Begging and Pleading

[blue_jay_bird]

I don't think i begged and pleaded. Well not that much. When being dumped out of the blue, i did the whole but we can work on things, 7 years and you don't even want to try.

 

Then we met one last time and i said "only contact me if you want a second chance." he said "no that won't happen it's over" crying more crying...

 

That was the extent of my begging. Looking back it looks pathetic. but i think i didn't do too bad.

 

What was your begging story? How much? What did the ex say?

[NoMoreJerks]

I feel so low when I think about my break-up and the amount of begging I did. I did it multiple times, in fact, because my ex threatened to break up with me multiple times. I think he was bluffing both times, though, and was using it to blackmail me because he knew I was attached to him and wouldn't wanna lose him.

 

I begged and pleaded, and said I would do anything he wanted me to do. I asked for a second chance, and promised him that I will do a threesome (which he was demanding of me). UGH. I did this TWICE. Same thing TWICE. I must be really retarded. Anyhow, the second time he did that, and I begged and pleaded, he backed down and said ok, just give me some space, I don't want to think about you all the time and call you all the time (by that he meant, call me once a week). Then he asked me to promise him that I would arrange a threesome for him, with another girl.. I promised him I would. Then I said, can I call you now, will you pick up the phone? (this was over text, and when I tried to call him during this break-up talk, he didn't pick up the phone). He said no, he had to go out and get some stuff from the store. I was so mad at that point. Really pissed me off that he treated me like crap, and on top of that, wouldn't even give me the chance to talk to him after he upset me so much. So I said ok, and he left. When he got back, I had left him a nice break-up mssg via text, saying that I had had enough of his crappy treatment, that I deserved better, and refused to be treated like that. That all he wanted from me was a threesome, and that he was not the right person for me. At first, he responded and said, you're right, take care of yourself. Then, an hour later, he sent me another text, saying, I wasn't fair to him with my comments, but he understood why I said them, and that I deserved better. He then said, "maybe see you around?" I didn't reply. A week later, he texted me. Again, I did not reply. Then he called me, and I picked up, and he wanted to see if we could be "friends." And then the conversation quickly went to, wanting to be more than friends. So gave him another chance.. then he ****ed up again, and I went NC without telling him anything.

[NavyAirTraffic]

I started writing my story but it only made me relive the whole incident. I never begged but I don't want to rehash bad feelings right now. Think before you start typing, "do you really want to go there again?"

[mishy]

I feel so low when I think about my break-up and the amount of begging I did. I did it multiple times, in fact, because my ex threatened to break up with me multiple times. I think he was bluffing both times, though, and was using it to blackmail me because he knew I was attached to him and wouldn't wanna lose him.

 

I begged and pleaded, and said I would do anything he wanted me to do. I asked for a second chance, and promised him that I will do a threesome (which he was demanding of me). UGH. I did this TWICE. Same thing TWICE. I must be really retarded. Anyhow, the second time he did that, and I begged and pleaded, he backed down and said ok, just give me some space, I don't want to think about you all the time and call you all the time (by that he meant, call me once a week). Then he asked me to promise him that I would arrange a threesome for him, with another girl.. I promised him I would. Then I said, can I call you now, will you pick up the phone? (this was over text, and when I tried to call him during this break-up talk, he didn't pick up the phone). He said no, he had to go out and get some stuff from the store. I was so mad at that point. Really pissed me off that he treated me like crap, and on top of that, wouldn't even give me the chance to talk to him after he upset me so much. So I said ok, and he left. When he got back, I had left him a nice break-up mssg via text, saying that I had had enough of his crappy treatment, that I deserved better, and refused to be treated like that. That all he wanted from me was a threesome, and that he was not the right person for me. At first, he responded and said, you're right, take care of yourself. Then, an hour later, he sent me another text, saying, I wasn't fair to him with my comments, but he understood why I said them, and that I deserved better. He then said, "maybe see you around?" I didn't reply. A week later, he texted me. Again, I did not reply. Then he called me, and I picked up, and he wanted to see if we could be "friends." And then the conversation quickly went to, wanting to be more than friends. So gave him another chance.. then he ****ed up again, and I went NC without telling him anything.

 

what an absolute maggot!!! demanding a threesome, thats low.

[NoMoreJerks]

what an absolute maggot!!! demanding a threesome, thats low.

Yup. I was really pathetic in the way I dealt with it, though. I feel so low when I think about it. I mean, the fact that he didn't want to talk to me after he gave me a second chance, pissed me off more than his demands for a threesome outraged me... My self-respect was pretty much non-existent by that point. UGH. Still can't believe I let him treat me like that and that I begged him TWICE.

