Shotputter Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 So my girlfriend of 7 months broke up with me in May, and I have recently gotten over it quite well. I've met a new girl who i think is much prettier and overall just a better person than my ex. We've been talking for around 3 weeks however she has been giving me mixed signals... After we hung out for about 5 times and texted for about 2 and a half weeks i thought thinks were going pretty well. We had some intense make out sessions and seemed to both be very physically attracted to one another. She even talked about a relationship This relationship talk made me very excited.. however the next day she was very slow to respond to my texts and i eventually asked her if she was having doubts? She said she was. The next day on a school field trip she is sitting 2 rows behind me and she texts me this "I'm really sorry ______. I was just having a weird day yesterday. I don't want you to hate me or anything. I still like you.. I dont know i what i was thinking". So after this i make up with her and she comes over again. At this point i don't think the attraction has ever been as high. the next day she goes back to her ways of lackidasical communication... Seems uninterested. Its driving me crazy. What do you guys think?
tman666 Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 I'd bet all your money that there's another guy involved. You guys sound pretty young... it wouldn't surprise me if she is simply too immature at this point to be able to make up her mind, tell one of you guys to take a hike and commit to the other one. My advice is to have fun, avoid getting her preggo, but keep your heart at a distance from her.
MrCastle Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 Don't emotionally invest in this chick. The school field trip tells me you guys are young. Young girls are clueless when it comes to what they want. Be there when she's got the hots for you and enjoy it for what it is, and when she goes cold, you do the same.
dasein Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 Push-pull manipulation, not a huge "crime," as you both sound young, but learn to identify it and not respond to it, as by being available and instantly forgiving, you are sabotaging her respect for you as being easy and encouraging her to repeat the behavior. If this continues as a pattern with her, move on to other options. People know when they like another person and behave accordingly. When they are hot-cold early on, it generally means (with very few exceptions) the level of interest isn't high.
carhill Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 This is normal for a senior in high school. Enjoy dating and flirting and safe sex and don't worry about consistency. Worry about growing your own maturity, education and social circle. In a decade or so, you'll see how things are different in this realm. Then, worry
Leegh Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 It sounds as if she likes you a lot. I think it's too early to tell, but one thing about women is when "it is that time of the month" and/or around that time, women can feel totally different, and "off". That's the only thing I can think of now, but time will tell.
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