xdahliax Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 I think I've already asked this question in an initial conversation, because the person described what he did for work and I just wanted to know which companies hire people to do that job (I was just interested/curious). I guess you can only get an idea of what her intentions are if you put it into context.
Author PhillyDude Posted October 23, 2012 Author Posted October 23, 2012 Hmm, a better question would be "what do you do for a living". Although my dad usually counters that question with his interest to avoid women who are looking to see the size of his wallet. Yes that sounds better
Author PhillyDude Posted October 23, 2012 Author Posted October 23, 2012 Or she's just curious. It's a pretty standard "Get to know you" question. If we are both in the bed naked then I can reveal that information.
january2011 Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 In my social circles and within my peer group, this type of question is pretty standard. Especially if you're having a conversation about work. From experience, most people assume that you are employed and they like to know how you spend approximately a third of your day. I've also found that if the question-asker's background tends to be bluechip and big corporates, she/he will find it normal to ask about the other person's company because that's common parlance in his/her world. In this context, I don't think the question is out of place. That is, unless other conversation signals indicate that the question-asker is digging for information on the probability that she'll be treated to weekly dinners at michelin-starred restaurants and gifted fine jewellery and designer dresses. Part of me wonders if the OP feels the question is "off" mainly because he can't say what company he works for due to his current employment status. As another poster suggested if a person is quite proud of their job and company, then they may be quite amenable to talking about it, rather than be offended or find the question inappropriate or suspicious. Nonetheless, perhaps the awkward exchange alluded to in the OP suggests incompatibility in communication styles and comfort levels in sharing information. I suggest moving on.
Author PhillyDude Posted October 23, 2012 Author Posted October 23, 2012 In my social circles and within my peer group, this type of question is pretty standard. Especially if you're having a conversation about work. From experience, most people assume that you are employed and they like to know how you spend approximately a third of your day. I've also found that if the question-asker's background tends to be bluechip and big corporates, she/he will find it normal to ask about the other person's company because that's common parlance in his/her world. In this context, I don't think the question is out of place. That is, unless other conversation signals indicate that the question-asker is digging for information on the probability that she'll be treated to weekly dinners at michelin-starred restaurants and gifted fine jewellery and designer dresses. Part of me wonders if the OP feels the question is "off" mainly because he can't say what company he works for due to his current employment status. As another poster suggested if a person is quite proud of their job and company, then they may be quite amenable to talking about it, rather than be offended or find the question inappropriate or suspicious. Nonetheless, perhaps the awkward exchange alluded to in the OP suggests incompatibility in communication styles and comfort levels in sharing information. I suggest moving on. So maybe I can ask her what school does she works at as a teacher?-lol
january2011 Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 So maybe I can ask her what school does she works at as a teacher?-lol Yes, why not match her own level of questioning? (I'm being sincere.)
suladas Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 (edited) What someone does for a living says a lot about them. Maybe i'm shallow, but at 23 I don't want to date someone in a dead end job with no ambition or goals to better themselves. I also don't want someone married to their job and works day and night either. I don't care where they work, just would ask general questions to know what they do. When you see their occupation is "stay at home mom" that always makes me laugh and go PASS, or unemployed considering the job market here pretty much anyone who is unemployed is by choice. I will answer any questions, most women don't even understand what I do really. Edited October 23, 2012 by suladas
suladas Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 (edited) Nope I work in construction. I will say I am lucky to live in a place where jobs are very easy to find, and very good paying ones. Edited October 24, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator removed reference to deleted post
suladas Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 (edited) It's funny to laugh at because on a dating site they are saying they are looking for someone to support them. If you don't have time to have a job as a single mom you don't have time to date it's very simple. Edited October 24, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator removed reference to deleted post
kaylan Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Its one thing to ask what I do for a living. But to ask where I work? Id either shes either a girl worried more about status than who I am as a person, or that she misspoke and was actually trying to ask what I do for a living. It could be either one really. She may not have meant to ask a question that was too personal.
Ginger Grant Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Sent this girl a message online and we had a nice flowing conversation. Then all of a sudden she asked me....."What company do you work for? Why would I reveal that information if I have not met you face to face? Can you imagine if a guy askes that question? The first thing she will think is...he must be a stalker Anyone agree? How did you answer the question?
rocketman122 Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 It could be either one really. She may not have meant to ask a question that was too personal. no no..they know..make no mistake buddy, she didnt..she knows what and why she's asking those things. its built into their radar system to ask.
Balzac Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Yeah, they know. If they were Mensa members, they'd have that in their profile.
Author PhillyDude Posted October 24, 2012 Author Posted October 24, 2012 How did you answer the question? I ignored it 2
Author PhillyDude Posted October 24, 2012 Author Posted October 24, 2012 Yeah, they know. If they were Mensa members, they'd have that in their profile. Well I gave her my number and will see how the phone conversation goes If I get asked anything crazy I'm hanging up
Balzac Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 So we await your update. Sounds like this could get interesting!
rocketman122 Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 If I get asked anything crazy I'm hanging up HAHA!!! no, dont be rude. if she's rude doesnt mean you have to be. be above that. always be the gentleman. politely tell her or laugh " can I not answer that right now-its too personal" and at the end tell her "well, I wish you the best and hope you find the love youre looking for" done. its the equivalent of going through with a first date even though you dont want a 2nd. instead of getting up and walking away. good luck. fingers crossed. 2
SmileFace Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 If could acually answer the question - would you still find it as rude? The idea that you will just hang up someone so out there - that I don't even want to comment on it.
Author PhillyDude Posted October 24, 2012 Author Posted October 24, 2012 If I get asked anything crazy I'm hanging up HAHA!!! no, dont be rude. if she's rude doesnt mean you have to be. be above that. always be the gentleman. politely tell her or laugh " can I not answer that right now-its too personal" and at the end tell her "well, I wish you the best and hope you find the love youre looking for" done. its the equivalent of going through with a first date even though you dont want a 2nd. instead of getting up and walking away. good luck. fingers crossed. I mean if she was to ask me something like....."so where do you see yourself in 5 years" The phone call is over
rocketman122 Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 I mean if she was to ask me something like....."so where do you see yourself in 5 years" The phone call is over are all dudes from Philly funny like you HAHA!! not easy OLD. I hope it goes well for you.
2sure Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 I'd suck at this. I'd probably answer without thinking twice about it, thinking she was just making conversation. I'm positive this is true because I asked and you did! 1
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