He broke up with me 2 years ago and I'm still not over him!

[Shanns]

:sick:

 

All the Faces above show exactly how I feel when it comes to him.... I feel confused, sick in my heart, 'Eeek!', and I just have no clue on what to do...

 

I dated a guy for about a month and a half (I know its very short). Although we had known each other for about six months before. In those five weeks, he was the world to me, I spent quite a bit of time at his house. I never stopped thinking about him. He was absolutely perfect to me. He treated me like gold, he was kind....he was perfect.

 

It was me that was the problem. I was still younger and very naive and immature when it came to boyfriends and stuff. I actually feel embarrassed thinking of how I treated him. If he didn't sit next to me I would have a tantrum or I would threaten to leave him for someone else and I was very sarcastic towards him.

 

After five weeks, I think he had had enough and he broke up with me. I tell you, my whole world came crushing down. I felt so broken inside. He then moved away a few months later. We agreed to stay friends.

 

I guess you could say that he was my first love. To this day I still feel so in love with him as I did when we broke up. I haven't seen him for a little more over a year. I've had flings and little things here and there but nothing stable since him. Every time I see a picture of him, I think to myself what did I do? How could I have been so stupid to act like I did with him?? I miss him and my heart still skips a beat when I see his face.

 

 

I keep hoping for him to maybe come back and take me back... Could he have been 'the one'? Am I obsessed?

[SmileFace]

Obsessed. Besides that answer I have no advice.

[Shanns]

Obsessed. Besides that answer I have no advice.

Wow. ok thank you for that very cold unneeded reply.

[SmileFace]

Wow. ok thank you for that very cold unneeded reply.

Yes, because all the other replies you received were very helpful.

 

Why do you think you are still in love with him?

What have you done to get over him?

What have you done to improve yourself to not act as you did when you had the relationship with him?

 

Yes, heart break hurts - even from a short relationship. No one is going to deny you that. However he isn't the "one", since he doesn't want you. As cold as it may seem your obsession is unneeded. You need to move on.

[Shanns]

So yes I have changed. I have learned from all of my mistakes that i made with him. I have done all that i can to move on.

 

I was simply trying to say that you needn't have replied in such a cold manner. but seeing that I dont know you, maybe that's how you do things, coldly.

[Leegh]

Is there any way you could contact him, perhaps with the holiday season coming up you could send him an email saying "Happy Thankgiving" and say a few casual things, and see what he does? I think you should do something, so you can either re-establish something with him, or try to get closure. Good Luck

[SmileFace]

So yes I have changed. I have learned from all of my mistakes that i made with him. I have done all that i can to move on.

 

I was simply trying to say that you needn't have replied in such a cold manner. but seeing that I dont know you, maybe that's how you do things, coldly.

I wasn't trying to be cold - it is just how I come across online. Plus, yes If you were offended I am sorry that you were however my advice still stands. Yes, seeing picutres of him may still bring up pictures but you need to get over him.

[Shanns]

Is there any way you could contact him, perhaps with the holiday season coming up you could send him an email saying "Happy Thankgiving" and say a few casual things, and see what he does? I think you should do something, so you can either re-establish something with him, or try to get closure. Good Luck

 

Yes I would very much like to see him again just to get closure. the only problem is he stays in another country, but would like to go there next year, also to see other people as well. thank you for this advice=)

[Shanns]

I wasn't trying to be cold - it is just how I come across online. Plus, yes If you were offended I am sorry that you were however my advice still stands. Yes, seeing picutres of him may still bring up pictures but you need to get over him.

 

Hi I was a bit offended but I realised something. At the end of the day its way past my time to get over him. But thank you for the advice.