IrishDater Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 I would say I'm a veteran in online dating and really dont get nervous anymore on the first date HOWEVER I just had a 2nd date with a girl I met online and she totally flustered me at the end, never has that happened before. Did I screw up by not asking her out again before the date ended? I tend to feel that puts the girl on the spot. Quick backstory: 1st date she treated me to a show in SF, great time! 2nd date was dinner last night my treat. We are 30. There isnt a bunch of texting or calling going on. Which is different and refreshing, just 'are you free, yes, when and where, ok I'll see you there' kind of thing. She is independent and career focused but does want kids. During our dinner she mentioned a bad date where they didnt connect and the guy texted her right after asking her out again. She also mentioned her past 2 year relationship started online and they lined up the next date usually before the current one was over. She also joked she went on a date with a younger dude and that "they are good for one thing" ... referring to getting down Which I'm surprised she said that as she seems very reserved. Younger dude didnt work out she said. That being said....dinner and conversation went well. It ended a little sooner than I thought, I started to really get interested and intrigued by her. I walked her to her car, said good by and that was it. I was so flustered by how much moer I started to like her I didnt ask to see her again, kinda weird and never happeend before. Since she is a straight shooter I thought screw it and called 45 min after the date and kinda joke about being flustered and asked her out again. left a voicemail. I'm hoping she says yes. What do you all think? Screwed up? When do you ask to line up a 2nd or 3rd date?
january2011 Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 I usually advise posters to arrange the next date towards the end of the current date - doesn't have to be set in stone but it's useful to get an idea of availability and likely activity. You can't go back and change the first date. But you did rectify the oversight. So, the ball is in her court to get back to you. Focus on something else to stop yourself from overthinking about this.
Author IrishDater Posted October 24, 2012 Author Posted October 24, 2012 I usually advise posters to arrange the next date towards the end of the current date - doesn't have to be set in stone but it's useful to get an idea of availability and likely activity. You can't go back and change the first date. But you did rectify the oversight. So, the ball is in her court to get back to you. Focus on something else to stop yourself from overthinking about this. Good call bout basically distracting myself. Can't change it, she knows I'm interested. If she's one of those that feel calling that soon seems "needy" and she wants to play games, that's on her.
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