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Why cant I just let go.

Vikki_26

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Thank you both, today is his 28th birthday. I won't be texting him. I am letting go now. I feel stronger and like a weight has been lifted off me :)

 

aww i dident see this yesterday but wow happy birthday wow you go girl let that man go too much good men out there:D;)

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taya Established Member

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Thank you so much sissy. I won't be contacting him ever again. It could be seen by many as maybe too soon but I'm so excited I have a date on Thursday! :) he seems so nice too. I'm so nervous!

 

 

a date hahahahaha wow you go girl so pround of you damn go girl:p:lmao: have lots of fun on your date

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Ah thanks for your comments still.

 

I am not going to reach out to talk to him or anything. But sometimes I worry about him, and hope his okay. Last he said to me was that his really depressed. I hope his okay. I am sure he is. Part of me things I shouldnt care, but I do. Just hope his okay and doing alright. That doesnt mean I want him or anything or to make contact. Just hope his doing okay. Something which is hard not to know.

taya Established Member

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Ah thanks for your comments still.

 

I am not going to reach out to talk to him or anything. But sometimes I worry about him, and hope his okay. Last he said to me was that his really depressed. I hope his okay. I am sure he is. Part of me things I shouldnt care, but I do. Just hope his okay and doing alright. That doesnt mean I want him or anything or to make contact. Just hope his doing okay. Something which is hard not to know.

 

yeah i understand and its ok you wonder if hes ok ..just remember to not text or bother him let him fixes his problems just like how you have to fixs yours .. he left you your not is gf anymore so you dont have to call or text to see if hes find ..so mantain your self respect

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Read the threads as I was in the same shoe needing advice if I should try to win him back or just let go. Really happy for Vikki winning NC and giving me lots of courage :) Your supporters are wonderful!

 

My current state is longing a 'replacement' for him while NC. But I know I shouldn't have a date until I can stop thinking of him everyday...:(

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You aren't actually into advice and putting positive change into practice. You are needy and like constant attention. FIX THIS before you inflict yourself on someone else.

 

And you aren't working? GET BACK TO WORK.. distract, Distract, DISTRACT!

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Well what can I say, Ive made no contact to my ex. Can not see what I saw in him sometimes. I feel so much better lately. I dunno whats happened but I love it! I feel like my broken heart is cured!! whooohoo!

 

And my date was lovely last night :D

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taya Established Member

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Well what can I say, Ive made no contact to my ex. Can not see what I saw in him sometimes. I feel so much better lately. I dunno whats happened but I love it! I feel like my broken heart is cured!! whooohoo!

 

And my date was lovely last night :D

 

 

hahaha am happy for you girl am happy you fight the fight and now feel better and know that you dont need any man that treat you like garbage the most important thing your doing for your self now by not contacting him or bother him is regaining your self respect and your self worth ..am happy your date was great it just show us women better men are out there we just have to let go the bad ones ....we only live once why not live being happy :)

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Read the threads as I was in the same shoe needing advice if I should try to win him back or just let go. Really happy for Vikki winning NC and giving me lots of courage :) Your supporters are wonderful!

 

My current state is longing a 'replacement' for him while NC. But I know I shouldn't have a date until I can stop thinking of him everyday...:(

 

Hey hope u are fine. Well I just want to let u know that dont wait for too long, let things happen in natural way. Its ok to wait till u get over him but if in meantime u get somebody to be close to, u should go on.... U never know he may help u forget him faster if he be a nice guy...

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hahaha am happy for you girl am happy you fight the fight and now feel better and know that you dont need any man that treat you like garbage the most important thing your doing for your self now by not contacting him or bother him is regaining your self respect and your self worth ..am happy your date was great it just show us women better men are out there we just have to let go the bad ones ....we only live once why not live being happy :)

 

I absolutely admire u taya on this....:love:

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taya Established Member

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I absolutely admire u taya on this....:love:

 

 

aww thank you hun and i hope you doing great as well?

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Yup taya i am doing good, how bout u honey?

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Different situation but ultimately the same. The pain is deeper than any pain I have ever felt. The feeling of despair is deeper than anything I have ever felt. My brain tells me that I need to run away and not come back but my heart aches like nothing I have ever experienced.

Thank you for posting your story because it gives me comfort to know I am NOT alone.

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Yup taya i am doing good, how bout u honey?

 

 

am great girl thanks am so happy with my life and everting now i have learn a lot and been thru alot but because of all that am a better woman today just liveing happy from day to day cant beat that :love::D

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Different situation but ultimately the same. The pain is deeper than any pain I have ever felt. The feeling of despair is deeper than anything I have ever felt. My brain tells me that I need to run away and not come back but my heart aches like nothing I have ever experienced.

Thank you for posting your story because it gives me comfort to know I am NOT alone.

