Silver_star Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 I find myself in a difficult situation. Used to work with this guy 7 years ago out of highschool. We maintained a friendship, but very casual. In fact we rarely even see each other at all. After I quit that job he asked me out 6 years ago. I said no, and that I only saw him as a friend. We both have had relationships since then. I have ZERO interest in him as a boyfriend at all. I call him dude alot to drive my point home. He still wants to hang out alot, although I rarely make myself available because it makes me a bit uncomfortable I have told him this on two occasions that I thought his asking me to movies, or dinner or walks one on one felt like he was asking me out and I am not interested in that...he said he wasnt asking me out like that and simply needed a friend to hang out with. All of his friends are always busy or bailing. I said sure. He texts me all the time even at midnight on a weekday and I am beginning to find it annoying. I dont want to be wasting his time if he somehow things that he has a chance, but how can I make it any more clear I have already told him this several times that there is NO chance. He says he is not interested but his actions differ... Am I being weird about our hangouts? It feels like I am being used as some sort of emotional crutch because he doesnt have a girlfriend and wants to have female company. He constantly is texting me, and asking to hang out. I have to think of reasons not too because it makes me really uncomfortable. I have tried to introduce him out to group things so maybe he can have some new friends in his life but of course he doesnt maintain friendships because he is completely quiet in social situations with new people and makes everyone else do all the work...I dont want to be rude, but maybe I cant even be his friend?
Jamesblame Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 Yeah, you should just be direct and tell him that if he can't get over it he should **** off. Or if you want to be less direct, try to set him up with someone/ talk about a guy you like. Oh and nail in coffin: complain about "loser" men who can't take the hint.
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