My ex girlfriend and I were FWB, but now she's dating her room mate. ?!

[thatguyyouknow]

My ex and I were together for a year and a month. We broke up 3 months ago because she felt that our relationship was getting stagnant. We took our time apart and both became better people. I asked her out for drinks a month ago, we had a great time, went home and hooked up. We saw eachother atleast 4 times a week for 3 weeks. Everything was going great. We had a connection, we enjoyed eachother's company and had great times. Cuddling, kissing, discussing life, having sex, sleeping over, the whole shebang. I told her I only wanted to be friends with benefits because I was lieing to myself. I thought that if I showed my feelings then our "relationship" would end but I could tell she wanted a relationship but wouldn't say it.

 

Anyways, her roommate and her are good friends. He moved in about the same time we started seeing eachother again, as a planotic roommate. They'd never had sex or hooked up. Well, we didn't have sex for this past week and a half but still hung out some and had great times. Apparently this other guy had a huge crush on her and they ended up getting together 4 days ago in a relationship.

 

I deeply care about this girl and I know if I would've just been honest with her we would be together right now. It hurts.. She came by today to let me know about them and that we should end the FWB. She told me that she definitely would have gotten back with me but she knew I didn't want a relationship at the time so she played along..

 

Is there anything I can do to get her back? I know I missed my chance and I'm kicking myself in the ass for it. All I can think to do is wait and see where this goes with them and better myself in the mean time. Any advice on getting her back or did I miss my chance at love.. again? Thanks alot.

[NavyAirTraffic]

All I can think to do is wait and see where this goes with them and better myself in the mean time..

 

If its that new maybe tell her how you really feel and see her reaction. Maybe she turned to him because you showed zero long term interest. However I don't think this is the case. If she had true feelings for you, she would've told you.

 

Take your own advice. If she likes him, they're prob in the honeymoon phase. Not much you can do to break that up. You need to let the smell of roses wear off a bit, hopefully at that point she'll start thinking of you again.

[CptSaveAho]

Your ex is full of crap, she just used your full of crap against you. See how that works, if you were honest with yourself #1 then honest with her #2 then you would have gotten the same outcome just in a different manner but key point was you would have been honest with yourself.

 

More people need to learn this.