Own Worst Enemy Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 i don't have much else to say at the moment; it hasn't really hit me properly yet that it is definitely over, as i am numb most of the time, but just at the moment i have a big hurty hole right in the middle of my chest. so i thought i'd come here because other people are feeling the same thing. here's to it filling up eventually! 2
january2011 Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 You can stick around and try to commiserate and advise. A lot of posters who make their way here find that strategy helpful in relieving their own pain. Make sure you're taking care of yourself by eating right, exercising and trying to get enough sleep. 1
todreaminblue Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 i don't have much else to say at the moment; it hasn't really hit me properly yet that it is definitely over, as i am numb most of the time, but just at the moment i have a big hurty hole right in the middle of my chest. so i thought i'd come here because other people are feeling the same thing. here's to it filling up eventually! I try and help others whether i succeed or not maybe i do or i dont help or make a difference...in reality i have......helping others puts your own heart into perspective.I dont have a broken heart i have a scarred heart.....im over the break I still like to try and help because i know how hard that break can get......thats why i am here posting to you...... i got my heart a bit damaged not long ago another scar to add to the collection but it was a gentle scar and restored my faith a little so it was a good scar....and i still have strong feelings for the guy who did it......but i am lifted for the fact i was strong enough to tell him how i feel i have only done it twice in my life....he is a special guy....;0)....so i cant have a broken heart because this guy who i told actually is ace, the time before when i let my feelings be known i was a bit decieved ...he wasnt who he seemed to be ...this time i didnt make the wrong choice....my life is looking up he is still in my life and i care about him......I know i made the bright choice because of the way he gently let me down....true heart......makes me teary lol....and i am smiling too..because of him he makes me feel many things.......so chin up soldier........life is a journey love holds lifes hand if you look past something bad.....something good will always be there, my guy may not be mine.....but at least i know i can choose the right guy....i hope...keep postin...hugs...deb 1
Mspink702 Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 My heart hurts too it's like you said I have a big hurty hole in my chest also. I have found coming to this site and reading that others are going through the same thing does help, because at least I know I'm not alone. Also I have been trying to work on myself, working out and eating better, also looking for a 2nd part time job so I don't have any extra time on my hands to sit and think about him. It's hard but I know we will get through this! 1
Heybrae Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 I am in the same boat! Just today it hit me that it was over. I haven't even heard from him..he just let me walk away. Talk about feeling like you mean nothing! I did a lot of meditation and crying and it made me feel better. Also knowing that God will provide. I feel if something is meant to be then it will be. There is no point in wondering what you could've or should've done, it'll just make the pain worse. My last relationship or 1 1/2 yrs ended terribly, but I realized I dodged a bullet. And i probably just dodged another. So staying positive is the best thing to do or else you'll always feel that pain in your heart. These things happen for a reason..to make you grow as a person and learn things you never knew and prepare you for someone even better! <3 The pain sucks, but the more I experience the stronger I become! I am sorry you have to feel it as well! One day all of us hurting will wake up and realize we deserve so much better than this, and we don't need to hurt anymore! One day our hearts will be healed and it will beat stronger than before! 4
taya Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 I am in the same boat! Just today it hit me that it was over. I haven't even heard from him..he just let me walk away. Talk about feeling like you mean nothing! I did a lot of meditation and crying and it made me feel better. Also knowing that God will provide. I feel if something is meant to be then it will be. There is no point in wondering what you could've or should've done, it'll just make the pain worse. My last relationship or 1 1/2 yrs ended terribly, but I realized I dodged a bullet. And i probably just dodged another. So staying positive is the best thing to do or else you'll always feel that pain in your heart. These things happen for a reason..to make you grow as a person and learn things you never knew and prepare you for someone even better! <3 The pain sucks, but the more I experience the stronger I become! I am sorry you have to feel it as well! One day all of us hurting will wake up and realize we deserve so much better than this, and we don't need to hurt anymore! One day our hearts will be healed and it will beat stronger than before! wow i love the way you talk so true and the pain is crazy after that person leaves wow it sure is ..and am sorry this happen to you and it seem like you pulling thru ..how long now was the bake up if its ok to ask?? 1
Heybrae Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 wow i love the way you talk so true and the pain is crazy after that person leaves wow it sure is ..and am sorry this happen to you and it seem like you pulling thru ..how long now was the bake up if its ok to ask?? Well I had a feeling something was different for about 2 weeks now. But today I told him to prove he still wanted me and if he didn't then i would know he did not want us anymore. And he didn't...didn't even respond to me at all. so it just happened today!
