deliver a child at 25 than 35 or 45. Men simply don't have that concern. Women are more likely to throw caution to the wind about finances and giving up freedoms because they don't want to go through pregnancy at 40!
Anela Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 Its a physologocal/metal/emotional fact! Woman are about 10 years more emotionally/mentally/psycholocially MORE mature than men there own same age. I've met men who are 20+ years older than me, who are less mature than younger men I've known. Another guy got into drugs and the partying lifestyle when he was 35. So that isn't always true.
angie2443 Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 And that is why women mature faster: physical realities. Isn't this circular logic? No. At least, not in my opinion. Having children and getting married does not equal maturity. Sadly, it does not always cause people to grow up either. I've known some terrible parents who party away like teenagers while their kids are left with littlle to no guidance. I've also known many teenage girls when I was in high school who hooked with older men. The man often wanted to get them pregnant to tie the girls down. The girls more often than not came from poor families or abusive homes. They wanted to escape their homes and desperately wanted someone to love them back. This did not make for healthy relationships. This often set up a power imbalance, especially after the baby came. I've known a lot of girls who resented getting tied down at such a young age and did not have the experience to take the best of their children. I know that sometimes having children young and getting married really do help a person grow and sometimes very young women are mature enough to go from highschool to settling down without missing that exploration time that helps most of us mature. I've seen far more cases, though, where young women are just as immature as the guys their age were. 1
xxoo Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 No. At least, not in my opinion. Having children and getting married does not equal maturity. Sadly, it does not always cause people to grow up either. I've known some terrible parents who party away like teenagers while their kids are left with littlle to no guidance. I've also known many teenage girls when I was in high school who hooked with older men. The man often wanted to get them pregnant to tie the girls down. The girls more often than not came from poor families or abusive homes. They wanted to escape their homes and desperately wanted someone to love them back. This did not make for healthy relationships. This often set up a power imbalance, especially after the baby came. I've known a lot of girls who resented getting tied down at such a young age and did not have the experience to take the best of their children. I know that sometimes having children young and getting married really do help a person grow and sometimes very young women are mature enough to go from highschool to settling down without missing that exploration time that helps most of us mature. I've seen far more cases, though, where young women are just as immature as the guys their age were. My point was that it may be common for women to feel ready to start a family in their late 20s, while men still don't feel ready at that age--and that doesn't mean the man has a maturity issue. I wasn't speaking about young people having babies at truly immature ages.
Negative Nancy Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 It's kind of true. Like the thread that Ross made where he wants to date younger because he doesn't feel like he is at the same level as women his own age. I suspect that alot of guys feel the same way. So they date younger because they can feel superior. no, i think it's about youth and attractiveness, as usual with men 1
mesmerized Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 My point was that it may be common for women to feel ready to start a family in their late 20s, while men still don't feel ready at that age--and that doesn't mean the man has a maturity issue. I wasn't speaking about young people having babies at truly immature ages. We are talking about maturity and My point was wanting to have a baby does not equal maturity. In womens case we are just victims of circumstances. Its not that we are "ready" for having a family its that we have no other choice.
xxoo Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 We are talking about maturity and My point was wanting to have a baby does not equal maturity. In womens case we are just victims of circumstances. Its not that we are "ready" for having a family its that we have no other choice. Wanting a baby does not equal maturity, but feeling ready for a baby (prepared for that stage of life) may indicate maturity--ready to sacrifice, settle down, etc. You don't think that women tire of dating around before men in general?
mesmerized Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 Wanting a baby does not equal maturity, but feeling ready for a baby (prepared for that stage of life) may indicate maturity--ready to sacrifice, settle down, etc. You don't think that women tire of dating around before men in general? Depends on the woman. You also have to realize that women get labelled if they "date around" and its not really seen as a positive thing for them by the society. Again, we feel like we have to settle for the sake of our reputation and the intense pressure we are under. Why do you think a good chunk of women cheat nowadays? If we are oh so mature whats the need to get ourselves in a relationship but then cheat? Not to mention the constant attention seeking That a lot of women have. Give women the real freedom that men have and observe the results. You'd be surprised.
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