SayonaraItsuka Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 So my girlfriend of about 1 and a half years broke up with me for another guy about a month ago. She says he's perfect and everything. She only met him only about two months ago. Before that, our relationship wasn't going so well, with couple fights here and there, routine days, and boredom, until one day, she broke up with me. Now, I was willing to accept that, but then a few days later, she tells me that we should start over. Like from the beginning, because we never got to actually date. We just went into the relationship, because we were so happy. Then a few days later, she tells me that she realized that she liked being submissive, and we thought that was the reason why we had problems, because we thought we wanted an equal relationship. I was totally alright with that, because secretly, I wanted to be the dominant one. So, pretty much the next day, we did some "stuff" together, and she said it was the best experience she had. She told me that she's never been so attracted to me before, so of course I felt that we were going in the right direction. Wrong. She broke up with me again, and broke my heart, telling me that there was another guy. She told me she really wanted to give our relationship a second chance, but realized it was too late, and wanted to be with this guy. I'm confused still after a month. Why would she just do that? Is it possible she might want to come back? And is this guy a rebound?
love does not exist Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Damn!! That's one cold hearted bitch!! She isn't coming back bro. Just leave it, and never talk to her again.
ScienceGal Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Do not wait for her, she is bad news for you. You don't just take a 1.5 year relationship and throw it away, then come back and try the one foot in, one foot out routine. She has issues and it's a phase she needs to go through on her own. I'm assuming you two are fairly young, no older than mid 20's?
Author SayonaraItsuka Posted October 24, 2012 Author Posted October 24, 2012 Yeah, I just turned 21 and she's 20.
ScienceGal Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Yeah, I just turned 21 and she's 20. Yeah. Sorry to say, but this is a phase she needs to go through. I am very sorry, as it's clear how much you care for her. Just realize: 1) It wasn't your fault. Having spats and "boredom" in a relationship doesn't make a partner leave and come back (basically being a mind f*ck). You don't deserve this. 2) You can't fix her. There is absolutely nothing you can do. If this is her choice of behavior, let her completely own it. 3) Don't be a doormat. She will be back and she will try to keep coming back. Don't be used and abused. Good luck.
Author SayonaraItsuka Posted October 24, 2012 Author Posted October 24, 2012 Yeah, I learned all of those the hard way. haha Thank you for the support. But why do you think she acted that way? Could she have just felt guilty for having feelings for somebody else?
ScienceGal Posted November 25, 2012 Posted November 25, 2012 Yeah, I learned all of those the hard way. haha Thank you for the support. But why do you think she acted that way? Could she have just felt guilty for having feelings for somebody else? Sorry, I missed this comment. Asking "why?" is something that we all do because the mind needs information to make sense of things. Without that information, we keep trying to fill in the blanks. It's exhausting and heartbreaking. But the truth is, the "why" doesn't matter. The only person that knows why is her, but I'd bet that it's not so simple an answer. She is going through a phase that may or may not lead back to you. In my experience, it's best to just move on with your life. Any updates since you last wrote?
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