jferg24 Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 Okay so over the past month or so, me and this girl that I like have literally been talking non-stop. She's had a crush on me for months now and I've began to like her over the past few weeks. She's only a year younger than me. She's a senior in high school and I just graduated last year She reveals that she does indeed have feelings for me, and I reveal that I do as well. She was very unsure if she wanted to date though. At first she wanted to give it a try, then she wasn't sure if she wanted to or not but was leaning towards it, and now she just wants to be friends. I don't get it at all! We both have feelings for each other, she said that she loves talking to me all the time and loves hanging out with me, but she doesn't want to try and date. She said she "wasn't good" at dating, but I feel like there's something else behind it. I tried to get it out of her, but she couldn't even explain herself to why she didn't want to date. I'm literally so confused at the moment that it blows my mind! Can anybody actually explain this to me? Also what the hell should I do in this situation?
january2011 Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 I'm literally so confused at the moment that it blows my mind! Can anybody actually explain this to me? Also what the hell should I do in this situation? Youth + emotions = confusion. She doesn't know what she wants - which means that she doesn't want you, unfortunately. If she suggests keeping you as a friend and you want more than that, going doing the path of friendship is only going to lead to pain and resentment because a small part of you will hope that she will change her mind. Not impossible but unlikely. In the meantime, you will be waiting in the wings for an indeterminate time period and ignoring better candidates. Therefore, if your aim is to find a girlfriend, my advice is to focus on something else and someone else. Someone who is more mature and knows what they want. Until you find that person, focus on what you planned to do after you graduated, whether it's work or study.
formshifter Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 Youth + emotions = confusion. Therefore, if your aim is to find a girlfriend, my advice is to focus on something else and someone else. Someone who is more mature and knows what they want. Until you find that person, focus on what you planned to do after you graduated, whether it's work or study. I can't agree more ! The girls are not that different from boys. My point is that if she really liked you she would have insisted to go out with you like you insisted with her. But remember, it's not your fault if she doesn't what to date you. People are free to chose what they want and when they want even if it's not logical. You are young, you'll have many occasions and many girls. And to make a joke to lift up your spirit: maybe she's a lesbian
Titania22 Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 or maybe she is scared. New things can often be scary.
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