 

 

 

yeah we all know the hurt you feel but you have to just let it all go and free your self stop worring over this person or make a fool out your self over them if they wanted you wouldent they have been with you stop the hurt and stressing your self out over someone put your self first put your self respect and self worth first and dont run away hun stand up and fight it will get easyer you just have to let this person go ..dont call text or bother them JUST LET THEM GO ...sit and think about it for a minute <ARE THEY DRIVEING THEM SELF CRAZY IN PAIN OVER YOU?? we both know the answer to that question is NO ...ASK YOUR SELF THIS NOW ...WHY SHOULD YOU???? ...so take the first step now and completly delete them out of your life and you will be on your way to healing and being a happy person ..and dont worry you will find someone eles

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99.9% over this guy I would say. Just noticed today though his unblocked me on Twitter and Facebook. As facebook has brought up loads of old photos. Which I have removed off my fb. Question is do I now block him, or just ignore anything I might see when he comments on mutual friends fb walls. We arent friends on fb but share friends if you see what I mean.

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I am deleting this msg... sorry.

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taya Established Member

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:)

99.9% over this guy I would say. Just noticed today though his unblocked me on Twitter and Facebook. As facebook has brought up loads of old photos. Which I have removed off my fb. Question is do I now block him, or just ignore anything I might see when he comments on mutual friends fb walls. We arent friends on fb but share friends if you see what I mean.

 

 

girl you owe him nothing as we told you i would keep him block and you know why he unblock you its because he see you stop bothering him he his now thinking wow i havent ear from her because your not making a fool out of your self over him anymore ..so he unblock you to see what you will do so dont unblock him and dont talk to him after a while when he see you still not bothering him he may even take it a sep fature and try to contact you and thats when you show him its over your done being his fool you have moved on with your life ...your doing a great job dont give in because this guy have not been great to you always remember that ....

 

i remember when i read your post for the first time one of the things you said that stood out to me was... I WANT TO GAIN MY SELF RESPECT BACK...well hun i can tell you now, you have gain your self respect back ....and dont ever lose it again over a man .....dont unblock him on facebk because you owe him nothing

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sorry again Vicky....I am going back to my thread

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taya Established Member

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show him you have let him go

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He has unblocked me, I dont have him blocked.... yet?

 

Trouble is I am now seeing (whilst actively searching for it) I know, why dont I stop? Curiosity kills the cat!! His tweeting a girl on his twitter 'see you tomorrow :)' and 'thanks for a great evening' and she put 'thanks for an amazing time'

 

Why am I still a hurt by this? Annoyed almost as he said he wanted to be on his own!! Its like his unblocked me so I could see!!!

 

Plus I cant help but compare myself to this girl in looks etc

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He has unblocked me, I dont have him blocked.... yet?

 

Trouble is I am now seeing (whilst actively searching for it) I know, why dont I stop? Curiosity kills the cat!! His tweeting a girl on his twitter 'see you tomorrow :)' and 'thanks for a great evening' and she put 'thanks for an amazing time'

 

Why am I still a hurt by this? Annoyed almost as he said he wanted to be on his own!! Its like his unblocked me so I could see!!!

 

Plus I cant help but compare myself to this girl in looks etc

 

you dont have to block him but if you want to go ahead. but dont let this guy pull you back in is web dont go an face book or his twitter stay away from him and everthing hes doing your still healing until you finaly heal and have know feeling at all for this guy you will be hurt when you see stuff like that.... so stay away ..your right he might even unblock you for you to see what hes doing so you can come running back ..and i would carel ess if hes with some other girl and what they doing hes not a good guy so you not missing out on anything...dont over think just let everting go

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It's tough only time will help. Knowing what/who they are doing hurts but it might be the thing you need to let go and move on. I was crushed when I seen my ex with a new guy, now it's been a week and i'm the best i've been since the BU. It's helped me I think in the end.

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It's tough only time will help. Knowing what/who they are doing hurts but it might be the thing you need to let go and move on. I was crushed when I seen my ex with a new guy, now it's been a week and i'm the best i've been since the BU. It's helped me I think in the end.

aww your doing better now hun thats great to ear ;)

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I agree. Do not contact. No contact is supposed to be for you to heal and move on. Does it work? Eventually I guess but I am far from there. My 15 month relationship ended 2 months ago when I got sick of being lied to and cheated on as well as being taken for granted. No contact began by accident when he sensed my pulling away and quit calling. Was he really done with me or wanting me to beg? Dont know but I needed time away. After a few weeks I wanted to talk to him so I texted asking him to talk. He said we would but never made the effort. I tried this one more time...same thing...said he'd call and he didnt. So at that point I was done. 2 weeks after my last text I got an "im sorry". I dont know if this was because he was sorry about the whole thing, sorry he didnt call as he said he would, or sorry ...its OVER. Anyhow I havent contacted since. He is on facebook. I am not. Who knows what he is doing but Im glad I dont know. I doubt he is thinking about me but if he does he now has no clue of what I am up to. Basically I have fell off the face of the earth to him because he has NO IDEA about me. He doesnt know if I am having the time of my life with someone else or crying in bed. Unfortunately its been the bed scene. Somehow I need to get my self, head and esteem together. I know Im a catch, good person and better than most he will meet. They say the best revenge is to live well and be happy. Somehow I will get there. I hope I NEVER see him again but if I bump into him I know I need to be healed happy and have my head up. Dont contact anymore, I know its hard but it is best for your esteem. If anyone is REALLY interested, they will come for you. If they dont..their loss.

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