When a Lightbulb goes off.

[blue_jay_bird]

I had to tell a old friend that i went on a date with that i just wanted to be friends. All these feeling's of just not being interested started going through my head. And the more he text's me asking how it's going the more im not attracted.

 

AND the more i understand how my ex must feel. He's just not that into me. I guess i have to use that lame term. I bet he's made a metal list to. Cause the one for the old friend is as thus, "desperate, slow, a goof, immature, like's me more then i like him."

 

I'v already heard some of the metal list from my ex when he dumped me , "not independent, not motivated, lacks confidence." I don't think he will ever turn off that list. It will repeat and repeat every time i show any sign of these qualities.

 

And the light bulb goes off..... he doesn't want me, just like i don't want my old friend. I'v spent so long trying to think my way around this, with excuses after excuses. "He's just being a idiot, doesn't know what he's got, ext, ext" When the truth is,.... the truth is.. the first thing he said to me. "I don't want to marry you because of who you are."

 

He's just not that into you.

 

Tell me your feeling's when you had to dump someone? And now that you have been dumped why do you feel it's different?

Edited October 25, 2012 by blue_jay_bird

[love does not exist]

Brutal as fucc, but love the insight. That's probably the way my ex felt when I begged like a twat for 2 weeks. Oh well, you live and you learn.

[blue_jay_bird]

Brutal as fucc, but love the insight. That's probably the way my ex felt when I begged like a twat for 2 weeks. Oh well, you live and you learn.

 

More like ****ING BRUTAL. Especially if the relationship was long. Your Ex is just not emotionally intelligent to know "they aren't that into you". They drag it out.... just not thinking. Thinking about the next ****, thinking about how your a okay person.

 

Well, i may be complete wrong in my train of thought, but the more i disconnect to this idea he care the better i feel. Cause how can a person that love you so much hurt you. THE TRUTH, they didn't love you so much.

[todreaminblue]

I had to tell a old friend that i went on a date with that i just wanted to be friends. All these feeling's of just not being interested started going through my head. And the more he text's me asking how it's going the more im not attracted.

 

AND the more i understand how my ex must feel. He's just not that into me. I guess i have to use that lame term. I bet he's made a metal list to. Cause the one for the old friend is as thus, "desperate, slow, a goof, immature, like's me more then i like him."

 

I'v already heard some of the metal list from my ex when he dumped me , "not independent, not motivated, lacks confidence." I don't think he will ever turn off that list. It will repeat and repeat every time i show any sign of these qualities.

 

And the light bulb goes off..... he doesn't want me, just like i don't want my old friend. I'v spent so long trying to think my way around this, with excuses after excuses. "He's just being a idiot, doesn't know what he's got, ext, ext" When the truth is,.... the truth is.. the first thing he said to me. "I don't want to marry you because of who you are."

 

He's just not that into you.

 

Tell me your feeling's when you had to dump someone? And now that you have been dumped why do you feel it's different?

 

 

I have dumped guys i have been interested in made me feel like crap......i have dated ones that i am not interested in because i honestly didnt care abotu being happy and i wasn t ready to date but i wasnt taking down a good guy......i gave up dating for quite a few years as i wasnt well.......i have been dumped......i got the i love you always but i am not in love with you speech......the i want to go out and drink with someone....i didnt drink in the relationship.......he used that excuse......i sadi ill go ou twith you ill drink diet coke......you can have a drink.....it wasnt the reason....he just didnt want to commit....deb

[blue_jay_bird]

...it wasnt the reason....he just didnt want to commit....deb

 

just couldn't commit.... or maybe he's just not that into you. ? I'm going to have to go for the last one. When you love someone, you don't leave them.

[JustALittleBit]

I'm glad you've had this realisation! I think it's helpful to see it from the other side, and also just think that if you and your ex got back together, as you said anytime you show anything remotely like you're 'lacking independence' or whatever, it would flick that switch in his own head and he's been as arse.

 

Basically you can't be yourself... so now that you know he genuinely just isn't interested and it's not about him not recognising what he's got or not being ready or whatever, look to the future, think about how it won't work out anyway because you want to be loved for you.

 

So keep doing what you're doing and moving on, and in time it will get easier and eventually you'll meet that someone else that loves all the things about you and doesn't see you in some negative light.

[blue_jay_bird]

I'm glad you've had this realisation! I think it's helpful to see it from the other side, and also just think that if you and your ex got back together, as you said anytime you show anything remotely like you're 'lacking independence' or whatever, it would flick that switch in his own head and he's been as arse.

 

Basically you can't be yourself... so now that you know he genuinely just isn't interested and it's not about him not recognising what he's got or not being ready or whatever, look to the future, think about how it won't work out anyway because you want to be loved for you.

 

So keep doing what you're doing and moving on, and in time it will get easier and eventually you'll meet that someone else that loves all the things about you and doesn't see you in some negative light.

 

Still would take him back, i saw how i ****ed up. I became so depended on him, my whole life revolved around him, i texted him all the time. Ext. I just don't know things anymore. The negativity just started the last year we where together. WHERE THE **** did it come from. I hate him for acting treating me ****ty in the end.

 

let go let go...gah