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1. Silent treatment is the big #1 for me, this usually goes along with an unwillingness to resolve conflict (ime)

 

2. Smoking, gambling, drugs...any kind of addictive behaviour

 

3. Inhibitions in the sack, fearing intimacy

 

4. Oh, wife and significant other too, lol...although I would hope I was astute enough to figure this one out at the beginning

 

5. Complacency

 

6. Lack of conversation skills

 

7. Sedentary lifestyle and an unwillingness to get up off the couch

 

8. Unhealthy diet and unhealthy lifestyle in general I suppose

 

9. Goes without saying? Criminal behaviour and deviance

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I don't really have any. I think if you like someone, anything can be worked out.

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Sounds like a list of qualities employers don't want in a job applicant. What am I getting paid again for this gig? :laugh:

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These would more appropriately be titled wish lists of unrealistic expectations. The likelihood of finding someone who fits all of these requirements is slim. Next thing you know the person can't eat Kraft cheese cold they must melt it before eating or else it's over.

 

Eating Kraft cheese period is a deal breaker. :laugh: Kidding.

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refuses to do what i say

is not totally hot looking

is ugly

is one of those girls who holds the stop signs on road construction projects

does construction work of any kind

is a truck driver

is anything other than catholic or Jewish

tries to tell me what to do

tries to 'dress" me

will not use dental floss

wears conservative, ugly underwear

will not get breast implants if i tell her she needs them

buys me an electric shaver for christmas

buys me any kind appliance for christmas

chews tabacco

trys to take me shopping

tells me i watch too much football

tells me she doesn't want me skydiving anymore

if she belches

if she complains when i belch

tries to make me watch movies like "sleepless in seattle"

tries to make me watch any kind of movie

tries to send me to the store to rent a movie

tries to send me to the store for anything

tries to make me do anything, actually

will not go to the store for me when i need some thing

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My list off the top of my head:

 

1) Smoking

2) Drugs

3) Excessive drinking

4) Gambling

5) Devout <insert religion here>

6) Poor communication skills

7) Abusive (emotionally and/or physically)

8) Unhealthy lifestyle

9) No ambition or passion in life

10) History of cheating/dishonesty

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1) I am not Muslim

2) You're hilarious

 

I'm sometimes offended by the outrageous negativity, but this one actually amuses me very much, not you xdahliax, the boston guy. Dude, you're "outed" as either someone who is trying way too hard (and failing) to take out his/her anger on other members...or you're just kind of pathetic to the point where people are laughing at you.

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This is a person who's been very hurt and needs some compassion and understanding.

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-Can't be a republican.

 

-Is fundamentally very smart but fails to apply any ethics to apply that intellect into engaging conversation. (This is very prevalent--women who are clever and impressive until anything historical or even anything in movies, or who actors are or you name it are metions--then they've never heard of it. These become your republican voters who piss away their own rights without even relizing it because they live in the moment and will vote because the candidate's image appeals to them. Substance and connecting the dots of a records means nothing to them.

 

-I won't have a smoker or someone with chronic bad breath who just won't work on it.

 

Tattoos--disgusting, self-inflicted blemishes bought from someone who does that for a living where the receiver of the tatoo then convices themselves that wearing this constitutes "body art". If you do it to yourself then it's body art. Other than that it's marring grafitti you paid some biker or ex-convict to put on you.

 

Religiosity. God is a mental illness wrapped up as the most divisive personnae ever invented. The rules of nature do not suspend to accomdate intervening by a god to honor requests in the forms of prayers or there would be no civilization at all--everyone would either feel they haven't prayed hard enough, their day hasn't come yet and will, or are on some kind of super-natural shi+ list where it's no use doing anything. Thank "god" peop'e don't "really" believe in god in the way they used to.

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Another one is somebody who is turned on by drama and dysfunction.

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-Can't be a republican.

 

-Is fundamentally very smart but fails to apply any ethics to apply that intellect into engaging conversation. (This is very prevalent--women who are clever and impressive until anything historical or even anything in movies, or who actors are or you name it are metions--then they've never heard of it. These become your republican voters who piss away their own rights without even relizing it because they live in the moment and will vote because the candidate's image appeals to them. Substance and connecting the dots of a records means nothing to them.

 

-I won't have a smoker or someone with chronic bad breath who just won't work on it.

 

Tattoos--disgusting, self-inflicted blemishes bought from someone who does that for a living where the receiver of the tatoo then convices themselves that wearing this constitutes "body art". If you do it to yourself then it's body art. Other than that it's marring grafitti you paid some biker or ex-convict to put on you.

 

Religiosity. God is a mental illness wrapped up as the most divisive personnae ever invented. The rules of nature do not suspend to accomdate intervening by a god to honor requests in the forms of prayers or there would be no civilization at all--everyone would either feel they haven't prayed hard enough, their day hasn't come yet and will, or are on some kind of super-natural shi+ list where it's no use doing anything. Thank "god" peop'e don't "really" believe in god in the way they used to.

