BeholdtheMan Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 The fog is starting to lift and I am seeing all the destruction she caused.Good for you...now you'll have motivation driving you to see this through
Mr. Lucky Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 I am waiting it out though. Not to see what happens and see if she changes but to get a little more legal hold and prepare my finances. Like you, finances (and a desire to be under the same roof as my child) kept me in the house even though my exW still had one foot in her affair. At least move into the guest room or out on to the couch. Continuing to share the marital bed will only fog your emotions and possibly cause you to double-dip your DNA with the OM. I am going to do this the right way. Divorce-Time(to get over her and also not bring any baggage into the new relationship) -Searching/Dating-Frienship/Courtship-Marriage-and then Intimacy. --brokenheartedntx-- I'm hoping your order of events is confused and you don't plan on waiting until after marrige to establish intimacy... Mr. Lucky
Betrayed&Stayed Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 I am starting to feel a little more anger towards her because I think I am accepting it is over. The fog is starting to lift and I am seeing all the destruction she caused. You are starting to cross over from the Denial Stage to the Anger Stage. Ever watch The Incredible Hulk when Dr Bruce Banner (Bill Bixby) turns into the Hulk? Get ready! That will be you. 2
Ninja'sHusband Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 You are starting to cross over from the Denial Stage to the Anger Stage. Ever watch The Incredible Hulk when Dr Bruce Banner (Bill Bixby) turns into the Hulk? Get ready! That will be you. LOL I shouldn't laugh cause it's so serious and extreme...but really. The classic grief stages are so accurate I think. I went through them all in order, even repeated them...and each phase was just unbelievable in intensity. It's a rough ride man. Let yourself experience it, it's normal and will pass. Try not to do anything too crazy ^^ You don't want actions that will haunt you in the future. I really do think legal action is important right now though. I dunno if you are the primary bread winner, but if you are, the longer you wait the more you could be hurt financially.
nofool4u Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 Wife says she still has deep feelings for the OM Then maybe you need to tell your wife it thats the case, then she needs to be handed divorce papers. Do you really want to stay with someone that pines over someone else? Ya, some will say she can get over him in time, but you get to just sit and take it until then? And do they TRULY ever get over them completely? I don't think so. You'll just have a wife that will look back on her affair, sex, whatever and wish she could have it again, and look back on her betrayal of you with fond memories. If you can live with that, then you do what you got to do. If not, I'd contact a good divorce attorney.
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