CheckIt Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Well I've hanged out with this girl more than a few times and I'm just really confused if shes into me or not. The small/big signs i see makes me think shes into me, but then i doubt them... I'll write out the full story later. We agreed to go to an event a few weeks ago, then she kind of forgot which weekend, and then we talked about it and she said she had to take work off and she'll tell me when it would be okay. Then in the next few days she invited me to hang out with her, we hung out for a bit, and i asked her if she knows when it would be okay for her to go to the event. She told me she thought it's going to be NEXT weekend, cuz she forgot... Anyways i don't think she knows that I'm not going to be paying for her since it's quite a bit of money. I thought she knew about the event so i didn't tell her. I'm ganna give her the details of the event and stuff. I'm guessing she doesn't know how much it is, so she'll possibly say it's too much or something of that sort. If she doesnt suggest to go somewhere else, do you think i should ask her if she wants to go out with me somewhere else? I just feel that waiting till the next day to find her and ask her out is just kinda weird lol. I'll be asking all this via text. I really like her and i think she likes me too, so would it be bad to ask her if she wants to go out with me somewhere else in this little situation? I know it's lame and shows no confidence if you ask her out via text, but i feel like it would be okay for me. I may be wrong... advice please. I keep thinking she thinks that i'll be paying, but it's obvious that the event will be costly cuz she knew what it was. She's pretty oblivious...
xdahliax Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 I don't understand the story. But here's what I think I understood: -You two discussed going to an event together -She forgot the date -The event is expensive and you're worried that she thinks you're paying I would not pay a lot of money to go out on a date with a girl who forgot about the date. I'm a girl and I don't forget about dates with guys I really like. I also wouldn't stress myself out about whether she knows who's paying, or put myself in a position where I'd feel embarrassed about not being able to pay. If you still want to go out on a date with her, do something inexpensive. And for goodness sake, don't ask her out by text. Pick up the phone and CALL HER. You have balls, don't you? 1
Author CheckIt Posted October 24, 2012 Author Posted October 24, 2012 I gatta text her the details. What am i ganna do text her the details, she says it's too expensive and i thought you're paying, and im just ganna call her? Lol that's so weird. It wasn't a date, i just asked if she wanted to go to an event. I didn't like ask, ask her out. She just forgot what week we were going.
xdahliax Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 I gatta text her the details. What am i ganna do text her the details, she says it's too expensive and i thought you're paying, and im just ganna call her? Lol that's so weird. It wasn't a date, i just asked if she wanted to go to an event. I didn't like ask, ask her out. She just forgot what week we were going. If she forgot you were going, it clearly doesn't mean much to her. So instead of texting her the details, call her and tell her that you have something important on that day. Ask her to go out another time and propose something fun. What's your obsession with texting? Anyway, if you insist on texting and on following through with it then here's what you can write "Hey, so the event you forgot about is on ___ and it costs $___. PS: You probably think I'm paying for you because of my lack of social skills, but you're on your own"
Author CheckIt Posted October 24, 2012 Author Posted October 24, 2012 I don't think you understand... She didn't forget about the event. She thought it was on a different week. We barely ever text, so i don't have a texting obsession?
xdahliax Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 I don't think you understand... She didn't forget about the event. She thought it was on a different week. We barely ever text, so i don't have a texting obsession? Same as forgetting. And you do seem to have a texting obsession because I told you to call her and you told me that you have to text her the details.
spiegel549 Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Anytime you ask a woman out on a date, you must CALL HER. Texting is a childish high school thing to do. Save the texting for later down the road if you need to ask for her address or something simple. Also, never drop a lot of money until you get to know someone. Start off with a coffee shop date, go for a walk, go to a fun but inexpensive lunch. Then a few dates in if you two have hit it off then maybe take her to a nice event that costs a little more money. If she "thought it was another weekend," she might not be that interested. How old are you/she btw?
Author CheckIt Posted October 24, 2012 Author Posted October 24, 2012 We've hung out a few times before and we're pretty comfortable with each other. I guess i could cancel it and ask if she wants to go somewhere else with me instead. I'm 18, shes 17.
spiegel549 Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 We've hung out a few times before and we're pretty comfortable with each other. I guess i could cancel it and ask if she wants to go somewhere else with me instead. I'm 18, shes 17. So heres the deal, she is young. You are obviously still young yourself but 17 year old girls do not know what they want. They are still growing (in life) I am assuming she is a senior in high school about to go to college soon or close. When she goes to college it will be her first time out and away from her parents, she is going to want to party, have fun, experience meeting new people etc. The bottom line is this. If this chick is into you, she will make time and see you. Look at it this way, if you were busy and this girl you were really into asked you to dinner or w.e. would you make time to squeeze her in? If she's interested in you she will make time. The excuses, the games, are all B.S. no offense but I think you need to man it up a bit. I am not saying you aren't a man, I am just saying you gotta start playing your cards better. She messages you, don't always respond right away. She asks you out, don't always be available. You invite her out and she makes excuses, act like its not big deal "oh ok no problem maybe another time." then don't call her for a while. My man you gotta just feel it out, trial and error is the only way to learn. If shes down with you she will hang with you. if not, excuses will come one after the other. If that continues go with the old MTV show saying.."NEXT!!"
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