taya Posted October 28, 2012 Posted October 28, 2012 Well I had a feeling something was different for about 2 weeks now. But today I told him to prove he still wanted me and if he didn't then i would know he did not want us anymore. And he didn't...didn't even respond to me at all. so it just happened today! omg today wow am so sorry hun it hurts like hell right?? to know you would do anything to be with that person but they would not do the same for you..that happens to me this past month too and i let him go..but i still feel it but its getting better.. its so good to talk to people about it too it helps
Heybrae Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 omg today wow am so sorry hun it hurts like hell right?? to know you would do anything to be with that person but they would not do the same for you..that happens to me this past month too and i let him go..but i still feel it but its getting better.. its so good to talk to people about it too it helps Yes it does. And I thought he was SO different! That is what made it worse, I thought his heart was actually beautiful. But oh well...what are you gonna do? lol. Yes it is good talking. I know deep inside it was for the best but..once you get attached it is so hard to let go. You have to stop yourself from thinking of that person bc that only makes things worse! I'm sorry you had to go through that as well =/ I just want to fast forward time to the point that I am fully over it!
Mspink702 Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 I wish there was a fast forward button! Just fast forward thru all the pain until we are happy again! I know that the breakup was for the best my ex was a cheater and a liar and he hurt me bad, but I still can't stop thinking about him and the good times we had and what could have been. Sigh.
Nik1 Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Yeah, it sucks. But hey, at least you don't have to deal with the thought of your ex ****ing your best friend every night.
taya Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Yes it does. And I thought he was SO different! That is what made it worse, I thought his heart was actually beautiful. But oh well...what are you gonna do? lol. Yes it is good talking. I know deep inside it was for the best but..once you get attached it is so hard to let go. You have to stop yourself from thinking of that person bc that only makes things worse! I'm sorry you had to go through that as well =/ I just want to fast forward time to the point that I am fully over it! yeah i let him go girl... and i know i will find a great guy soon am just giving my self time to heal ..i was born in jamaica so am going back to jamaica in december then come back to home in fl in january when i get back over here its a new year new start lol am goignt o find me a great man and move on with my life ..also he text me today saying thanks for understanding and how am doing i say am going great we for a few then i stop texting ..am moving on tho if he wanted me we would have been togather so i will find some one that wants me as much as i want them so it doesnt matter if he comes back or not am moving on ...what about you???
taya Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Yeah, it sucks. But hey, at least you don't have to deal with the thought of your ex ****ing your best friend every night. omg your ex did that hun???
Nik1 Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Yeah, turns out my friend ended up ****ing her not even a week after I left. Could've been the same day for all I know. But when they finally became "in a relationship" and I asked him about it in the beginning of October, he lied and said this had only been going on for a week and he didn't force himself.
