jesslm_x0 Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 ask for money from your boyfriend? Basically, I'm 21 and full time college student. I work as many hours as I can which is only about 6 a week because I'm a chemistry major and am in class until 5 every day because of lab. Anyways, my job coupled with my monthly checks from a scholarship I received is all the money I have to live on. I pay my own bills, rent, etc. Well, things haven't been too tight lately, but an $1100 bombshell was thrown on me when I went to get my car inspected. So now, I'm beyond broke. I usually go and see my boyfriend every weekend because we live about 30 minutes apart, but I can't afford to drive to his town every weekend now. He is completely understanding and said he is more than happy to pay for my gas now. He offered more or less, but I still feel so..tacky? I hate feeling needy, but I want to see him. Also, since I'm doing the driving and have been paying for all my gas up until now I feel that him paying is fair. Do you all agree? Just so you all know, the reason he doesn't come here is because my school is in the middle of nowhere. There is nothing to do here and I would much rather stay at his place simply for the convenience of having things to do.
Jamesblame Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 Haha, my ex asks me for money. That's tacky! Asking a partner for money is something you want to avoid. Because they don't have a polite way of saying no. So you pigeonhole them into giving you money. If youre living together though... then you start to share expenses.
todreaminblue Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 ask for money from your boyfriend? Basically, I'm 21 and full time college student. I work as many hours as I can which is only about 6 a week because I'm a chemistry major and am in class until 5 every day because of lab. Anyways, my job coupled with my monthly checks from a scholarship I received is all the money I have to live on. I pay my own bills, rent, etc. Well, things haven't been too tight lately, but an $1100 bombshell was thrown on me when I went to get my car inspected. So now, I'm beyond broke. I usually go and see my boyfriend every weekend because we live about 30 minutes apart, but I can't afford to drive to his town every weekend now. He is completely understanding and said he is more than happy to pay for my gas now. He offered more or less, but I still feel so..tacky? I hate feeling needy, but I want to see him. Also, since I'm doing the driving and have been paying for all my gas up until now I feel that him paying is fair. Do you all agree? Just so you all know, the reason he doesn't come here is because my school is in the middle of nowhere. There is nothing to do here and I would much rather stay at his place simply for the convenience of having things to do. its not something i like to do, I like to pay my own way....if i cant afford to do something i normally just dont do it.....find something free to do ..... i think it isnt tacky....its just my hang ups not anyone else's fault and if your bf offered and you love him take his offer if you want to see him and there is no other way....i don't accept money but when i was in the navy i paid for a guy i was dating to fly down and see me he wanted to leave where he was living i also organised a job for him to come down too......i was hyper so it wasnt really any effort...........deb
hinatticus Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 I think there is a time and place for everything. If your bf is understanding of your situation and he offered I don't think it's tacky. Maybe if you had an opportunity to work, yet you didn't and then asked for an allowance, that would be tacky. My ex asked me for money, like 200 bucks, but we share a child so I'm kinda obligated to give her money. I help her out any way I can and sometimes money comes into play.
dasein Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 It's OK if he wants to pitch in on gas. Having you come to him is not only a matter of expense but convenience. So long as he isn't paying for lots of expensive activities, meals, drinks etc., in addition to the gas. Maybe let him fill up your gas tank when you show up rather than just give you cash.
tigressA Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 Well, you aren't really asking--he offered. Take him up on it and don't feel guilty, and also make sure he knows you appreciate the gesture.
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