gd1039 Posted July 31, 2004 Posted July 31, 2004 Well, I am supposed to go out on thursday with this girl I met earlier in the week and for some reason I am a little nervous about it. For starters, and I have discussed this before, I seem to have this thing where I can't remember what people look like sometimes. I attribute this to the fact that if I see a girl I am interested in and we start talking very quickly I pay more attention to her personality than her looks. I can remember conversations/situations and even generally what she was wearing, but faces I tend to draw a blank on. So, one thing that I am nervous about is just that she isn't going to look like what I think I remember (which is hazy anyways). I am sure that I was attracted to her, otherwise I would not have gotten her number, but still... Another thing is that I don't know if I am worrying or actually have a bad feeling about it, but I feel like when I get to know more about her, something is going to come up that is going to bother me. Like I said, I don't know if I am just ridiculous and worrying about this for no reason, or if I have a feeling it actually is going to happen. I know I should just relax, go out, have fun, and the worse thing that happens is one (or both) of us don't have a good time. I have been on bad dates before so having a bad one doesn't bother me, so I don't know why I am nervous about this... Any imput is appreciated.
Curt Posted July 31, 2004 Moderators Posted July 31, 2004 Know What? Ya sound like me. To this day, I worry that Karen was at a local restaurant that I frequent, not long after we broke off contact last summer. Just was worried her hair had been so drastically changed that I didn't realize it was her. Ahh man...relax. She's gonna know you too. So, she'll come over if you don't recognize her right away... if all else fails, just give girls, that look like they might be her, that "is that you?" sorta look! You must really like her. I can feel your nerves from here! Just go out, relax and have a good time. Hopefully, you'll both have many many dates in future to pay more attention to her facial features. Curt
Author gd1039 Posted August 1, 2004 Author Posted August 1, 2004 Originally posted by Curt Ahh man...relax. She's gonna know you too. So, she'll come over if you don't recognize her right away... if all else fails, just give girls, that look like they might be her, that "is that you?" sorta look! You must really like her. I can feel your nerves from here! Curt lol, A few weeks ago I ran into this girl I went to grammar school with and I pulled the same look. We have run into eachother a few times since we graduated, but actually...her hair had changed and I wasn't sure it was her. So, I have some practice with that "is that you" look. I figure as long as I pick this girl up, there wont be any confusion over who it is. As far as really liking her, well I have only talked to her briefly so I do not know too much about her yet. I know a little but not much, so this first date has the intentions of getting to know more about her. However, from when I have talked to her she seems to have an awsome personality. I think part of the reason that I am nervous is that I have kind of been not having so much luck with girls for a while now and really just want to meet a great girl. It appears that the girl is very interested in me, and I am also interested in her, so I am hoping that this doesnt take a ****bomb and that things work out. I know it sounds like I am getting ahead of myself, after all I don't know that much about her yet. I'm just tired of being single and having things not work out with girls. I won't date someone just to date someone so who knows.
Curt Posted August 1, 2004 Moderators Posted August 1, 2004 I know it sounds like I am getting ahead of myself, after all I don't know that much about her yet. I'm just tired of being single and having things not work out with girls. I won't date someone just to date someone so who knows. Nah, doesn't sound as though you're getting ahead of yourself. It just goes to show that you really are anxious about her. Sounds like you both have chemistry, so hopefully things go great. Remember, she likely wants to meet a great guy as much as you want to find out she's a fantastic girl. Meet each other on an equal footing. Don't be afraid to be a little chivalrous... not clingy-type stuff, but be on your best for her. I'm sure she'll do no less for you. Most of all, remember to relax. Afterall, it's best to take things slow and get a good "feeling" for each other's likes and dislikes, etc. Don't overthink things, but be sure you have all things prepared. Let her know (if you haven't already done so) where you're going, what kind of thing it is (is it a casual, semi-formal thing, or whatever). let her know what time you'll pick her up or when and where she'll meet you, etc. Hopefully the LoveShack gals can give you more directions from a girl's perspective. I'm wondering, for example, if a small gift would be too much for the first date ... so maybe the ladies can help us there. Oh, and when on the date, make sure to ask her questions about herself. Don't get nervous and talk about guy stuff too much. A girl will want to know that a guy has genuine interest in her as a person. Take an interest in knowing about her. A good balance in conversation is what you're driving for. Give her good reciprocal interest and conversation. Let her know at the first of the date that you find her pretty, etc. Plus, my man, ABOVE ALL ... if in a crowded place with lots of gals around, keep your attention focused on the most important girl there, that being her. (Of course, don't get to the point of staring her down or whatever (you know what I mean ) I'm sure you know a lot of this anyway, but, I just figured I'd mention those few things. AND GIVE US AN UPDATE AFTER THE DATE!!! We're in your corner ! Curt
Author gd1039 Posted August 1, 2004 Author Posted August 1, 2004 Curt - Thanks for some good advice. Some of those things are things I considered too. A small gift: lol, I was actually giving this some thought the other day. I actually think it's better to not have a gift on the first date. One, I think its tacky and cliche. Two, I have seen gifts given on the show blind date, and it never seems to be a real big impresser for the girls (Although I am sure it helps some). What I actually ending up thinking, right after I read your post, is that assuming it makes it to a 3rd date, that would be a good time to give a flower or something little. It would be more of a suprise because if she was expecting it she would have expected it already. I also think that by the third date its fairly settled (if things go as planned) that you are very interested in eachother and a small gift would be a way to show "yes I am interested in you". Of course, you may go on 3 dates and not really be sure yet, so then it wouldn't have that same effect yet. Once you brought up about not talking too much (especially stuff she may not be interested in), I realized I can be quite the talker so I really got to try to take it back a notch. Although, my knack for talking comes in useful with any akward moments of silence, and god I hope there aren't many if any of those. And, as far as the most important thing, not looking at other girls. I completely agree. A place where your back is to the crowd is perfect for this, unless you are running from the police or feds, which I am not. This way its easier to focus you attention on who you are with.
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