taya Posted October 29, 2012 Posted October 29, 2012 Yeah, turns out my friend ended up ****ing her not even a week after I left. Could've been the same day for all I know. But when they finally became "in a relationship" and I asked him about it in the beginning of October, he lied and said this had only been going on for a week and he didn't force himself. omg what a dog so are they still togather now or kick her out ?? and that girl is not and was not your friend omg she will get hers dont worry hun just leve her to time plz tell me you dont talk to any of them anymore and dont ever talk back to that guy even if he comes back beging he his a bog a big one too and they never change MOVE ON NOW BETTER MEN IS OUT THERE
Heybrae Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 My bf before my last cheated on me with multiple ppl and lied to me for months. Then told me once he went back to college...over a text. So I feel your pain. And as much as it hurts now it will go away. You have to force yourself to not think of the good times bc it was a lie and it will hurt you. Busy yourself and do things to better you. I know its super hard...its hard for me now and my recent ex didnt cheat...he just left and i have no idea why. Men are mean. And easily deceive. Become stronger and one day you'll meet that guy who would never hurt you and apreciate you for all you are. And by then you will be such amazing women! That they will fight to keep you! Thats what I am waiting for. Until then I focus on me. And I am doing fine, still crying occasionally. But apparently (thanks to his fb) he is moving on. He is going out to a club this wednesday and acting as if I never existed. It is crazy. But talking about it helps... 1
Nik1 Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 (edited) Hey, wait a minute, goddammit, I'm the man. She's the girl. My ex-best friend is a man (weasel). I wouldn't be nearly as down if I was a girl, they have no problem getting laid (as exemplified by my ex). I suppose the mistake can be made since men don't usually do that to their friends. Edited October 30, 2012 by Nik1
Heybrae Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Hey, wait a minute, goddammit, I'm the man. She's the girl. My ex-best friend is a man (weasel). I wouldn't be nearly as down if I was a girl, they have no problem getting laid (as exemplified by my ex). I suppose the mistake can be made since men don't usually do that to their friends. Wow I am sorry. My mind has been thrown off the past couple of days O_o. But I know, my gfs tell me about them cheating on their boyfriends.....girls and guys both can be heartless. But just change the wording to my last comment...didn't mean to call you a woman!
Nik1 Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 People always call it cheating, but we were broken up when it happened.
taya Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Hey, wait a minute, goddammit, I'm the man. She's the girl. My ex-best friend is a man (weasel). I wouldn't be nearly as down if I was a girl, they have no problem getting laid (as exemplified by my ex). I suppose the mistake can be made since men don't usually do that to their friends. lol when i saw this a laugh so hard its not funny tho just a mis understanding ;;but wow your girl did that to you wow thats crazy ..so i she with your friend right now ?? and that was low of yout friend to do that even if you guys were not togather dont you think? 1
Nik1 Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Yes, they're together and apparently very happy without me. It feels like the last four years just served the purpose for me to set them up.
amtz Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 I've been trough hell and back with love! And to be honest I would take the risk to love again over and over! It's one of those things that is worth trying! It's like jumping out of with a parachute... The risk of not opening is always present but if does it was hell of a ride Although words will only confuse you even more just remember that you are great human being capable of doing great things! You were capable of loving a feeling that many have not experienced and probably will never! Life is too damn short and to fast to waste it... You will soon laugh about this situation just as many of us did from past experiences! Originally a heart brake brought me to this awesome site 3 years ago and yet now I'm crying from another relationship how weird is that? Your are not alone! WE ARE ALL HERE TO SUPPORT YOU! God bless! 2
taya Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 (edited) My bf before my last cheated on me with multiple ppl and lied to me for months. Then told me once he went back to college...over a text. So I feel your pain. And as much as it hurts now it will go away. You have to force yourself to not think of the good times bc it was a lie and it will hurt you. Busy yourself and do things to better you. I know its super hard...its hard for me now and my recent ex didnt cheat...he just left and i have no idea why. Men are mean. And easily deceive. Become stronger and one day you'll meet that guy who would never hurt you and apreciate you for all you are. And by then you will be such amazing women! That they will fight to keep you! Thats what I am waiting for. Until then I focus on me. And I am doing fine, still crying occasionally. But apparently (thanks to his fb) he is moving on. He is going out to a club this wednesday and acting as if I never existed. It is crazy. But talking about it helps... omg he tell you over texts ?? wow i know i would have gone crazy after he told me what did you do after he tell you girl?? Edited October 30, 2012 by taya
Heybrae Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 omg he tell you over texts ?? wow i know i would have gone crazy after he told me what did you do after he tell you girl?? I kept talking to him, I wanted to know everything. Why he did it and all that stuff. In a way I couldn't let go. But after a week after I heard all I could hear and thought things out I couldn't take it. I told him i was done talking to him and I ignored him. I played pool and listened to my i-pod to get over it. Watched a lot of netflix!! lol. I just wished this last guy didn't do this to me. I saw a future with him..reaaallly sucks. And i still have no idea why he stoped talking to me. That is whats killing me. How do you go from holding me tight, kissing me like you're in love and telling me to not leave him that night....to ignoring me??? Its killing me!
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