Mysterious1 Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 (edited) I'm new to this forum so I'm not sure if this is where I should post this. I hope I'm not rambling. I am attracted to one of my co-workers. We are both nurses. He works the day shift and I work the night shift so we don't really see each other much. I asked him to go "hang out" a couple of weeks ago. He agreed but I had to cancel because I had other commitments I forgot I had. Then I asked him out again and we went out last week. We had dinner and then watched a movie together. We talked about what we could do together the following week but never really set a date or anything. While having dinner he was occupied by his phone about 30% of the time. He constantly checked his phone while we were watching a movie. I assumed that we were just "hanging out" but at the end of the night he thanked me for a "great date." He then told me to text or contact him to make plans. I should point out that he has never contacted me first. I was always the one to either call or text him first. The day after that I asked if he wanted to go to a concert with me. He wasn't sure of his plans so he said he was going to let me know by a certain day. That certain day has come and gone and he still haven't called or text me. Does this mean that he is not interested? Edited October 25, 2012 by Mysterious1
xdahliax Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 He's not interested. He wouldn't have spent so much time on his phone and he would have gotten back to you. I don't get people and their damn phones, why would you ignore the person who made time to be with you in order to focus on pseudo-conversations by way of text messaging? I like to have someone's undivided attention, dating or not. The world is going to hell in a handbasket, I say! 3
NoMoreJerks Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 A man who plays with his phone in my presence -- I will walk out on him right then and there. Seriously. If you are not interested, do not waste my time, and do not disrespect me. That is very disrespectful. He needs to learn some manners. 3
SJC2008 Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 If I was a woman and a man told me to call him after a date I would of been like AS IF! You got the ball rolling by asking him out now if he's interested he needs to take the reins! By you pursuing him your setting yourself as the for the time being girl and he'll be gone quick when someone peaks his interest more.
suladas Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 The phone should be a dealbreaker. Even after dating someone for a while, I MIGHT check my phone once at dinner, but on the first few dates I would never check it. Same with during a movie. It doesn't mean he isn't interested, but imo you shouldn't be with someone who lacks manners. Honestly though, if i'm into them, I don't need my phone they are the most important thing on my mind. 1
Author Mysterious1 Posted October 25, 2012 Author Posted October 25, 2012 If I was a woman and a man told me to call him after a date I would of been like AS IF! You got the ball rolling by asking him out now if he's interested he needs to take the reins! By you pursuing him your setting yourself as the for the time being girl and he'll be gone quick when someone peaks his interest more. I was told by my co-workers that he is shy. I don't know how true it is. We occasionally flirt with each other when we see each other at work. He doesn't seem shy to me. So I shouldn't be the one to call or text him any more?
NoMoreJerks Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 I was told by my co-workers that he is shy. I don't know how true it is. We occasionally flirt with each other when we see each other at work. He doesn't seem shy to me. So I shouldn't be the one to call or text him any more? He wasn't shy when he asked you to call or text him. It probably would've taken more effort to ask you to text him, than for him to text you. Nothing to do with being shy. Just about lack of manners and interest, IMO. He wants you to chase him. He is probably using you as an ego boost and isn't interested in you for more than just that. No, do not text him. Just let go of him. If he starts texting/calling you and changes his behaviour, I'd give him a chance, but otherwise? No. 1
suladas Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 He wasn't shy when he asked you to call or text him. It probably would've taken more effort to ask you to text him, than for him to text you. Nothing to do with being shy. Just about lack of manners and interest, IMO. He wants you to chase him. He is probably using you as an ego boost and isn't interested in you for more than just that. No, do not text him. Just let go of him. If he starts texting/calling you and changes his behaviour, I'd give him a chance, but otherwise? No. Agreed. I'm shy and I wouldn't in a million years ask a girl to call or text me after a date, that is not something a shy person does at all. The cell phone deal also isn't an excuse for being shy. Based on his behaviour I would agree, wait and see if he makes a move otherwise I wouldn't bother. 1
Author Mysterious1 Posted October 25, 2012 Author Posted October 25, 2012 I don't know what is personality is really like. I'm an assertive person. I will do what it takes to get what I want. I didn't really think twice about him asking me to text/call him to set another time to go out. I guess I'm going to have to wait and see if he even attempts to contact me first. This will drive me nuts. It will be even worse if I have to see him at work.
Emilia Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 I don't know what is personality is really like. I'm an assertive person. I will do what it takes to get what I want. I didn't really think twice about him asking me to text/call him to set another time to go out. I guess I'm going to have to wait and see if he even attempts to contact me first. This will drive me nuts. It will be even worse if I have to see him at work. Why do you still want him to contact you? He is rude and disrespectful. Is this the best you can do? I know shy guys and none of them would behave like this. This guy was raised in a barn. Next! 1
Charles Burrell Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 You should remind him once about that concert. Might be he has forgotten. Ask him politely and if he does not revert back then yes he has moved on. 1
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