spiegel549 Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 I just started taking this new girl out... Now I try not to be too available and I also try to be a bit of a mystery early on to get her thinking, and wondering about me when we are not together... I successfully set up a second date and she seemed excited! My question is the time before your next set date, is it okay to contact her? Or am I better off "being busy" "being unavailable." I set up the date for this Sunday and I said "I have a few things to do over the weekend but I will call you Saturday, and I will see you Sunday at 2pm." she replied "Okay sounds good have a great weekend. I always over think this crap...am I playing my cards right? I try to approach dating very cool, laid back, and try to be as desirable as possible and not show desperation. What do you think??
xdahliax Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 There's nothing wrong with contacting her before the date. The only problem is that you told her you'd be busy and that you'd contact her only Saturday. So.. contacting her before will look like you were trying to play it cool but ultimately couldn't. Girls don't like that, it sounds like you're playing games. Next time don't state when you'll call her and just do it when you feel like it.
carhill Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 If she likes you, there's little you can do wrong, especially with regard to contact. IMO, better to avoid a 'plan' and go with what is your natural contact style. I prefer to 'get to know' in person so I don't do much contact between dates in the early dating stages, prior to exclusivity and sex. That said, it wouldn't be/wasn't uncommon to have a couple dates a week. That's my style. This presumes the lady is local and physical dates were easily accomplished. Your style may differ. Do what feels natural and works for you. 1
Ami1uwant Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 Let's say you had a date on Saturday it went well. You asked about doing another date the next weekend and she said yes. You contact her on Tuesday or Wednesday to set up the logistics of the next date of where and when. You mat talk some but don't do it too much. You still need to save stuff to talk about on your date. Great conversation usually means great date. This is different if you knew her prior to actually dating.
Author spiegel549 Posted October 26, 2012 Author Posted October 26, 2012 I agree with all of you. You have to be yourself, do whats comfortable. Also don't throw things out like I am busy because maybe she would of contacted me to say hi or w.e but now I told her I am busy and she won't now. It is funny because as I am reading this she just texted me. We spoke an hour ago last off saying talk to you Saturday and she texted "Sorry if I seemed tired before, I am just exhausted from work are you having fun with your cousins." And now we having a small text convo back and forth. She has to be interested to do that right?
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