REALLY need help, want to talk to ex. . .

[jgs78]

I could really really really use some advice right now. I've written a couple of posts here and it's been awhile since I last wrote one. It has been almost 3 months since my ex of 6 1/2 years broke up with me. When he broke up with me over the phone I had told him that I couldn't be friends with him because that is the truth, I really still cannot be friends, when I want to be his girlfriend again. I am afraid that he has already forgotten about me but there is that last part of me that is clinging on to the thought that he still thinks about me. For the last half of a year of our relationship, I have been in NY while he has been in California. I would say it was the distance thing that caused the breakup if he had not joined a pyramid scheme seminar program. But he did and when he did, he changed as a person. And I didn't support his seminar because I knew something was strange about it. SO I think part of the reason why he broke up with me is because I didn't support him. I really need help, I really want to pick up the phone and call him. But half of me is scared that he has already met someone else and I can't deal with the thought of hearing him say that. I have already become severly depressed over this and some other things that have bene happening in my life so far. I have been feeling as if I want to even move back to California. The other half of me doesn't want to call him because I want him to want me back. But the more that time goes on and the more that he doesn't call, the more I believe he doesn't care anymore. How can someone not care after 6 1/2 years? Would it be absolutely stupid if I do call? Am I setting myself up for a disaster. One of the problems with his personality is that he has a tendency to be apathetic. So I really don't know what to do. I am at my wits end. Nothing in my life seems to be going right right now and this break up has just made me want to stay in bed forever. If I did call him, I know I probably would break down. I just feel like there was no closure. I don't understand why he wanted to break it off. Growing apart seems like such a petty little reason and doesn't seem like the right one since he had told me 2 days before the break up how much he loved me and I was his soulmate and he couldn't wait to see me next. Isn't there anyone out there who has not talked to their ex longer than 3 weeks???? AM I THE ONLY ONE WHO HAS HAD NO CONTACT FOR THIS LONG??? Can anyone help me please? I feel like there is unfinished business and that I need to tell him I am supportive of him, I am sorry and that I still love him. I really need his support right now, I am all alone. I dont' know anyone here, my family doesn't live here and I am unemployed. It is virtually impossible to get up and do things on my own because I am really depressed. He was the only one that understood me. I hope someone has some advice...I need some help.

[Starnette83]

first of all, dont call him, dont be the one to contact him, trust me when i say it only will make u feel worse!! this is from someone whos been there done that! i was with my ex for almost 4 years, he was my everything, its been 2 weeks no contact, and i feel forgotten as well...as everyday goes by i really am starting to feel like he doesnt care and hes maybe with someone else, it does suck, cuz i still care but in a way i think that it might help in me getting over him, eventually after they see we dont call they will call, even if it takes them 2 months or more to do this we have to wait!!!

First of all we deserve a guy who doesnt torture us this way, we gotta show them that they are NOT our everything and that we have enough self love and self respect to not call them, GUYS are supposed to do the chasing, if he really loves you trust me he will call, and even if he dont he still will come around eventaully, YOU on the other hand have to concentrate on YOU!!! dont u wanna do things u couldnt do when u had the ex around...start a new hobby, join the gym, meet friends, go clubbing, get a job, get a new hairstyle, hair color, anything!!! just get up and do something...this guy is not ure evrything, i knwo u spent a long time with him, and so did i, we have SO MANY MEMORIES with just this one person, and now with them gone we feel ****ty and forgotten and confused, we want answers but there isnt any, we shouldnt focus on closure or answers right now cuz we are to confused to get them anyways....BE STRONG!!! right now ure obviously gonna feel this way,....it takes a while to feel okay but u will eventually, i feel better this week then last week....and i know imma keep feeling better, of course i still get those crying moments but i see it as normal...but i wont sit around and cry for him all day long, he made me cry and i know i have alot of great qualities about me,a nd if he cant see that then hes not the one for me, SO DONT CONTACT HIM, I SURE WONT !!!