spareohs Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Hey guys! I know a lot of these posts are kind of sad and mopey, mine included. But there must be a reason we put ourselves through this turmoil. So I want to hear what you love about your SO, why you'd rather be with them at a distance than with anyone else closer, little tricks to make the distance more bearable, etc. For me, I keep a countdown app on my phone. Every day I see that number shrinking, and it keeps me super excited. Also a week before I know he's going to be here, I start hunting for his favorite recipes and perfecting them so he can have some super yummy homecooked meals while he's here. We also send each other songs every day, and play guitar together over FaceTime to keep us feeling close. While he isn't the most super romantic guy, I know that he would do anything for me, and when I need him, he's always there, even if he doesn't always know what to say. I just want everyone to get all mushy! It's hard to explain to non LDR-ers those feelings, and I know sometimes I feel like I'm going to explode without anyone to talk to about how I feel about him. So let's get sappy! 2
CherryT Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 Great idea. I have good days and bad... we've been together since end of July. Right now we've been 2 weeks apart and have to wait another 4. We are going away for the Holidays and will be able to spend a little over 2 weeks together! He is very respectful to my feelings even though he knows that I am independent. He always lets me know what his plans are, who he's hanging out with, etc without me having to ask him first. He sends me little love notes throughout the day and isn't afraid to express his feelings. I miss him but you're right... I would rather put myself through this to be with him then to be with someone here.
amayana Posted October 27, 2012 Posted October 27, 2012 For me, I keep a countdown app on my phone. Every day I see that number shrinking, and it keeps me super excited. Also a week before I know he's going to be here, I start hunting for his favorite recipes and perfecting them so he can have some super yummy homecooked meals while he's here. We also send each other songs every day, and play guitar together over FaceTime to keep us feeling close. While he isn't the most super romantic guy, I know that he would do anything for me, and when I need him, he's always there, even if he doesn't always know what to say. The Countdown app is a great idea! I have one on my desktop so that I can look at the seconds and minutes and hours dwindling away as I'm doing work or just surfing on the web. My boyfriend and I do a lot of things "together" as we figured that it must be one of the main factors that helps a couple feel bonded. We watch movies every once in a while, sometimes we just watch Family Guy or Breaking Bad episodes together. We have a private "love blog" and post random pictures, videos or stories for each other. We read novels at the same time and discuss the chapters and our impressions they leave as we read on. We also have some kind of reward system. Since we're both in college we have papers to write and projects to turn in. So we reward each other when we get things done and it's working really well. We obviously plan trips together too and talk about the next time we see each other. There are countless things we do apart from the generic LDR stuff. We both try to be creative and come up with new ideas. And why him and not anyone else? Well, I'm in love with him and he is in love with me and our relationship is great, even if we have to love across continents. Why did I fall in love with him rather than another guy? I don't know and I guess that is one of the great mysteries in life that still needs to be discovered and explained. I just want everyone to get all mushy! It's hard to explain to non LDR-ers those feelings, and I know sometimes I feel like I'm going to explode without anyone to talk to about how I feel about him. So let's get sappy! I think this is a wonderful thread spareohs! I hope more people will leave posts here so that we can all lighten up a bit and learn from each other
todreaminblue Posted October 27, 2012 Posted October 27, 2012 Hey guys! I know a lot of these posts are kind of sad and mopey, mine included. But there must be a reason we put ourselves through this turmoil. So I want to hear what you love about your SO, why you'd rather be with them at a distance than with anyone else closer, little tricks to make the distance more bearable, etc. For me, I keep a countdown app on my phone. Every day I see that number shrinking, and it keeps me super excited. Also a week before I know he's going to be here, I start hunting for his favorite recipes and perfecting them so he can have some super yummy homecooked meals while he's here. We also send each other songs every day, and play guitar together over FaceTime to keep us feeling close. While he isn't the most super romantic guy, I know that he would do anything for me, and when I need him, he's always there, even if he doesn't always