MissJoness Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 There was another guy I exchanged phone numbers with. He said he wanted to take me out on a date. Well when he called the next day to make arrangements, I froze up and didn't answer the phone. I called him 4 months later, and he was still interested however this time he refused to take me out. He didn't even want to go to a coffee shop with me. He simply wanted a booty call this time. Do you think he resented the fact that I called him 4 months later?
rocketman122 Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 probably. like one other thread asking if she should contact a guy after 8 months. I would text you "go away", unless I was douche and I thought I can take advantage of this and screw you, then i'd go that way and throw you to the curb after.
Author MissJoness Posted October 23, 2012 Author Posted October 23, 2012 probably. like one other thread asking if she should contact a guy after 8 months. I would text you "go away", unless I was douche and I thought I can take advantage of this and screw you, then i'd go that way and throw you to the curb after. Why are you so angry?
xdahliax Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 How did you manage to make so much progress in 4 months that you went from not even being able to take a phone call to being ready to date? I assume that he's angry, I would be if I was ignored by anyone I liked (friend or more) for 4 months. It's unfair to expect anything more of him.
Author MissJoness Posted October 23, 2012 Author Posted October 23, 2012 How did you manage to make so much progress in 4 months that you went from not even being able to take a phone call to being ready to date? I assume that he's angry, I would be if I was ignored by anyone I liked (friend or more) for 4 months. It's unfair to expect anything more of him. I didn't have anything to wear that's why I blew him off. i also have anxiety
InJest Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 I didn't have anything to wear that's why I blew him off. i also have anxiety Stupidest response ever. He's treating you as a booty call, because that's the only way he'll know you're not full of ****. It's exactly what he should do, and I commend him. 1
rocketman122 Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Why are you so angry? cause you suck and play games. I hate indecisive woman who play with men. its such a turn off. the good majority of you woman dont know wtf you want anyways. poor men. you deserve what you get for that. and make no mistakes girly, I look very good and get tons of woman no problem. and I have a GF. very much in love. but I get pissed off when I see woman and the games you play. youre like the tons I walked away from after the first date when I saw them playing. froze up..pff, my azz. get the ef outta here. nonsense. you didnt know what you wanted.
Author MissJoness Posted October 24, 2012 Author Posted October 24, 2012 Stupidest response ever. He's treating you as a booty call, because that's the only way he'll know you're not full of ****. It's exactly what he should do, and I commend him. What you said doesn't even make sense. And why are you so angry? When a guy asks me out I get scared that things might not go well and I blow them off. I don't mean to. It's the anxiety. I know I need to work on it
Author MissJoness Posted October 24, 2012 Author Posted October 24, 2012 cause you suck and play games. I hate indecisive woman who play with men. its such a turn off. the good majority of you woman dont know wtf you want anyways. poor men. you deserve what you get for that. and make no mistakes girly, I look very good and get tons of woman no problem. and I have a GF. very much in love. but I get pissed off when I see woman and the games you play. youre like the tons I walked away from after the first date when I saw them playing. froze up..pff, my azz. get the ef outta here. nonsense. you didnt know what you wanted. I suffer from anxiety. I've had bad experiences in the past. That's why I blew him off. Then when the anxiety settles down I call the guy months later.
xdahliax Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 I suffer from anxiety. I've had bad experiences in the past. That's why I blew him off. Then when the anxiety settles down I call the guy months later. Until you deal with that issue, there's no point in contacting them again or of getting involved with new men. It's only a matter of time before you do it again, and anxiety isn't an excuse for blowing people off. If you can't treat people the way they deserve to be treated because of your anxiety, then you should avoid getting into situations that cause you to hurt others.
Mycteria Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 If I were a guy I wouldn't take you out either. Anxiety...so? Everyone has anxiety. I don't have time to deal with that crap. Sounds like you need to take HIM out. He already offered once, and you blew him off. Tell him you want to take him out on a nice date to make up for it. He probably doesn't want to risk spending money on a flake.
rocketman122 Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 I suffer from anxiety. I've had bad experiences in the past. That's why I blew him off. Then when the anxiety settles down I call the guy months later. get therapy and work on your problem before dating. then people dont get hurt. or tell them beforehand, or text them if youre afraid to speak on the phone. dont expect guys to say "ah, great, sure, so happy you called" it might be that way, but expect the opposite. we men have feelings too. so dont ask "why so angry?" when I was OLD and there were woman I sent messages to and some didnt reply. a few weeks later they either called or texted. those who called, I told them thanks but not interested, those who texted, I told them "go away". its offensive.
