gotye Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 (edited) Ok, so I started rekindling an old friendship but after accidentally breaking something of said friend's, the friend went crazy on me I gave them some money to start with and then went to go fix the damage but they harassed me constantly, eventually I finally got it all evened out but during that time they harassed me and stole money from me (and denied it) Also she denied the original amount of money I gave to her, but eventually owned up to buying drugs with it. Which really upset me but considering the amount of harassment I experienced I just wanted to get away ASAP. I feel bad for this (ex) friend because they have lost a lot and therefore I understand they are in a desperate place... but at the same time, I feel like considering we just started speaking again it's not really my problem past getting her back for the damage. So cause she continues to harass me and ask me for hand outs, I blocked her from my life. I feel a little guilty, but doesn't respond to reason and just continues to harass ( I believe she has mental problems, again, I really wish I could help but the money stealing really put me off) Is this the best way of going about it? They won't own up to the harassment and the stealing when I confronted them about it. TBH I am scared they'll be physical confrontation. Edited October 26, 2012 by gotye
Author gotye Posted October 26, 2012 Author Posted October 26, 2012 ugh, I need help. she's msging me on fb about ignoring her. I feel guilty and I need help writing something to politely tell her I can't be involved in that lifestyle she probably won't handle the rejection rationally because she doesn't think she ever does anything wrong and is delusional but mostly for my own conscious I need to be polite and honest
Balzac Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 Stop trying to reason with an addict who is using. Addicts lie, steal, manipulate and target those who "feel sorry". Stop communicating. 2
Author gotye Posted October 26, 2012 Author Posted October 26, 2012 Stop trying to reason with an addict who is using. Addicts lie, steal, manipulate and target those who "feel sorry". Stop communicating. ya, I keep reminding myself that she is not my responsibility and I already repaid her and then some and she earned no explanation from me this experience has made it rly hard for me to ever trust anyone again. I was desperate to find friends nearby after moving and this happens
Begins Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 ya, I keep reminding myself that she is not my responsibility and I already repaid her and then some and she earned no explanation from me this experience has made it rly hard for me to ever trust anyone again. I was desperate to find friends nearby after moving and this happens By giving in (communicating with her), you're exposing your weakness (soft spot). Why not just take a break or a short holidays and shut the communication completely. My 2 cents worth. Regards, 1
freestyle Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 The BEST, and most caring thing you can do for an addict is to walk away, & let them hit rock bottom, sooner than later. Anything else is enabling, and actually making the problem worse. Tell her she can call you if she goes through rehab, and stays clean for a full year---otherwise, you're putting yourself in harm's way (possibly) and delaying her getting herself together. 1
darkmoon Posted October 27, 2012 Posted October 27, 2012 (edited) mature? this sixty year old here thinks that you are wasting time, just be busy as a polite excuse but if she is persistent either get a phone that she has to leave a message on and don't phone back or just phone back to be polite when you have the time she doesn't tsound too wonderful as a person so is a waste of time to be relegated to acquintance level in your own mind, don't offend her by saying so, but don't get caught up in her life too much, she probably have other people she knows to contact too, just call her back less and less often til it tapers off Edited October 27, 2012 by darkmoon
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