[suladas]

A week after the BU I sent quite a long text but the summary was asking about trying things again, realizing I screwed up in a few things and would work on it. She responded right away saying she'd think about it, this reponse really left me wondering for so long, to this day I have no idea why she sent that text and never anything else. She couldn't of did it just to be nice, but if it was sincere why not respond again? Seen her in person 2 times after that but we both just simply said Hi nothing more(I didn't want to mix being neighbors with it and make her think if we seen each other outside i'd try and force her to speak to me), that is nearly 3 months now and hasn't responded to a text since. Then after that I sent a few more texts in the next month or so just asking if she wanted to talk. About 2 months ago seen her she got a new job on FB so sent a friendly text about it, got nothing. Then about a month ago deleted her off FB and sent a message saying I didn't want to see her facebook anymore and she made it clear she doesn't want to talk to me.

 

I never really begged, but at the same time I think I gave her the impression that I was willing to just take her back and try things again, which I wasn't she had messed up just as much as me and needed to work on things to. If anything, she had much more to work on and more important things then me.

 

That is why not texting her again now is so easy. Nothing I can say will change anything, it's all on her.

[suladas]

Yup. I was really pathetic in the way I dealt with it, though. I feel so low when I think about it. I mean, the fact that he didn't want to talk to me after he gave me a second chance, pissed me off more than his demands for a threesome outraged me... My self-respect was pretty much non-existent by that point. UGH. Still can't believe I let him treat me like that and that I begged him TWICE.

 

I feel so bad for you for what happened. He's such a douche and treated you like crap.

[robaday]

Didnt beg for her, it was mutual breakup, and she wasnt prepared to give me what I needed.

 

I simply said, Ill miss you and you were my best friend and wished her the best. She didnt take that well at all and proceeded to block me on everything! But hey, you win some you lose some!

[mishy]

Yup. I was really pathetic in the way I dealt with it, though. I feel so low when I think about it. I mean, the fact that he didn't want to talk to me after he gave me a second chance, pissed me off more than his demands for a threesome outraged me... My self-respect was pretty much non-existent by that point. UGH. Still can't believe I let him treat me like that and that I begged him TWICE.

 

believe me i know how you feel

 

these guys drag your self esteem down so low that theres no way of getting it back until you are RID of them

 

it doesnt get better with these men, it just gets worse.

 

he really sounds like a bogan

 

fyi http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bogan

[taya]

I feel so low when I think about my break-up and the amount of begging I did. I did it multiple times, in fact, because my ex threatened to break up with me multiple times. I think he was bluffing both times, though, and was using it to blackmail me because he knew I was attached to him and wouldn't wanna lose him.

 

I begged and pleaded, and said I would do anything he wanted me to do. I asked for a second chance, and promised him that I will do a threesome (which he was demanding of me). UGH. I did this TWICE. Same thing TWICE. I must be really retarded. Anyhow, the second time he did that, and I begged and pleaded, he backed down and said ok, just give me some space, I don't want to think about you all the time and call you all the time (by that he meant, call me once a week). Then he asked me to promise him that I would arrange a threesome for him, with another girl.. I promised him I would. Then I said, can I call you now, will you pick up the phone? (this was over text, and when I tried to call him during this break-up talk, he didn't pick up the phone). He said no, he had to go out and get some stuff from the store. I was so mad at that point. Really pissed me off that he treated me like crap, and on top of that, wouldn't even give me the chance to talk to him after he upset me so much. So I said ok, and he left. When he got back, I had left him a nice break-up mssg via text, saying that I had had enough of his crappy treatment, that I deserved better, and refused to be treated like that. That all he wanted from me was a threesome, and that he was not the right person for me. At first, he responded and said, you're right, take care of yourself. Then, an hour later, he sent me another text, saying, I wasn't fair to him with my comments, but he understood why I said them, and that I deserved better. He then said, "maybe see you around?" I didn't reply. A week later, he texted me. Again, I did not reply. Then he called me, and I picked up, and he wanted to see if we could be "friends." And then the conversation quickly went to, wanting to be more than friends. So gave him another chance.. then he ****ed up again, and I went NC without telling him anything.

 

 

 

omg reading this i had tears in my eyes this guy is no no no good omg a dog and i mean a dog plz tell me your done with him???he treated you like you were nothing dont ever in your life talk to him again some relationship can be fixs but this one cannot be he his a dirty mother ****er omg plz tell me you dont talk to him any more?

[ponette]

begging and pleading...way to kick yourself when you're down.

