redrose123 Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Hey guys, So I haven't been on here in a while. It's been 8 months since my BU and about 3 months strict NC and I've been focusing on healing, its still a struggle but things have gotten a lot better. I expected never to hear from my ex again as he's only reached out twice to me since we've broken up and has ignored my text attempts when I used to break NC countless times. I've recently been accepted to pharmacy school and got a text from my ex today out of the blue. It said "Hey, its _____, i know you probably dont wanna hear from me, i just wanted to let you know im really proud of you, i heard you got into pharmacy school, you worked your a** off for it and you worked smart. youll get that bmw real fast if you keep doing what you're doing, i really am happy for ya" I waited about 10 minutes and replied simply with "Hey ______, thank you, i really appreciate it" This happened about 10 hours ago and he hasn't texted anything else. I just don't know why he would randomly text me like this after so many months and not respond to my text or say anything else. I guess he's just trying to be nice but he hasn't cared about being nice for the past 8 months so I'm confused. Any ideas? Thanks!
love does not exist Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Well he isn't trying to reconcile, that's for sure. Probably sent it just to mess with you. I wouldn't of even responded.
ScienceGal Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 I wouldn't write anything else to him. I am assuming he is the one that broke up with you? Like many posters on here will tell you, unless an ex comes crawling back and promises you the world, it's just breadcrumbs. Don't lose any sleep over his text.
ReadMyThread Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Hey guys, So I haven't been on here in a while. It's been 8 months since my BU and about 3 months strict NC and I've been focusing on healing, its still a struggle but things have gotten a lot better. I expected never to hear from my ex again as he's only reached out twice to me since we've broken up and has ignored my text attempts when I used to break NC countless times. I've recently been accepted to pharmacy school and got a text from my ex today out of the blue. It said "Hey, its _____, i know you probably dont wanna hear from me, i just wanted to let you know im really proud of you, i heard you got into pharmacy school, you worked your a** off for it and you worked smart. youll get that bmw real fast if you keep doing what you're doing, i really am happy for ya" I waited about 10 minutes and replied simply with "Hey ______, thank you, i really appreciate it" This happened about 10 hours ago and he hasn't texted anything else. I just don't know why he would randomly text me like this after so many months and not respond to my text or say anything else. I guess he's just trying to be nice but he hasn't cared about being nice for the past 8 months so I'm confused. Any ideas? Thanks! Breadcrumbs! UGH! I would hate to have received that text from an ex. You shouldn't have responded but it's too late. Continue no contact and focus on yourself. Don't let the text get to your head too much. Stay strong .
Author redrose123 Posted October 24, 2012 Author Posted October 24, 2012 Ugh I know.. Was my reply too short though? Maybe I should have made more conversation and asked him how he was or something..
NavyAirTraffic Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Ugh I know.. Was my reply too short though? Maybe I should have made more conversation and asked him how he was or something.. You haven't been reading..... Your response wasn't short enough! My ex texted me she missed me, she had to see me. I bit hard on the breadcrumbs! The next day (after spending the night) she texted me "I found someone, I should've never slept with you". What do you think will happen if you pursue his "congrats" text??
gonefishin Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Ok I'm just wondering. .. Did she really do that wrong? Like i think the text was nice .. Shows he still thinks of her from Time to time. Not saying he wants to get back but if he did he has to start Somewhere ? 8 months is a long time maybe some things have changed..? I'm not judging so don't get me wrong I'm just asking? Is it that wrong to be civil? Ok her mind is a bit confused by it and maybe he was expecting Her to ask how he was and she didn't so that killed that off! People do change and coming back or making first contact isn't that easy. If I'm wrong and the guys playing sick mind games I apologise I just like to give benefit of doubt...
Author redrose123 Posted October 24, 2012 Author Posted October 24, 2012 Yeah I could have made conversation but its too late now and I want him to believe I'm over him and have moved on. He had a perfect opportunity to say more if he needed to. If he was really regretful and missed me he'd go to any lengths to let me know that. I'm just going to try to continue NC and not let this mess with my mind too much.. 1
NavyAirTraffic Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Ok I'm just wondering. .. Did she really do that wrong? No, there is nothing wrong with contacting him as long as feelings aren't involved. Don't think that's the case here. Again all of this is advice, she can do whatever she wants. However reopening scars for a guy that hasn't spoken to you in 3 months, and simply sends a congrats text is not a good idea. When I went back to ex's I sent meaningless messages at first, but kept on contacting and escalating my emotions on each contact. This doesn't look like the case here. She can merely ask "why are you contacting me", however she might not like the answer.
gonefishin Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Yeah I get your point .. It is opening wounds again And if he had something to say maybe he should have. Don't beat yourself up with wondering did u do the right thing You were polite and courteous and didnt let yourself down and if there Is a next time you may decide to act differently.
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