Natty86 Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Ok so have been talking to this guy for a month or so, he's lovely very nice and seems to be very genuine...... We met up for coffee which we talked for hours everything was great, I was attracted to him with his personailty and looks. So the next day, I thought hmmm do I wait for him to text me?????..... And he did texting has been back and forth since:) but this week I msged him and he was his normal talkative self but stated he's really busy trying to get a job completed, that's fully understandable and I said "well I'll leave ya to it, don't work to hard n have a good day :)" I got back from him" sweet- you to:)" now I haven't heard anything from him since 4 days ago?? I'm blind to see if hes really keen or not ?? Do I just leave it and move on? Or do I just keep playing it cool???
Carenth Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Stop playing the silly games, if you want to talk to him then talk to him.
todreaminblue Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Ok so have been talking to this guy for a month or so, he's lovely very nice and seems to be very genuine...... We met up for coffee which we talked for hours everything was great, I was attracted to him with his personailty and looks. So the next day, I thought hmmm do I wait for him to text me?????..... And he did texting has been back and forth since:) but this week I msged him and he was his normal talkative self but stated he's really busy trying to get a job completed, that's fully understandable and I said "well I'll leave ya to it, don't work to hard n have a good day :)" I got back from him" sweet- you to:)" now I haven't heard anything from him since 4 days ago?? I'm blind to see if hes really keen or not ?? Do I just leave it and move on? Or do I just keep playing it cool??? text when you feel like texting......even if it something little to say hey hows your day what are you up to........he will either text back or not....if he doesn't he might be busy or he is not honestly not interested you got a reply so the not interest thing doesnt apply its now your turn to text conversations normally involve questions and answers then a relay with text batons attached in my opinion he passed the baton so start running with the text back i feel...best wishes deb... 1
veggirl Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 wait so you have only SEEN him once in this month? he has never asked you on a 2nd date? I think he is blowing you off, I wouldn't text him. He's the one that is sooo busy, he can let you know when that slows down I guess. (I wouldn't answer then tho)
NoMoreJerks Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Nothing wrong with initiating texting yourself, as long as it's not ALL the time... because that shows that he's not interested .. do it once, and see if he reciprocates the next time.. then try once more (after a few days, in case he happened to be really busy for a day or two), and see if he reciprocates.. if he doesn't in both instances, then he's not interested, IMO.. No one is too busy for so long that he cannot spare a few seconds to text you. that is bs. 2
Author Natty86 Posted October 25, 2012 Author Posted October 25, 2012 Thanks for the advice sweethearts well I text him and all seems ok been trying to think like a male and don't want to constantly text him, and I Guess its payed off and he wants to catch up next week I'm happy going slow:) thanks again xoxo
Author Natty86 Posted October 25, 2012 Author Posted October 25, 2012 Thank you " just a poster" I am taking every thing everyone says it all helps I'm not that great at this dating crap but my social life isn't what it use to be and starting to think the old u get the harder it is:-/ so any advice is good:) I'm just happy taking things slow happy getting to know this guy before rushing but it is nice hearing from him, I do get what you mean that there is always time but hes kinda the same been out of the dating life along time now and neither of us wana stuff up things lol if that makes sense????
NoMoreJerks Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 The guy tells you he's busy at work, you tell him "ok, I'll leave you alone so you can get done what needs to get done" - and then he blows you OFF for 4 days? Is he at work at 7 pm? 9 pm? 10 pm? Every single night? He doesn't take lunch? He doesn't commute to work in the morning and back home at night? My point is that there were MANY MANY times he could have called for 2 minutes or simply sent a text. HE DIDN'T. And YOU reached out 4 days later after he didn't even bother to reach out to YOU??? Sorry, but you've set the tone - you look needy now. I agree with this. It's not looking good for OP, even if he did say he wants to "catch up." That said, the reason I said initiate the texting yourself, is so that you will know for sure. You don't want to keep asking yourself "what-if" after you walk away from this guy. I , for one, would want to make sure I did everything I reasonably could have , to show interest and give him a chance or two. If, after OP initiates the text he does not reply for a day or more, and does not initiate texting the next time around, then she knows for sure that he is not interested. But if it just happened once, I'd give him the opportunity to show me that this is not a pattern in his behaviour, but that it was a one-off thing. 1
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