Bambii Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 When I first met my boyfriend (who is my first boyfriend) I was in my very late sixteens and he was twenty-five. I immediately fell for him & we became a couple. Shortly after I moved and we decided to continue into a long distance relationship since I knew I would be back as soon as I turned 18. Well, that is exactly what happened and everything was amazing. Now four years later I feel...unhappy? I love him like crazy and I know that he loves me just as much but I just feel like our relationship is going down hill and has been for the past year and a half. We argue e v e r y single day and I'm sort of feeling trapped. He can be very jealous and if I talk to someone (which is why I have no friends) or even if I'm over a family members house he is quick to jump to conclusions. He doesn't ever want to pursue anything different and everything has to be something he likes or it's not happening, he's extremely close-minded and just un-movitated and complacent. And on top of all that he doesn't understand privacy and every time I mention wanting some space to myself he assumes it's because I want to do something behind his back. Now of course he's not all bad...he takes care of me and we have LOADS of things in common, very affectionate, makes me laugh, extremely trustworthy/honest, and he accepts me for me. My problem comes from the fact that I don't know if what I'm experiencing is normal in a relationship and I just have to work through it or if I'm just going through a "grass is greener on the other side" phase. We haven't had sex in awhile and honestly I have no desire to, but I don't know if it's because I just need to move on from him or because he need to get over our problems. I'm just confused. I'm willing to work on our relationship but after so long of already doing so I'm wondering if there is just no use in trying anymore. Any input is appreciated.
amaysngrace Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 It sounds like you grew apart. It happens. I wouldn't try to get it back. He doesn't sound like fun doing only what he wants and being jealous of you and all. You guys have been together a long time. He should trust you by now.
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