know what to say. I just want everyone to get all mushy! It's hard to explain to non LDR-ers those feelings, and I know sometimes I feel like I'm going to explode without anyone to talk to about how I feel about him. So let's get sappy! Love through hardship and distance builds character for sure.Lets you know exactly how much you miss someone.....your thread made me goo awww keewt....lol......even though i hate missing someone.......still went awwww kewt.....the excitement when you know they are going to be there within hours is the best aint it....thank you for posting this thread i wish every one on it much love and happiness..... i used to organsie everything(sometimes it would be him organising things for me to come to him and he did send me music huge flower arrangements etc) the flights, the nights just me and him special foods he loved he loved my cooking....i would dress in something i knew he liked and wait for him....i would buy anything i knew he liked..i would have the house sparkling from top to bottom.....i would be sitting on the front steps waiting for him..until i found out he was serial cheating on me and it lost its sparkle..whenever we were apart from then on i would try and end it i couldnt deal with the knowledge i had.....he would fly back and convince me to try more..would i do this for a good man again someone who i loved and loved me back.who didnt cheat..without a doubt its what i do when i care.....i love all your ideas.....ltr are hard even harder when its not committed i am glad you guys have that its the only way it does work...cant be one person doing all the hard yards.....you guys rock.....deb
Kageoni Posted October 27, 2012 Posted October 27, 2012 Well every morning id always text her "morning beautiful" and then just talk to her when i was free. When she came round id look my very best and cos she slept over she always climbed in my bed cos of my fam but id cook her fav breky in bed. Wed go out for abit shopping then get home and go for a sleep together. Wed just cuddle all the time.
Author spareohs Posted October 29, 2012 Author Posted October 29, 2012 Aw you guys really made me smile! It's so good to see that you all have your own little routines, and that you have cute little inside jokes and tricks to keep the distance easier on you. Being in a LDR really produces a special kind of bond. I know I'm nervous when we're actually together that it will be weird and hard to adjust, but I try to keep thoughts like that out of my mind. The love blog idea is great, Amayana! It's important to have a space for just you two. And Cherry, I wish my guy was as communicative as yours! Knowing where someone is and that they're thinking of you really goes a long way, I think. We're still working on that one. I'm still adjusting to being in love with a flaky musician artist type. He's gotten SOOOOOO much better though, so I can't complain too much. todreaminblue, Thanks for the encouragement! It's so hard, I'm sure you know, but it's absolutely worth it in the end. Kageoni, that's so cute! You've gotta remember to let people know you care, and the little gestures mean the most!
CherryT Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Aw you guys really made me smile! It's so good to see that you all have your own little routines, and that you have cute little inside jokes and tricks to keep the distance easier on you. Being in a LDR really produces a special kind of bond. I know I'm nervous when we're actually together that it will be weird and hard to adjust, but I try to keep thoughts like that out of my mind. The love blog idea is great, Amayana! It's important to have a space for just you two. And Cherry, I wish my guy was as communicative as yours! Knowing where someone is and that they're thinking of you really goes a long way, I think. We're still working on that one. I'm still adjusting to being in love with a flaky musician artist type. He's gotten SOOOOOO much better though, so I can't complain too much. todreaminblue, Thanks for the encouragement! It's so hard, I'm sure you know, but it's absolutely worth it in the end. Kageoni, that's so cute! You've gotta remember to let people know you care, and the little gestures mean the most! He is wonderful! And you're right, it does go a long way. He always sends me pictures and him and his friends will take short videos saying Hi and he'll send them to me and vice versa. I was out this past weekend pretty late and he had fallen asleep... when I woke up in the morning, I had a message around 4 AM and with a "woke myself up to make sure you got home safe" because we always would text each other just to say we're home and goodnight. He's the only person who's made this much effort with me... and I've been in 3+ year relationships with someone I thought were "the one"... boy was I wrong and I did deserve more. LDR force you to focus on communicating and when it's really an even playing field, you really feel the love. You feel it right away when the convenience of being around someone all the time is taken away.
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