blues rick Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 Two things happened today;i try to be short A friend of mine saw my ex-girlfriend in a self-help bookstore today buying a book about being addicted to love and how to love yourself. This gave me hope and i felt great so this evening i went out for a drink in the town that we share. So i was sitting in a bar and i met this couple. They asked me;' how are things with you and ........."I explained it was over between us. Then they started telling me that wasn't a surprise for them at all because for years she was the biggest slut in town. She was and still is a heavy drinker and slept with many, many guys before she met me. This is shocking news. It makes me sick that i waisted my time with a person with no morals at all. I got this text from her yesterday. She tries to make me feel guilty for not wishing her a happy birthday. But in the mean time she's with another guy. I want to text her back so bad. The weird thing is; i still love her, but i don't like sluts at all. The sex we had really sucked, was weird and loveless, the reason for me not to even start it when we were together. I want to write her about her about how selfish i thing she is and break no contact. I'm going grazy.
pteromom Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 Ummmmmmmmm.... how does this couple KNOW she was a big slut? Were they hanging outside her window as she banged every guy in town? So I wouldn't put too much stock into what third parties say. On the other hand, she's with another guy. So you are under no obligation to wish her a happy birthday. She is the one that chose to not be with you. So delete her text and maintain NC. 3
taya Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 (edited) Two things happened today;i try to be short A friend of mine saw my ex-girlfriend in a self-help bookstore today buying a book about being addicted to love and how to love yourself. This gave me hope and i felt great so this evening i went out for a drink in the town that we share. So i was sitting in a bar and i met this couple. They asked me;' how are things with you and ........."I explained it was over between us. Then they started telling me that wasn't a surprise for them at all because for years she was the biggest slut in town. She was and still is a heavy drinker and slept with many, many guys before she met me. This is shocking news. It makes me sick that i waisted my time with a person with no morals at all. I got this text from her yesterday. She tries to make me feel guilty for not wishing her a happy birthday. But in the mean time she's with another guy. I want to text her back so bad. The weird thing is; i still love her, but i don't like sluts at all. The sex we had really sucked, was weird and loveless, the reason for me not to even start it when we were together. I want to write her about her about how selfish i thing she is and break no contact. I'm going grazy. am sorry but i dont think you need to text her maybe she was a slut maybe not the thing is you guys are not togather anymore SO DOES IT REALLY MATTER ? and you say The sex we had really sucked,weird and loveless so move on dont brake no contact for that get over that girl .....she moved on dident she? and you dont have to tell her happy birthday your not her bf anymore you dont owe her anything...let that drama go it seem your doing so good with no cantact.... dont let her bring you back to step one Edited October 25, 2012 by taya
GG3 Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 What if they are just gossips and it's not true? That could really hurt her feelings.
Exit Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 Don't fall for the guilt trip. If she wasn't with someone else, even then it would be a risk to break NC, but if she is with someone, screw that. She just wants an answer so she can feel special and attractive enough that even her ex will still answer her. 1
Author blues rick Posted October 26, 2012 Author Posted October 26, 2012 Thanks for the things you people wrote. I'm still in no contact. About my ex being 'dirty', well she really was. She told me about it in the past but i just laughed it away a little, denial, and tried to be happy with her. The couple telling me about her past were her best friends for years. They love her and have been are just concerned about her. They don't like it that she's self-destructive.In The years before she met me she was only partying, heavy drinking, hooking up(not with peers, but older dudes) Her current friends are all older and were complaining about our relationship because it was changing her and they didn't like that. I tried to change her drinking habbit like grazy. I wish i never met her.
sweetkiwi Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 you can't change someone. You can't love them enough for them to stop drinking. Or ****ing half the city. Were you a virgin before her? Why are you judging her so harshly? Feels better when you justify your hatred doesn't it. If you loved her you would've accepted her as is. Not be backpedaling after she told you her past, then dumped you, then you only confirmed the truth.
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