road Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 This whole thread would be pointless if the BH never left his home or kids until the divorce is final. BH's never leave your home or bed. WW is not happy then she can leave.
standtall Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 (edited) Own up to what you are. False advertising is not permitted. And what is that? A happily married, Christian father of 3 who goes on this forum to help strengthen my marriage by learning from the devastation of others. But I am sure that you can figure out a way to attack that...maybe you'll try to convince me my kids are not mine or something. And here I am debating with an angry, bitter, betrayed one who is not very objective...who immediately wants to talk the OP into destroying what is left of his family just so he can join you in misery. The objective here was trying to help the OP figure out a way to get his kids better supervised and perhaps convince his ex into some better parenting without the OM's presence, not to turn his children against his ex for pure hateful, vengeance purposes. My last advice to darkside..is run from this thread now..run. By the way it looks, he has already. I'm going to join him. Edited October 28, 2012 by standtall
BeholdtheMan Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 (edited) At first I was shocked, angry and saddened. I eventually told her I forgave her.Your first mistake. You forgave her with zero consequences. She probably viewed you as a doormat from that point onward (if she hadn't formed that view already) She wants to be friends with me for the kids sake and finds nothing wrong with dating him.It's very hard to be friends with someone who doesn't respect you at all (your wife). You can be neutral and calm with her...but "friends" is a bit of a stretch as clearly this woman has zero respect for you. I finally broke down and said that he can come around the house if the kids choose it's ok, so that an adult presence will be there.Grow a backbone...all your actions so far have telegraphed weakness to your wife What do I do?Start acting like a man, start setting rules. If your wife insists on playing hard-ball...oblige otherwise she'll continue treating you like an emasculated doormat Edited October 29, 2012 by BeholdtheMan 1
standtall Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Start acting like a man, start setting rules. If your wife insists on playing hard-ball...oblige otherwise she'll continue treating you like an emasculated doormat OP, I agree with the what behold says in his post, but I am not sure if she is playing hardball yet. IMHO, hardball is when she impedes your access to the kids, and thus far she has not done that. However, when she does, take the gloves off...at that point you will have nothing to lose.
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