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A few years ago, I was at the local plaza mall, when I saw this news stand of magazines. There's this local mag that says "FREE" on it, so I took it. There was this picture of a lovely woman on the front cover, modeling of course. Turns out, she was one of my old highschool friends from back in the day.

 

Even though it was just a local magazine, I thought it was pretty cool...so I thought, "I wonder what she is up to these days?"

 

So I looked her up on FB and gave her a "long time no see" introduction, and we added each other.

 

Turns out she was married at the time (now divorced and dating someone else). We chatted back and forth on occasion, occassionally commenting on some of her pics.

 

She works at a doctor's office in this rural area.

 

Turns out, I added a few other of my old classmates as well on her friends list, and we added each other, too.

 

But, I as I was looking through her long friends list, I noticed she has quite a few attractive lady friends. (That's how it is in small communities, all the attractive people tend to gravitate into their own social circles I suppose....if someone is attractive/hot, chances are their friends will be)

 

Then I thought, "Hm, perhaps I can break the ice with some of her friends....that are local of course", if they are living in Alaska, I don't bother. lol

 

Though, through conversations with her friends on FB, most of them are married or have a live-in boyfriend, but I was wondering if this could be another means of getting to know people, THROUGH your friends on your friends list.

 

BUT , when you introduce yourself, use your friend as the reason for contacting them, like "Hey, I see you know so-and-so, I used to go to HS or work with her, how long have you known so-and -so and lived in the area?"

 

Something like that. Anyone ever do that as a means of meeting others?

 

(Note: those women with THREE names in their FB profile...are probably married, so skip them, lol)

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I have had friends of friends contact me via facebook (or start comment bombing stuff I might post, then try to talk to me in private) and I have never met them in my life.

 

I'm ok with it I guess for the most part but I often wonder what their motives are for contacting me. Generally I'm polite and will engage in small talk but nothing else really as I'm only one facebook to keep up with events my friends are planning.

 

I get creeped out if they start asking me personal details as... I have no idea who they are.

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I have had friends of friends contact me via facebook (or start comment bombing stuff I might post, then try to talk to me in private) and I have never met them in my life.

 

I'm ok with it I guess for the most part but I often wonder what their motives are for contacting me. Generally I'm polite and will engage in small talk but nothing else really as I'm only one facebook to keep up with events my friends are planning.

 

I get creeped out if they start asking me personal details as... I have no idea who they are.

 

I actually contacted a lady, because she knew a friend of mine on FB, but not only that....she was a big Sci-Fi fan.....she replied with, "I usually don't reply to strangers, but that costume at the convention got my attention, lol"

 

And we started chatting back and forth. Turned out she had a boyfriend, but it was a way to break the ice.

 

I also contacted a woman that "liked" one of my comments I made with a friend.

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I usually make FB friends with strangers usually through conversation.

 

So perhaps our mutual friend posts something, we each comment on it, then maybe she says a comment directed at me, I'll perhaps friend them.

 

From there, I won't suddenly "introduce" myself like it's a dating site, but simply continue public conversation. If we get to the "in person" point, then cool.

 

I'll toss in though you can find much about whether you have a shot or not by her FB activity. Here's what would tell me not to bother...mainly because I would see we don't have aligning lifestyles/interests:

 

  1. She's constantly posting photos of herself holding a camera in front of her mirror
  2. She's going out to nightclubs all the time
  3. Her FB photo section is loaded with pics of her with various guidos, douchebags, etc.
  4. She's posting stupid stuff I jokingly call "pretty girl problems"

 

Not being judgmental...just mainly seeing that she either would not be into my more "average" self or she's little miss partygirl while I'm more a homebody.

 

Frankly, any girl I've ever dated through social media usually came about when we ended up chatting for months on end. When a random pretty girl I don't know would friend me out of the blue, I'll send over a "hi :)" message.

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