Author MissJoness Posted October 24, 2012 Author Posted October 24, 2012 get therapy and work on your problem before dating. then people dont get hurt. or tell them beforehand, or text them if youre afraid to speak on the phone. dont expect guys to say "ah, great, sure, so happy you called" it might be that way, but expect the opposite. we men have feelings too. so dont ask "why so angry?" when I was OLD and there were woman I sent messages to and some didnt reply. a few weeks later they either called or texted. those who called, I told them thanks but not interested, those who texted, I told them "go away". its offensive. I guess I'm being selfish:( I had no idea that I was 'hurting' their feelings. It's really MY problem. When they approach me I think I'm ready to date, but when they call I freeze up and get scared. I blow them off and wont return their phone call until a few weeks or months later. By then they are just interested in sex. Is this a guy's way of saying "f you" when they just want sex?
Mycteria Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Is this a guy's way of saying "f you" when they just want sex? No, it's his way of saying, "Clearly you are not dating material but I will go ahead and f*ck you if you let me."
Author MissJoness Posted October 24, 2012 Author Posted October 24, 2012 No, it's his way of saying, "Clearly you are not dating material but I will go ahead and f*ck you if you let me." I'm asking if that is a result of me blowing them off for so long??
xdahliax Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 I'm asking if that is a result of me blowing them off for so long?? Let me put it this way: NOTHING good can come from blowing someone off like that. So if you are getting attitude or disrespected, yes it is linked to your behaviour. When you disrespect others, it's normal to be disrespected as well.
SmileFace Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 I'm asking if that is a result of me blowing them off for so long?? No it is a result of blowing him off period. I hope you didn't tell him the reason.
rocketman122 Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 No, it's his way of saying, "Clearly you are not dating material but I will go ahead and f*ck you if you let me." HAHA!! hilarious to see a woman who knows how men think. not all are douches though. I wouldnt do it. not my style. OP, why not text later on after the call? why wait months? a few days or even a week, but months? people move on. get some medicine to calm yourself and then do it. I think youre in an endless loop that will get worse. you have to break it but going on a date. but you'll need to find someone considerate and patient and is willing to work with you. My GF has many issues herself and I love her and help her with them. but not everyone wants that.
Author MissJoness Posted October 24, 2012 Author Posted October 24, 2012 HAHA!! hilarious to see a woman who knows how men think. not all are douches though. I wouldnt do it. not my style. OP, why not text later on after the call? why wait months? a few days or even a week, but months? people move on. get some medicine to calm yourself and then do it. I think youre in an endless loop that will get worse. you have to break it but going on a date. but you'll need to find someone considerate and patient and is willing to work with you. My GF has many issues herself and I love her and help her with them. but not everyone wants that. I'm scared that the guy might not really like me. That's why i blow them off.
xdahliax Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 I'm scared that the guy might not really like me. That's why i blow them off. Doesn't really matter why. Stop trying to justify it and get a grip on yourself.
Author MissJoness Posted October 24, 2012 Author Posted October 24, 2012 Doesn't really matter why. Stop trying to justify it and get a grip on yourself. Are you a guy? If I could do something about my anxiety I would.
xdahliax Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Are you a guy? If I could do something about my anxiety I would. I'm not a guy but I have PTSD/anxiety and somehow manage to not behave as selfishly as you do.
rocketman122 Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 (edited) on one hand a person then thinks, why date? on the other, everyone wants to love and be loved. some to lesser degree and some more. how many times has this happened and for how long has this been going on? also, if you dont give them a chance, how will you ever know? youre in a loop here and you need to break it somehow. why no therapy/medicine..? money? I have had bad anxiety attacks myself for a long time. to the point I could not sleep for days in a row, till I was so tired my body shut down. I kept trying to go to sleep in my bed and got up from fear of chocking and no air. even today, I sleep with the lights on when im alone and have some video running on my PC for sound. so I know about anxiety. Edited October 24, 2012 by rocketman122
CheckIt Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Don't make up excuses... everyone has problems. Way to blow him off. You should ask him out now.
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