SoonMyFriend Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 Hi LS community! I am a long time reader and now find myself in need of some help. Here's the gist - I am single after mutually ending a LTR two months ago. I have begun dating, however one boy in particular has caught my eye, however I am having a hard time trying to figure out if he is interested and whether I should be the first to make a move. So ladies & gents... here's where my overthinking comes in. Every time I talk to him, or his friends, I analyze everything thats said, not said, every look everything! How do you experienced daters learn to shut your mind off and just relax around people you are attracted to? I like this guy. I know he finds me attractive. I do not know for certain whether he knows I am single. Do I break the ice? Gents, will this spoil "the chase" for you, or only fuel your ego? Or, is it possible you can find a chick hot but not want to date her? Or do I continue to put out a few more flirty moments to see if he eventually takes the bait? EDIT: Forgot to mention... our chats have only been casual and few and far between. I know he is on POF, so do I send him a cheeky message that way? Or wait until we are alone together again? (Which could be tomorrow, next week, who knows! I don't see him often) I don't want to wait around, I want to find out if there's any chance between us. Just not sure what step to take... and my brain keeps talking me out of just going for it myself for fear of rejection... Thanks in advance from this rusty dater
Leegh Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 One thing that can help with conversation when talking to someone you are interested in, is to talk about something that you enjoy, for example, travel, gardening, etc., (whatever your hobbies are). In addition, you could say to him "Gee, I'd love it if you asked me out". That way he will get the message that you are interested, but you won't have to face rejection. Also, with the holiday season coming up soon, if you hear nothing from him by then, you could send him an e-mail saying "Happy Thanksgiving" with a few casual words, and see what he does. If you don't hear anything back from him then I would drop it. Good Luck
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