[witmadskilllz]

The one thing I learned from begging and pleading is that the moment you are dumped for good, you'd do anything to mend/fix the relationship without realizing the problems within. You can't say you would do 'anything' and change to be perfect 10/10. It ain't happening, or not for long until you'll revert back to your usual self.

 

Anyhoo, so my ex replied with a 'I'll think about it' but I think she was already committed in breaking up with me. But I haven't stopped trying to get her back, I even wrote a final letter and yeah... that didn't turn out well, she ended up deleting/blocking all contacts and told me not to contact her ever again. Then she proceeds on dating her old high school friend and ends up in a long term relationship. Good for them I suppose and moving on for me hasn't been easy but without any false hope in the way, it gets better with knowing the truth.

[Simon Phoenix]

Didn't beg at all for this last one. I tried to get her to see me a few times via text and phone, but nothing overly frequent or dominating. Didn't beg though. Thought about it, but couldn't do it and glad I didn't. The first girl that broke up with me when I was 18 (I had always been the dumper before that) whoa boy, I had no dignity. I called, I emailed, I pleaded, I begged, I didn't whatever it took. And made an ass out of myself.

[Eternal Sunshine]

I never begged or pleaded, in many ways I was relieved that my LTR was over. I am not the begging type, I tend to cry when I am alone at home.

 

I just withdrew into myself and told him "Yep, OK, I agree, it's over". I started getting pragmatic and trying to organize times to get my things etc. He got annoyed that I was so cold and tried to provoke me with character assassinations that weren't even true. I kept repeating "It is not important what you think of me anymore, it's over, let's just get on with me moving out". He got even more annoyed and kept saying over and over again things about myself that he knows will get to me.

 

I snapped and told him that he was the worst lover I ever had, that I faked it every time and that his d... was too small and I was never quite satisfied:o That his parents are the most disgusting, narrow minded and unintelligent people I have ever met, and that I hated them from the first moment I met them.

 

All true but he brought it on on himself. Still no pleading, just some mega nastiness.

[Sasu]

Is begging and pleading like have double standards ?

 

when my ex cheated on me once but when i found out ,she begged me to take her back and she won't do it again , my heart melted and i did so , but when she started dating again new guys ,asking me to give her space & even made plans to marry one of em,i begged like a stupid,crying to her on ph for hour at times,telling her how much i have loved her always and will do anything again to get her back,her response was like stop crying and she can't do anything,sorry -cuts call - ,

Ultimately i had to put up with everything in hopes she'll appreciate how much i love her but instead got treated like some love sick kiddo always.

All the anger used to come down on me for her mood changes ( probably coz of her family and other coz of her guys cheated her as she broke up with em callling em jerks )

 

Love makes ppl blind,don't know what was i thinking,won't understand why im still in love with her and waiting for her to become normal again,maybe as she was my first love and loved me big deal despite of everything.

Edited October 26, 2012 by Sasu

[todreaminblue]

I don't think i begged and pleaded. Well not that much. When being dumped out of the blue, i did the whole but we can work on things, 7 years and you don't even want to try.

 

Then we met one last time and i said "only contact me if you want a second chance." he said "no that won't happen it's over" crying more crying...

 

That was the extent of my begging. Looking back it looks pathetic. but i think i didn't do too bad.

 

What was your begging story? How much? What did the ex say?

 

 

 

i feel for you it must have been hard for you....i asked once to work it out then he said what he had to say and we were finished......i refused to tell the kids i was to numb i made him tell them...it was messy horrible lethal to a whole family and it was meant to happen....everything happens for a reason bad or good...i am happier now than i was with him........sad to say ....we had some good times....but there was a lot of things that happened that were not good for me.....

 

this is what a horrible messy break up with cruel and vicious retorts has taught me

 

number one i am a person who can love unconditionally

i will survive things that get thrown at me from any direction

that good only is sweet when you know what bad tastes like

that somewhere in my future, i will find someone who loves me like i deserve to be loved, because he ended it with me i am free to find a guy who isnt like him

strengthened my belief in marriage

made me a fighter.....again

that i can stand on my own two feet alone

that i can be both a mum and a dad and live through the failures and rejoice so completely with the successes

 

that i can actually have feelings for someone else besides my ex......i never thought i would....and i do....so YAAAAAAAAY THANKYOU EX.....for setting me free thankyou for all your snide comments and thankyou for apologising and admitting you stuffed up...we can maintain civility for the girls and i am or try to be as courteous as i can as does he........and life goes on......love is possible for me because he stuffed up and I was meant to be free from that relationship.....best wishes to you .....dont rehash ....rejoice.......deb

[blue_jay_bird]

Sometime i regret not trying to get him back, (i guess that would be begging)..well its never to late to, ask, (gah i can't imagine doing this,.. he would just shoot me down)

 

I thought my indifference would bring him back, but it's really to keep my self-esteem intact. Gah.

