ginastar Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 This guy who is best friends with my brother in law and his wife is friends with my sister, hit on me 2 yrs ago. I basically told him to stop and I ended up telling my sister which he knew. My sister and I decided not to tell the wife. The other day he hit on me again. I got really mad over the whole thing. I kinda felt disrepected. While I was really mad I ended up telling someone who is very good friends with the wife. The wife knows now and now that a few days past I am feeling slightly bad for ratting him out. I think its mainly bc my sister and I are getting the impression that she (the wife) doesnt want to deal with it and kind of wishes she didnt know. So what I am asking is...does this make me a bad person for spilling the beans on the guy?
mass millz Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 Depends on what you consider "being hit on". How is his behavior around you exactly? Is he really being a creep or is he just being nice? Please elaborate how he hit on you a bit more...
yessy21 Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 No. it makes you a good person for being honest and calling him out on his S****. his disrespectful self. she should throw that back into the sea.
flower blossom Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 No it doesn't make you a bad person but he's prob told her a pack of lies and you will end up looking like the bad one unless I had prove or knew she would belive me I wouldn't of said anything. At the end of the day what women wants to belive her fella is hitting on other women we don't so as long as he's a good lier she will believe him 1
Cb3657 Posted October 27, 2012 Posted October 27, 2012 What does "hit on" mean, if he is truly trying to sleep with you, touching, overly suggestive language etc, then telling is the right thing even though I agree with others that it is likely you will be blamed by the wife, but she will be more vigilant and in the long term you could save her from being a doormat to him.
january2011 Posted October 27, 2012 Posted October 27, 2012 You did the right thing. Do not feel bad for asserting your boundaries. Now the wife knows about her husband's behaviour, she can decide whether to do something about it, or not - you don't get to decide that part. In the meantime, I suggest that you stay away from this guy.
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