 

Tell us how you really feel.

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My dealbreakers:

 

He...

1. Smokes cigarettes or chews tobacco (really any tobacco addiction, it's disgusting)

2. Is significantly overweight or obese.

3. Has bad skin, gross teeth that could have been prevented by washing or brushing more.

4. Doesn't like animals or the outdoors.

5. Lacks intellectual pursuits.

6. Doesn't have the faintest idea what he wants to with his life.

7. Has an unhealthy lifestyle (eats **** food, smokes weed all day, lazy, etc.)

8. Doesn't like going traveling new places for the simple sake of exploration.

9. Is shorter than me.

10. Is obsessed with sports.

11. Is misogynistic.

12. Is religious.

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Feeling Frisky, you really judge people pretty harshly.

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I feel that voting for state and local issues is important, that it actually makes a difference. But yeah, the presidential election is a total joke. I'll still vote but I'm writing in someone else's name.

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most of my deal breakers:

Overweight(by like 20+ lbs)

Allergies to dogs/cats

not adventurous

won't try new things

Smoker

Heavy drinker

Party Animal

Can't keep a conversation going

Too Sensitive

Hates sports

Hates Gaming

Wants/Has kids

bad hygine

Too serious all the time

doesn't get my sense of humor/has a sense of humor

And African Americans...That's my big one.

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most of my deal breakers:

Overweight(by like 20+ lbs)

Allergies to dogs/cats

not adventurous

won't try new things

Smoker

Heavy drinker

Party Animal

Can't keep a conversation going

Too Sensitive

Hates sports

Hates Gaming

Wants/Has kids

bad hygine

Too serious all the time

doesn't get my sense of humor/has a sense of humor

And African Americans...That's my big one.

So, not black - just African American?

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So, not black - just African American?

 

well...Black people living in the Americas = African Americans..soo yeah African Americans

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1. being unambitious

2. smoker (blech!)

3. drinks to get drunk (I am a limited social drinker)

4. being overly sensitive to my sarcasm

5. not intellectually curious

6. doesn't like my cooking :D

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And African Americans...That's my big one.

 

Wow. I haven't decided if that is just ignorant or racist as well.

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well...Black people living in the Americas = African Americans..soo yeah African Americans

Well, not exactly but I don't care to even explain. To each their own.

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Wow. I haven't decided if that is just ignorant or racist as well.

 

That's racist. :) Especially since the person pointed out it was their "big one"

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Wow. I haven't decided if that is just ignorant or racist as well.

She may just not be at all attracted to black guys - although the emphasis on "that's my big one" is quite telling.

 

That's racist. :) Especially since the person pointed out it was their "big one"

 

She doesn't like our "big one"? Makes sense.....

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After dating my ex, I now only abide by these four:

 

1. Fat (25+ lbs overweight. I dated a fat chick and I think I treated her bad because I didn't think she was much of a prize, no matter how much I enjoyed her company. I'm insecure, whatever.)

2. Adamantly against smoking

3. Hates cats (I'm cool with dogs, but I've always been more of a cat person, I really miss my cats I lost in the break up.)

4. Black (I'm sorry, I just don't find most black women attractive at all. Granted, there are definitely exceptions (Ashley Banks), but I generally don't like them doo-doo mamas.)

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I actually sort of agree with that. Generally speaking African American women have bad attitudes, again generally speaking. Immediately comes to mind is someone talking out their neck-ohnoudiint.

I stared at this for like 5 minutes like "What is he talking about?"

 

Eh, generally people stereotype so I guess general speaking is ok.

 

I don't care one way or the other. I don't consider myself African American - since I am first generation and have no reason to forget my background. However sadly enough in America all blacks usually get thrown in one group. Which I have no problem identifiying with them but I have to remember who I am. Time to fall into the Asian male, Indian male, Black female group = HA!

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I actually sort of agree with that. Generally speaking African American women have bad attitudes, again generally speaking. Immediately comes to mind is someone talking out their neck-ohnoudiint.

I actually don't know any black women like that...besides the people on TV.

 

I stared at this for like 5 minutes like "What is he talking about?"

 

Eh, generally people stereotype so I guess general speaking is ok.

 

I don't care one way or the other. I don't consider myself African American - since I am first generation and have no reason to forget my background. However sadly enough in America all blacks usually get thrown in one group. Which I have no problem identifiying with them but I have to remember who I am. Time to fall into the Asian male, Indian male, Black female group = HA!

 

Oh great. Stereotyping is bad, but it doesn't matter because I don't really count...... feel free to talk trash about those "other" black women I don't identify with.

 

I find that people decide to stereotype me as Nigerian, since I don't fit their stereotype of African-American women. Instead of just deciding we are individuals that come in many types, shades and personalities.

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