Emissary Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 So there's this girl I met through work maybe a month and a half ago, a regular customer. She really seemed to like coming to my till, a couple of the girls I work with told me it's pretty obvious that she's interested in me. Anyway, a couple of weeks ago she told me she was leaving her job located near my shop. I was sort of interested in her too by that point and decided I didn't want to let her slip away, so I suggested we exchange numbers to "stay in touch". She didn't give me her number on the spot, but left me a note with her information on it before the end of the day. Anyway, we start texting and flirting a bit, I eventually suggested that we go out for coffee sometime once I get a couple of days off. She said ok and told me to text her on my "Friday". A few days passed and my weekend arrived, it was time to set the date, except I asked her if she liked Italian, and if instead of coffee if she would like to join me at this nice Italian restaurant in town. She said she loves Italian and agreed to the more formal date. I'm just wondering if I was a bit too hasty. One of the girls at work was lame and actually told her that I liked her, luckily she affirmed to my co-worker that she liked me as well. The thing is, we don't know each other that well, in person we've talked for maybe half an hour total. Though, pretty much everything I learn about her in person or via text builds her as more and more ideal for me, not any serious negative traits to speak of. I guess I'm just being anxious, but I really don't know what to expect of this date. Will it be awkward or will we have chemistry, will we kiss, or will we just leave that moment hanging for a while, who knows. One of my co-workers suggested dinner and a movie, but I'm going to save that for the weekend(presuming our first date tomorrow isn't a complete disaster). Hoping she likes James Bond lol. I'm also hoping she's going to let me pick her up. She doesn't have a vehicle of her own yet, it would be kind of awkward if somebody drove her to our date. When I told her the restaurant's name, she said "That's on XXXX Street, right?" How do you think I should confirm this matter. Should I just ask her where I can pick her up, or if she would be more comfortable if we just met at the location? I just need to be clear that I would rather pick her up, but not be pushy about it I guess. I'm really inexperienced with this sort of stuff lol.
todreaminblue Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 So there's this girl I met through work maybe a month and a half ago, a regular customer. She really seemed to like coming to my till, a couple of the girls I work with told me it's pretty obvious that she's interested in me. Anyway, a couple of weeks ago she told me she was leaving her job located near my shop. I was sort of interested in her too by that point and decided I didn't want to let her slip away, so I suggested we exchange numbers to "stay in touch". She didn't give me her number on the spot, but left me a note with her information on it before the end of the day. Anyway, we start texting and flirting a bit, I eventually suggested that we go out for coffee sometime once I get a couple of days off. She said ok and told me to text her on my "Friday". A few days passed and my weekend arrived, it was time to set the date, except I asked her if she liked Italian, and if instead of coffee if she would like to join me at this nice Italian restaurant in town. She said she loves Italian and agreed to the more formal date. I'm just wondering if I was a bit too hasty. One of the girls at work was lame and actually told her that I liked her, luckily she affirmed to my co-worker that she liked me as well. The thing is, we don't know each other that well, in person we've talked for maybe half an hour total. Though, pretty much everything I learn about her in person or via text builds her as more and more ideal for me, not any serious negative traits to speak of. I guess I'm just being anxious, but I really don't know what to expect of this date. Will it be awkward or will we have chemistry, will we kiss, or will we just leave that moment hanging for a while, who knows. One of my co-workers suggested dinner and a movie, but I'm going to save that for the weekend(presuming our first date tomorrow isn't a complete disaster). Hoping she likes James Bond lol. I'm also hoping she's going to let me pick her up. She doesn't have a vehicle of her own yet, it would be kind of awkward if somebody drove her to our date. When I told her the restaurant's name, she said "That's on XXXX Street, right?" How do you think I should confirm this matter. Should I just ask her where I can pick her up, or if she would be more comfortable if we just met at the location? I just need to be clear that I would rather pick her up, but not be pushy about it I guess. I'm really inexperienced with this sort of stuff lol. i dont think you are being too hasty the ice breaker date huh.....asking her if she wants to be picked up sounds like a good idea if she says no ask where to meet......you said i hope she likes james bond have you discussed movies before...... i think an ice breaker date definitely should be a singular activity dinner or a movie and you chose the right one a movie isnt really suitable for an ice breaker...an italian dinner sounds lovely......go easy on the garlic bread......and garlic in your meal unless you bot have equal amounts.....only roasted garlic doesn't leave that strong garlic breath i don't know about the kiss do what comes natural i guess for both of you..others will tell you different im sure....i think a hug as an ice breaker or a kiss on the cheek ....and leave tongue in mouth....lol...no frenchies...... i don't know about other women but that can be awkward if a guy tries it on the first date.......i think offering to pick her up is a sweet idea....very chivalrous if she accepts take it if she doesn't take that too........best of luck loads of hope for you that all goes well.....deb
Author Emissary Posted October 25, 2012 Author Posted October 25, 2012 At any rate, I'm hoping she's in for a pleasant surprise. She's only seen me in my fast food uniform, I look terrible and unattractive in it. I'm not an amazing looking guy, but I can bring myself to at least a 7.5/10 if I put some effort into it. I'm a 3/10 in my uniform lol. I guess it's also a good sign that I snared her with my personality alone. 1
Ami1uwant Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 With picking up....ask her if she wants it...but dont be offended if she declines you picking her up. i understand you met her through work. If you met her online going to pick her up for a first date is a no no. just have fun on your date and be yourself. Dont expect to kiss but it would be a plus.
MrJKF Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 No I don't think you're being hasty. She has kept the contact and was willing to give you her contact info. She felt the need to inform you that she would be leaving the job near you. If conversation in person hasn't exceeded 30 mins, I would advise not planning on much physical interaction for your ice breaker date. Get to know each other's in-person vibe and work with that in your next date. Don't give off the feel that you're nervous, be relaxed and confident. If you guys click through texts and calls I think you two will be alright. and just as todreaminblue suggested, offer to give a ride and if she says no etc. P.S. if she takes the fide offer you better make sure you open that door for her!! lol show her chivalry is not dead and that 7.5/10 that you think you are will most likely be a 9.5/10 trust me Good luck
Author Emissary Posted October 25, 2012 Author Posted October 25, 2012 She was planning on borrowing her parents car it seems, but she can't get it, so she asked if I could pick her up. So that made things easy, didn't even have to ask her lol. I guess it's a good sign that even though she was planning on meeting me there, she's comfortable being in the car with me alone right off the bat.
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