Nik1 Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 Mother ****er, man! Well, my story of woe and betrayal takes another turn. I did a stupid ****ing thing and logged into my girlfriend's Facebook (an idea I got from here, thanks a lot) and found out that I've been lied to as well. I read from her own messages that she had sex with my friend August 7th, barely three days after I left. With one of my best friends! Anyway, I've been lied to cause when I talked to my friend about it, he told me he didn't force it, she was heartbroken for the first month, it's only been going on for a week... lies! ALL LIES!!! I don't know, it's just weird. We did a lot of big things together; got our first house, lived side by side for three years, sometimes in the same room for months... and she goes to my friend in three days... then my friend lies to me over the phone. I feel like though this should be normal and I'm just taking it hard because it's my first relationship and it lasted a long time. That and I have virtually no social life or job yet, hope that'll help take my mind off things a bit. And she even said he was magnificent in bed, I really wanna know if he's better than me cause she always said I was the best she'd ever had. Oh, the humanity!
Own Worst Enemy Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 how did you get the idea to log into her fb from here? you must have missed the bit that said it is the worst idea ever! this is an enormous betrayal, and i do feel for you, and that sick, angry, devastated feeling you must have right now. it will go to show long term that she is no loss, but i doubt that helps at the moment. oh, and for what it's worth? we tell every new guy that he's the best we ever had. sometimes we even mean it!!
Author Nik1 Posted October 25, 2012 Author Posted October 25, 2012 Well, everyone tells me I need to go and pick myself back up. But hey, on the lighter side, she still said she might want me back in the messages. I don't really want her back now, but hey, it's something to boost my spirit.
TopCat22 Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 Well you've learned the hard way why you don't snoop on the ex. I bet reading all those messages didn't make you feel any better. At least you now know what liars she and your best friend are, it's revealed their true nature. I wouldn't worry what she says about your/his sexual performance. Women tell men what they want to hear regardless of whether it was good or not. Take a large pinch of salt with that one.
sweetkiwi Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 please please don't go back to her. I really don't know your situation but all i do know is right now you're thinking it can't get worse. If you go back, if you even entertain the idea of going back, it will get worse. Your friend is a **** head with a dick that means more to him than you do. Dump them both and go no contact if you want to save your soul.
Author Nik1 Posted October 25, 2012 Author Posted October 25, 2012 (edited) Well you've learned the hard way why you don't snoop on the ex. I bet reading all those messages didn't make you feel any better. At least you now know what liars she and your best friend are, it's revealed their true nature. I wouldn't worry what she says about your/his sexual performance. Women tell men what they want to hear regardless of whether it was good or not. Take a large pinch of salt with that one. But she was talking to her friend, not him. And that's another thing, those liar got to be happy and I'm over here alone and miserable. She told her friend that they have so much in common and said such great things about him. Edited October 25, 2012 by Nik1
Stillalive1 Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 U have a good reason to move on faster now,she isn't worth,
TopCat22 Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 I still wouldn't read too much into it. When she was with you she was probably telling her friends how amazing you were in bed. She wants to believe it is amazing too and telling her friends helps her believe it. Please don't read into any more. How do you know they are really happy? Just because people say they are doesn't mean they are. And even if they are, karma will come around, it always does. Don't focus on how miserable you are. Think about where you want to be. Find small things to make you happy. A meal you might look forward to, or a film you really want to see. If you start looking for some positives things you will find them. Find enough and they will outweigh the negative things. Just don't wallow in the self pity and think that the world is cruel to you. 1
ParadeRain Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 Mannnn, man o man o mann. I'm not gonna lie, this is bad, bad bad bad. What to do, first of all I'm cringing for you, the feeling must be :sick::sick::sick::sick::sick::sick: I guess the question is... to buy a gun or to not buy a gun... I know that I would have already bought a gun after I closed that facebook page, that's the kind of shiz that would push me OVER THE EDGE. I would take my passport and go on a long long long vacation, have some good times sleeping with many beautiful foreign women.. But that's just me being crazy ----------------------------------------------------- Advise for you?... seriously I don't think I have any, I've melted my brain attempting to be rational imagining myself in the same situation... I would blow my lid, I would be out for NASTY, AGGRESSIVE REVENGE.. I probably shouldn't post this, but I'm going to submit reply anyway, my thoughts have not been filtered on this one, from the brain straight to the keyboard, kill them both.
Chi townD Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 Hey, Im all for snooping and finding out the truth. Time and time again people come on here saying that their boyfriend or girlfriend would NEVER cheat on them.....uh huh....right. you deserved to know the truth. And as far as sexual performance, she probably told her friend that because the friend probably didnt approve of how she was handling the break up with you. Did you address the lying you found out about to either of them yet? By the way do not reveal your sources. Dont mention FB.
Author Nik1 Posted October 25, 2012 Author Posted October 25, 2012 (edited) Her friend was all for it, she replied, "Well, you're single, no problem having a little fun with your roomie" (or something to that extent). She also said that by breaking up with me, she was doing me a world of good and I need to "Pick myself up." But at least she didn't outright say he was better than me. And is it really cheating if we were technically broken up? It's still ****ed up either way cause a friend isn't supposed to get his friend's ex on the rebound in less than a week. And I don't know, don't you think it would've been at least a little respectful for her to give it, you know, a week before she falls into someone else's bed. I mean, we were together for four years straight, ****. Oh well, no amount of bitching and complaining will do me any good. I'm not gonna try and contact them, but if one of them contacts me, I'll most certainly confront them about it. The worst part about this is that I smoked weed again to calm me down (worked great, but now that I've come down I'm back to feeling heartbroken). Just watch now, an employer's gonna call me and schedule an interview for today. Edited October 25, 2012 by Nik1
Stillalive1 Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 (edited) Forget her,forget your supposed to be friend (no friend of mine ever banged a girlfriend i've been with,and i never did the same to them). Move on and delete the 2 of them from your life. They r toxic for u. Edited October 25, 2012 by Stillalive1
Author Nik1 Posted October 25, 2012 Author Posted October 25, 2012 I know, I know, I just haven't had much free time. I use to jam with some guys but I think I screwed it all up and they don't want to hang out with me anymore. Haven't been able to get a job despite applying to at least 10 jobs a day. Just hard to keep my mind off it.
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