boblet Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 So, my ex of 2 years broke up with me 2 months ago... he still wanted to be a part of my life, but about a month after the breakup i deleted him off everything and stopped messaging, after being frustrated with how mean he was being and him refusing to see me, although he's close to where i am everyday. i know he feels a lot of guilt for hurting me, he said he still has feelings for me, and i think he avoids seeing me. anyway, it's been almost 3 weeks since we've had any contact, i creeped his fb (i know this isn't the right step if i'm trying to move on, i let curiosity get the better of me), he hardly ever uses fb. yet i saw him posting so many pictures of himself, wearing his sharpest clothes to school. interesting enough, i always thought his glasses were so cute lol, he was always so shy about wearing them and he never had pictures in them, yet i saw this week he posted a picture rocking his glasses, for his fb to see although he never liked wearing them. i know he's been working out hard, and trying a new hairstyle and all that. I'm just curious to know, is he hurting like I am? I understand that after breakups, both men and women try to change appearances, feel good about ourselves etc., i am trying to better myself also. but i was just wondering, is he looking for extra attention because i'm out of the picture now? i won't put it past him that maybe he's looking for a girl to fool around with, but i'm not sure if he will right away. i can't help but feel like i was just there for an ego boost after seeing him post so much so suddenly. does this help alleviate those heavy feelings, from a guy's point of view? i'm just curious.
sissy106 Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 Dear definitely he is making up for more chances in life. He wants to look more in life... so I think u should also move on. I definitely have this instinct that he wants to move out of this relationship.... can say all this coz of my past 6 year relation with my ex.
BlazePT Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 Hey, honey! Well, if it was a 2-year relationship, I bet that he can't forget you just like that. Obviously he has feelings for you (as he says so) and obviously he still wants you in his life. The thing is, trust me, dear: it's not him that matters now; it's YOU. And I can promise you this: the longer you spend with him, the more hurt you'll get and the less hurt he will be. It works like this: keeping contact with the ex will help him move on faster from the breakup and only slow your healing down; however, no-contact after the breakup will help you move on faster and tear him down to pieces. But again, you shouldn't be worried about him right now. It hurts for you to read this, but you have to start detoxing from him right away: - Don't ever call him again and if he calls you or sends you a message, tell him not to do it anymore (change your phone number if you have to); - block him from facebook!!!!! block him from facebook!!!!! block him from facebook!!!!!... and uh.... BLOCK HIM FROM FACEBOOK!!!! Trust me, it helps: everytime you see a picture of him or a new status update, it will be like rubbing salt in an open wound. Sorry for being so direct, but how will you react if he posts a picture with a new girl? Don't, i repeat, DON'T do this to yourself! - Surround yourself with family and friends if you can: it's good to know that there are people that love you for who you are and support you no matter what - Everytime you're feeling down tell us about it here on LS - Some months ago, I made an analogy of what possibly you're feeling right now. It depends from person to person, but if you want to give it a read, go ahead : http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/333359-blazepts-gaugy-anatomy-ltr-breakup I hope I've helped in some way! Hang in there honey.
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