robaday Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 My ex cut all ties with me 2 months ago. I didnt really do the same, two of her friends became really good friends of mine and I really like them both. Recently two were talking to me about seperate stuff, I enjoyed talking to them again, didnt mention the ex at all, just spoke about music. But I recently sent both an email (following on from our conversations) asking them something and they have both ignored and not replied. Seems a little strange, because Ive known both for like 5 years (worked with one and went on holiday with the other).......just seems weird. I treat them distinctly to my ex, dont ever mention my ex in conversation but value their friendship a lot.
Simon Phoenix Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 My ex cut all ties with me 2 months ago. I didnt really do the same, two of her friends became really good friends of mine and I really like them both. Recently two were talking to me about seperate stuff, I enjoyed talking to them again, didnt mention the ex at all, just spoke about music. But I recently sent both an email (following on from our conversations) asking them something and they have both ignored and not replied. Seems a little strange, because Ive known both for like 5 years (worked with one and went on holiday with the other).......just seems weird. I treat them distinctly to my ex, dont ever mention my ex in conversation but value their friendship a lot. Maybe they were busy and forgot to respond to your e-mail? I wouldn't worry too much about it unless it happens more than once. But I hear you on the mutual friends thing. My most recent ex is the sister-in-law of my best friend and I've known his wife (her sister) for much longer than I've known her. This past weekend I was with the two of them (friend and sister, not the ex) and his brother and wife. And at least the first night I couldn't get out of talking about the situation, at least when my ex's sister wasn't in ear shot. I guess I can't blame them -- it's juicy gossip -- but it was a bit annoying. Was frustrating, though everyone seemed to have my back in the affair and were calling her an idiot and said she should crawl back to me. But yeah, would have been much easier to date someone with no ties to my circle.
Author robaday Posted October 26, 2012 Author Posted October 26, 2012 Na, neither got back to me. Maybe Im paranoid just hope she isnt spreading stuff about me because its very strange for these two people Ive known them for a long time and theyve never taken sides.
Simon Phoenix Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 Na, neither got back to me. Maybe Im paranoid just hope she isnt spreading stuff about me because its very strange for these two people Ive known them for a long time and theyve never taken sides. Sucks. Well, call them up next week (or text, whatever). If they keep avoiding you, then f--k them.
Author robaday Posted October 26, 2012 Author Posted October 26, 2012 One I bumped into (worked with him 6 years, didnt know my ex first three years i worked with him, he introduced us) recently at a party for old colleagues, we had a good chat. Called him the following week to go for a beer and he didnt reply to my voicemail, so dropped him an email. Nothing back. The other, she was at a gig I went to, so asked her if it was any good, weve spoken a lot until recently.
CptSaveAho Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 Move on ... quit circle jerking around your ex 1
Author robaday Posted October 26, 2012 Author Posted October 26, 2012 Mate I am - seriously aint contacted her in 2 months complete NC, have gone on couple dates recently. He was closer to me than her i.e. hadnt spoken to her in 2 years, while the other one got in touch with me. Its more a question of losing friends than her.
CptSaveAho Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 No you aren't, i'm going to say this in the nicest possible way. You are being a WUSS. Get new friends. You talk about the ex on here in every thread, I am pretty sure you talk about the ex to them. Wonder why they dont respond to you? They dont want to hear it either. My advice... 1) Get some MALE friends 2) Stop being a WUSS 3) Stop talking about your ex 4) Stop dating ... from my perspective, you act like a raving lunatic obsessed with an ex. Every post youve created has some sort of EX from the present to the past in it. 5) I hear therapy is amazing for those that actually want to improve their own lives 1
Author robaday Posted October 26, 2012 Author Posted October 26, 2012 1) Get some MALE friends Dude, I have plenty of male friends. 2) Stop being a WUSS Your right. That is why I am on a forum asking advice 3) Stop talking about your ex Dude I dont talk to my friends, family or anyone about her. This is the only place I do. Its my only outlet. 4) Stop dating ... from my perspective, you act like a raving lunatic obsessed with an ex. Every post youve created has some sort of EX from the present to the past in it. Obsessed. Its been a month and a half since the end of a 3 year off and on relationship. Maybe I am obsessed but I realistically it will take me quite some time to be fully 100% again. 5) I hear therapy is amazing for those that actually want to improve their own lives Went for three years. They were Freudians and scared the living bejesus out of me. It was a good outlet, a sounding board for talking about my problems. Now I do it on a forum. is that not what this forum is for?
Jamesblame Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 It sucks. I broke an engagement and lost SOOOO many people who I considered good friends. It was painful...almost more painful than losing my fiancee. But at the end of the day, when the dust settles you'll make new friends. And just stay open to them if they want to come back. Also take this as a lesson to NEVER trust your social life to your romantic partner. Everyone does it...and everyone is really hurt when it blows up in their face. And more importantly next time it'll be much better.
Simon Phoenix Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 CaptnSaveAho, is it necessary to attack everyone who starts a thread? I realize tough love is your thing, but christ, even gibson is more subtle than you are. The guy wasn't being a wuss, no need to call the dude names. There are definitely people on here that are deserving of the "tough love" treatment, but I don't think this thread is one of them. Vary your game a bit dude.
CptSaveAho Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 (edited) pm's are fun and useful ive waited a while before issuing tough love on him.... he's been posting about this ex since May/June.... his posts are now full of BS and Im calling him out on it It was warranted. Stop being a woman Edited October 26, 2012 by CptSaveAho
Author robaday Posted October 26, 2012 Author Posted October 26, 2012 May/June was when we first broke up. Then she came back. And we have since broken up again. Thats why Im still posting about it......it hasnt been a clean break since May/June, we got back together for two months.
Sugarkane Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 The same thing happened to me. I've run into them and they couldn't even look me in the eye. Instead they side with a cheater. Good riddance!
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