spiegel549 Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 Met a girl a few days ago at a baseball game, SHE actually approached me and she asked me if I wanted to go running on the beach with her sometime. We exchanged info and later in the week went on the first date. First date went great. Lots of laugh, lots of smiling, I would test certain things like touch her arm, middle of her back as we were laughing and she was completely comfortable with it. Afterwards we grabbed lunch and I can tell she was having a great time because when I mentioned getting her home on time she said "oh its okay i can stay out a littler later." (guess she was having fun) End of the night I kissed her on the cheek, she gave me a big hug. Both agreed to see each other again over the weekend. My question is for the second date I was wondering if I should try to hold her hand, test the physical boundaries a little bit? I just don't want to move to fast and scare her away..a lot of my buddies are telling me to not try to do a anything physical and see what she does...help please!?
january2011 Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 You've already crossed the touch barrier multiple times and she did not recoil. I say go for it. 1
ffw Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 You've already crossed the touch barrier multiple times and she did not recoil. I say go for it. Contrary to Jan, I'll suggest to take it slow & know her better. It's just second date, why so rush? Remember, once you crossed certain boundaries it's very difficult to back off.
Author spiegel549 Posted October 25, 2012 Author Posted October 25, 2012 Contrary to Jan, I'll suggest to take it slow & know her better. It's just second date, why so rush? Remember, once you crossed certain boundaries it's very difficult to back off. Thank You both for your response. FFW....I was always afraid of taking things too slow and her losing interest. I guess on the second date you can't really move slow..I mean its the second date! I am taking her to a fair, I figured perfect time to test the holding hands but then again you are saying if I take it slow she will eventually be WANTING to hold my hand etc right? After all the first date I did all the touching, she didn't reach out to touch me.
ffw Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 Thank You both for your response. FFW....I was always afraid of taking things too slow and her losing interest. I guess on the second date you can't really move slow..I mean its the second date! I am taking her to a fair, I figured perfect time to test the holding hands but then again you are saying if I take it slow she will eventually be WANTING to hold my hand etc right? After all the first date I did all the touching, she didn't reach out to touch me. I can understand you are afraid of getting ending up in a freindzone. Still, to me it seems you are more focusing on getting physical rather than knowing her better & to see whether you are compataible to each other. Anyways, at the end of the day, it depends what you are looking for? Go with the flow. GL.
Author spiegel549 Posted October 25, 2012 Author Posted October 25, 2012 I can understand you are afraid of getting ending up in a freindzone. Still, to me it seems you are more focusing on getting physical rather than knowing her better & to see whether you are compataible to each other. Anyways, at the end of the day, it depends what you are looking for? Go with the flow. GL. Definitely looking to connect and see if we are compatible. I enjoy getting to know someone. I have been thrown off because of the fact SHE approached me and asked to get together with me (which is usually the opposite) I am trying to figure it out by saying "Oh I need to start making moves or I will end up in the friendzone." But really...do I need to worry about that this early on?
NoMoreJerks Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 I am the type of person who feels a bit uncomfortable with this sorta stuff. I met a guy the other day, and he touched my hand -- it kinda took me by surprise. Luckily, I didn't pull my hand away. I would've done that a year ago, even if I were interested in the guy -- but I am getting more used to / comfortable with the idea. That said, I would say the first date is too early for any touching. Second date is ok, I guess, as long as you don't overdo it. Kissing -- on the cheek only. My ex kissed me on the cheek after the 2nd date, at my door. It just happened spontaneously -- I wasn't even thinking about it, and he leaned down to kiss me on the cheek and I didn't pull back. I guess I was eager for it, so maybe that's all that matters -- whether she is eager for it/ is expecting it. You're gonna have to read her body language for clues, maybe... there's always a risk involved in this sorta thing -- that you might scare her away, but I am sure that if she's interested in you, she will give away signs (body language), that she wants to be kissed? I don't know.
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