LoveHurts88 Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 So for those who have been followin my posts, me and my ex have started to talk again.. She tells me she misses us, misses talking to me.. I asked her are all we are going to be is friends she said yes, if you can... From there i said i couldnt, and told her to just give me some time. She replied that she likes hanging around with me and talking to me and that she does like me but not enough to be in a relationship.. I told her if the right guy came along you would be in a relationship she said yes.. She said she likes me but the sparks gone and she asked if it could b brought back. I told her sorry i dont know but also told her the honeymoon phase only lasts so long hence why her longest relationship was with me 2 years... I dont want to rush anything but where do i go from here? I can go NC again until she knows what she wants? Or do i continue to talk to her and see her?
gonefishin Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 I was actually told the exact same thing only last night.. Firstly was told I'm lucky I get the time of day off her. Started talking and she said friends now and I'm lucky To have that and if a relationship goes from there so be it but I won't Be asking you to come back she said!!! Didn't wanna listen that I thought that was difficult or hard To just be friends and see how it goes .. And when I said I Don't wanna be friends u get the "that's fine" reply ! I don't know what you should do ...go no contact might work I went through it and didn't do much for us.. It's so complicated! Let us know what u decide
Author LoveHurts88 Posted October 24, 2012 Author Posted October 24, 2012 I told her its hard being friends cause i cant hold ur hands, hold her etc, she said she will hold mine.. If the sparks can it be rekindled?
flitzanu Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 No man who has ever walk the face of the Earth has ever had a woman fall in love with him after being her Gay Best Friend / Friendzoned. Once friendzoned, there is no escape. Your two choices are below: If you NEVER want to have a romantic relationship with her again, be her Gay Best Friend. If you want to give yourself the BEST opportunity for a second chance (which will be a long time from now, if ever), don't be her friend. The choice is yours, choose wisely! hahahhahahahha. oh gibson, i love you. #nohomo it's true though. trust me. I AM THAT GBFF to so many of my hot female friends, and there truly is NO crossing that line once you're established. this girl is clearly telling you she IS NOT INTERESTED IN DATING YOU, so you sticking around is only making your life miserable.
geegirl Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 So for those who have been followin my posts, me and my ex have started to talk again.. She tells me she misses us, misses talking to me.. I asked her are all we are going to be is friends she said yes, if you can... From there i said i couldnt, and told her to just give me some time. She replied that she likes hanging around with me and talking to me and that she does like me but not enough to be in a relationship.. I told her if the right guy came along you would be in a relationship she said yes.. She said she likes me but the sparks gone and she asked if it could b brought back. I told her sorry i dont know but also told her the honeymoon phase only lasts so long hence why her longest relationship was with me 2 years... I dont want to rush anything but where do i go from here? I can go NC again until she knows what she wants? Or do i continue to talk to her and see her? 1. She said she wants to only be friends. 2. She said she does not like you enough to be in a relationship. 3. She said if the RIGHT guy comes along, she will consider a relationship. She's telling you that you are not that guy. 4. She said the sparks are gone. I don't know what you mean when you say you are rushing. You only have two choices: 1. Be her friend. Watch her date others. Watch her move on. Suffer and stagnate in silence. 2. NC. Release yourself from her emotionally. Feel that temporary pain. There is NOTHING left to hold on to. Heal and when you have, you will see her in a different light and be able to open yourself up emotionally to life and all that it has to offer. I'm going to echo Gibson and Flitz. She's dumped you in the friend box. There isn't any chance of getting out, especially when she's telling you point blank, how she feels about you.
veggirl Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 What do you mean go NC "Until she knows what she wants" ?! She DOES know what she wants--she wants nothing but friendship from you and she wants a relationship with someone else. You NEED to go NC, you are just hurting yourself here and honestly one day (likely soon) she will have a new boyfriend and you will be kicking yourself for sticking around to see it!!!
Simon Phoenix Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Dude, your goose is cooked right now. She's made it perfectly clear what she wants. Unless you can be her friend and use her to meet other attractive women, go NC. It doesn't sound like this is possible though. She's telling you what she wants from you. You just don't want to believe it.
The_Face Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 (edited) NC. I suffered the same **** you're going through just this last summer. I dragged things out with the ex and was basically her bitch. I'm not in the friend zone, exactly. It's a mess. Just get out. The good times are over and you're torturing yourself hanging around her. Edited October 24, 2012 by The_Face
Chi townD Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Instead of LoveHurts, can I call you emotional tampon? Because that's exactly what you are to her right now. I can guarantee you that if she gets into another relationship, your ass is going to be kicked to the curb. Discarded AGAIN, dumped AGAIN, used AGAIN.... It's all about what she wants. If she starts a new relationship, she'll tell you some BS that her new boyfriend is having a problem with her talking and seeing her Ex and that (out of respect to him) she has to end contact with you. THEN NC IS A GOOD THING BECAUSE IT'S WHAT SHE WANTS!! How convenient!!!! You are not her friend! I'm sure you didn't get into a loving and caring relationship with her hoping that the end product is being nothing more than really good friends. Time to move on. If she doesn't like it. TOUGH SH*T!!! She made the choice to have you out of her life, now she'll have to live with the consquences of her actions.
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