lovecash Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 Its been over a month NC after a 4.5 year relationship with the ex gf. It sucked for a looong time. This past weekend I started hooking up with a new girl. She is crazy as **** and defintely not GF material, but she is hot and is DTF. I feel like a new man, and not even thinking about the ex anymore. To all you guys out there, just keep it up improving on yourself and working on YOU. Getting that attention from new girls give you that INSTANT confidence boost you need to power through everything. Stay strong and keep it up everyone. Even just a week ago I was considering "reaching out to the ex" to see how her feelings were. Now, I say F that, not looking back ever (until the ex comes begging back and I tell her to **** off). 1
whatheheckhappened Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 AMEN!!!! guys... i was in a similar situation...thanks to this site and some friends...i kept NC...worked on myself and this weekend...hooked up with 2 different woman. Exude confidence an new woman will come flocking!
mammasita Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 Congrats, I wish I could find a hot chick that was DTF. Problems solved. 2
NavyAirTraffic Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 Getting your confidence and self-worth from the almighty punani is a flawed strategy. What happens if you dumped, rejected or have a dry spell? Should they pass up on opportunities with beautiful women, we all aren't getting any younger and our ex's are no longer an option? This is the single game, date, get rejected, hunt, to find "the one". We have no other option. Like it or not this is the immediate future for us dumpees. Unfortunately disappointment and loss of confidence are apart of this game.
KatZee Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 OKKKKay there Situation. When this one dries up you'll be back here wondering what happened and why you're dwelling on the ex again. No one gets over a 4.5 year relationship in a month, as much as you want to believe that. You're doing what pretty much most guys will do after being dumped. Go stick it in anyone who's willing for the quick ego boost. 2
River Rain Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 Getting that attention from new girls give you that INSTANT confidence boost you need to power through everything. This is something I agree with. My relationship didn't last years, but when it ended, I went right out there (after a month), and started to be social, and I met some nice men who wanted to get to know me. No, I didn't go so far as casual sex, but having these new connections certainly helped me "power through" as you said. None of them really worked out, well, one might...but I think it's fine as long as you don't hurt anyone in the process.
LostOne1 Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 Don't let someone else define you, tell you who you are, what you should think about yourself or what your value is. Exactly... you don't NEED anyone to define you.. that's something each of us does for our own self! 1
Author lovecash Posted October 23, 2012 Author Posted October 23, 2012 Ha I said this girl is crazy, and nothing CLOSE to gf material. I know this will end but I will be enjoying the ride (rather her riding me?) Just this past weekend was the first real time I didn't feel akward talking to girls and making comparisons to the ex and the results spoke for themselves. I am also only 24, and being single in a big city might be the better choice in life for me anyway at this stage.
Drseussgrrl Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 I've hooked up with 2 guys since my breakup at the end of July. Honestly, it gave me something to think about other than the ex and the sex with the 2nd dude was REALLY good on the first try. Hell, he's out with other women so why shouldn't I be doing the same? Not sure what I'm looking for but hell yes the attention and fun is a great distraction. 1
todreaminblue Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 Its been over a month NC after a 4.5 year relationship with the ex gf. It sucked for a looong time. This past weekend I started hooking up with a new girl. She is crazy as **** and defintely not GF material, but she is hot and is DTF. I feel like a new man, and not even thinking about the ex anymore. To all you guys out there, just keep it up improving on yourself and working on YOU. Getting that attention from new girls give you that INSTANT confidence boost you need to power through everything. Stay strong and keep it up everyone. Even just a week ago I was considering "reaching out to the ex" to see how her feelings were. Now, I say F that, not looking back ever (until the ex comes begging back and I tell her to **** off). so you think by having sex with someone who is unstable is the way for you to get over your ex....do you have any pet rabbits? if you do ....makes sure you keep your back door locked in case she tries to boil your pet...... thanks for clarifying why casual sex sucks.....i appreciate it.....i hope you find the real thing one day.....deb
mishy Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 I've hooked up with 2 guys since my breakup at the end of July. Honestly, it gave me something to think about other than the ex and the sex with the 2nd dude was REALLY good on the first try. Hell, he's out with other women so why shouldn't I be doing the same? Not sure what I'm looking for but hell yes the attention and fun is a great distraction. totally agree its a great idea. Why sit around crying and suffering
William Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 Half the thread disappeared but it's a bit more civil and on-topic now. Let's keep it that way. 1
witmadskilllz Posted October 24, 2012 Posted October 24, 2012 Rihanna still loves Chris brown, and what.
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