BeckyK Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 So I met this guy on match, and we've hung out a few times at the bar after our kickball games we have on Friday nights. And I was the one to instigate that. And then I've also had him to my place 3 times, to hang out and watch a movie. And he also will be going to a bonfire this weekend at my parents house. But he hasn't actually asked me out on a date? He had told me a couple weeks ago how he has trouble showing that he is interested because he moves really slow in relationships and is shy etc. But it's just like, is this guy into me or is he just like forcing himself to be with me since I'm the first girl that keeps asking him to hang out? Like he will come out and meet me too when I am at the bars, even if his friends arent out. I was also the first one to kiss him, because he hasn't really made a move (other than putting his arm around me when we watched a movie one time). I don't know if I should just keep hanging out with him, knowing that he is shy, or if he just isn't interested. I don't really understand his behaviour and why he isn't asking me out, and he actually hasn't bought me or offered to buy me a drink at the bar. Maybe he is just super cheap? lol. and then i decided im not going to text him for a few days, and see if he does anything. he's texted me every day since and tonight asked me if i started watching a show yet. i said not yet, and he said well maybe ill have to help you get started. so once again, still not a proper "will you go out to dinner with me?" whats the deal
NYC-BigKat Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 So I met this guy on match, and we've hung out a few times at the bar after our kickball games we have on Friday nights. And I was the one to instigate that. And then I've also had him to my place 3 times, to hang out and watch a movie. And he also will be going to a bonfire this weekend at my parents house. But he hasn't actually asked me out on a date? He had told me a couple weeks ago how he has trouble showing that he is interested because he moves really slow in relationships and is shy etc. But it's just like, is this guy into me or is he just like forcing himself to be with me since I'm the first girl that keeps asking him to hang out? Like he will come out and meet me too when I am at the bars, even if his friends arent out. I was also the first one to kiss him, because he hasn't really made a move (other than putting his arm around me when we watched a movie one time). I don't know if I should just keep hanging out with him, knowing that he is shy, or if he just isn't interested. I don't really understand his behaviour and why he isn't asking me out, and he actually hasn't bought me or offered to buy me a drink at the bar. Maybe he is just super cheap? lol. and then i decided im not going to text him for a few days, and see if he does anything. he's texted me every day since and tonight asked me if i started watching a show yet. i said not yet, and he said well maybe ill have to help you get started. so once again, still not a proper "will you go out to dinner with me?" whats the deal Uhh..like u said he's shy right? He's so lucky to have a girl so interested in him when I cant get any girls into me at all nope .
todreaminblue Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 So I met this guy on match, and we've hung out a few times at the bar after our kickball games we have on Friday nights. And I was the one to instigate that. And then I've also had him to my place 3 times, to hang out and watch a movie. And he also will be going to a bonfire this weekend at my parents house. But he hasn't actually asked me out on a date? He had told me a couple weeks ago how he has trouble showing that he is interested because he moves really slow in relationships and is shy etc. But it's just like, is this guy into me or is he just like forcing himself to be with me since I'm the first girl that keeps asking him to hang out? Like he will come out and meet me too when I am at the bars, even if his friends arent out. I was also the first one to kiss him, because he hasn't really made a move (other than putting his arm around me when we watched a movie one time). I don't know if I should just keep hanging out with him, knowing that he is shy, or if he just isn't interested. I don't really understand his behaviour and why he isn't asking me out, and he actually hasn't bought me or offered to buy me a drink at the bar. Maybe he is just super cheap? lol. and then i decided im not going to text him for a few days, and see if he does anything. he's texted me every day since and tonight asked me if i started watching a show yet. i said not yet, and he said well maybe ill have to help you get started. so once again, still not a proper "will you go out to dinner with me?" whats the deal people move at different speeds he has a slow hand......nothing wrong with that.......again that depends how fast you want him to move...if you truly like the guy you will take it as it comes and enjoy your time together...dont worry about the speed just enjoy the momentum you have now.....and watch it grow.....there could be lots of reasons why he doesn't buy drinks or take you out to dinner....he might not have the money for one.. that is a guess...you know he is shy, shy people normally have slow hands.....do you like slow hands??? because i would say the guy likes you how much do you like him?....best wishes...deb
Carenth Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 If he is shy, it is quite possible he doesn't have much experience with dating. Which will in turn mean you will probably have to take the lead with most things. I noticed you yourself have not actually stated if you like this guy yourself and seem to be more concerned about whether he likes you or not. I would say he does he wouldn't be spending so much time with you if he didn't, he just may have no clue as to what to do next. Have you talked to him at all about past relationships? what hes looking for etc? The question for you is would you be happy been in a relationship where you are taking the lead? For most girls I know the answer is no, others wouldn't mind so much.
spiegel549 Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Becky I have a lot of guy friends that are very shy when it comes to "making a move." He definitely is interested in you because it seems that every time you invited him to get together he has gotten together with you. I also do not think there is anything wrong with you inviting him out/making the first move BUT you have to relax a bit and let him do some of the inviting. When you said you backed off and then he contacted you and said "well I am going to have to help you with that." He was inviting you to get together, yeah he words it differently then the direct "do you want to go out" approach but he seems shy, or maybe just moves slower then others. Thats okay though. At the end of the day you gotta think. Do you like him? Do you two have chemistry? Do you two laugh and have a good time together? Does he give you good body language (eye contact, body faces you when he speaks, smiles etc) If so just have fun! Don't make it a big issue, but don't do all the inviting..maybe get a little "busy" work, school etc and then have him invite you to a few things.
todreaminblue Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Uhh..like u said he's shy right? He's so lucky to have a girl so interested in him when I cant get any girls into me at all nope . awwwww.....smilin....hugs....get out there and meet them theres one for you .........you cant get because you aint lookin.......in the right places..just enjoy yourself smile about life in general and they will find you while you are out enjoying yourself..deb
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