 

It's just he's with a new girl already, and i feel regret, for not trying.

[NavyAirTraffic]

Are there guys that actually accept the breakup instead of begging/pleading?

 

I did(ish). She was living with me at the time and when she texted me that it was over, I called her and told her to get to my house asap. She came over and wanted to talk but I wouldn't. I took her keys and while she stood there I packed up all of her stuff and loaded her car up. She wanted a hug before she left and I refused. I have never asked for her to come back since. I initiated contact last week, but pretty much to say goodbye (she has a new bf), in hindsight that was a bad idea.

 

I said "I did(ish)" because I really don't/didn't want it to end. I didn't really "accept" the breakup but what choice did I have? She had already made up her mind. I adored her but I told her "I don't want to be with someone that doesn't want to be with me".

[NoMoreJerks]

omg reading this i had tears in my eyes this guy is no no no good omg a dog and i mean a dog plz tell me your done with him???he treated you like you were nothing dont ever in your life talk to him again some relationship can be fixs but this one cannot be he his a dirty mother ****er omg plz tell me you dont talk to him any more?

Yeah, done big time... not talking to him, of course. Went NC and he has been trying to reach me, but I am not answering.

[NoMoreJerks]

I did(ish). She was living with me at the time and when she texted me that it was over, I called her and told her to get to my house asap. She came over and wanted to talk but I wouldn't. I took her keys and while she stood there I packed up all of her stuff and loaded her car up. She wanted a hug before she left and I refused. I have never asked for her to come back since. I initiated contact last week, but pretty much to say goodbye (she has a new bf), in hindsight that was a bad idea.

Wow. I have to say, that must've taken a lot of courage and will power to do... I can only imagine how hard it was.. But it was exactly the sort of response that she deserved.

[AlexDP]

I never begged or pleaded, in many ways I was relieved that my LTR was over. I am not the begging type, I tend to cry when I am alone at home.

 

I just withdrew into myself and told him "Yep, OK, I agree, it's over". I started getting pragmatic and trying to organize times to get my things etc. He got annoyed that I was so cold and tried to provoke me with character assassinations that weren't even true. I kept repeating "It is not important what you think of me anymore, it's over, let's just get on with me moving out". He got even more annoyed and kept saying over and over again things about myself that he knows will get to me.

 

I snapped and told him that he was the worst lover I ever had, that I faked it every time and that his d... was too small and I was never quite satisfied:o That his parents are the most disgusting, narrow minded and unintelligent people I have ever met, and that I hated them from the first moment I met them.

 

All true but he brought it on on himself. Still no pleading, just some mega nastiness.

 

That's pretty low of you.

[NoMoreJerks]

That's pretty low of you.

He deserved that level of nastiness, IMO, not only because of the dumping, but also because of the passive-aggressive behaviour that he demontrated AFTER she did not respond to him the way he expected her to. He was going so low as to try and use her reaction to the dumping as an ego boost.

[NavyAirTraffic]

Wow. I have to say, that must've taken a lot of courage and will power to do... I can only imagine how hard it was.. But it was exactly the sort of response that she deserved.

 

It was hard but I had no other choice. I've done the begging/pleading in the past without any positive results, and I'm not in the business of convincing someone into staying with me. After she left I screamed so loud I saw stars, punched the wall, and cried. However she didn't deserve to see that I cared, I still care but I will never let her know.

Edited October 26, 2012 by NavyAirTraffic

[suladas]

Are there guys that actually accept the breakup instead of begging/pleading?

 

The day of the BU, yes I did accept it. I didn't try to change her mind or anything. I even said I had my doubts it would work out to, and I had actually considered breaking up with her before because there was a few problems, but I cared about her to much to not want to work through them.

 

It wasn't until after the BU almost a week I realized how much I cared for her and tried to get her back. Before that I was sad, but getting back with her didn't even cross my mind and I didn't even want to talk to her or anything. But I didn't beg or plead. It was simply asking to try things again and that I would like the chance to put in more effort. Even if I knew 100% that begging and pleading would get her back, I still wouldn't do it. I refuse to beg someone to be with me.

[taya]

Yeah, done big time... not talking to him, of course. Went NC and he has been trying to reach me, but I am not answering.

 

 

good girl wow am proud of you take a stand for your self dont ever amswer him ever in your life what he did was so so low omg