planetpower Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 So due to my husband's careless mistakes, I recently had to put a car and loan in my name because our credit isn't very good. I stress out easily, because quite frankly, he does not share his part of the burden or help make very good decisions. I also have an anxiety disorder I take medication for. Well anyways, I have been very overwhelmed with having to take so much responsibility for everything and say how unhappy I am. He starts acting like a child for someone pushing 30 and tells me he "hopes I get raped on a modeling shoot" Needless to say I am quite resentful even though he goes back to acting like nothing ever happened.
TigerCub Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 So due to my husband's careless mistakes, I recently had to put a car and loan in my name because our credit isn't very good. I stress out easily, because quite frankly, he does not share his part of the burden or help make very good decisions. I also have an anxiety disorder I take medication for. Well anyways, I have been very overwhelmed with having to take so much responsibility for everything and say how unhappy I am. He starts acting like a child for someone pushing 30 and tells me he "hopes I get raped on a modeling shoot" Needless to say I am quite resentful even though he goes back to acting like nothing ever happened. so....why are you with him?
liquid_amber Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 yeah, you've started numerous threads about leaving him, but you're obviously not serious about that. so why complain? 1
Daniel V. Ross Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 Try to talk with him and ask him to change that bad values. It will only cause problems to your relationship. 1
todreaminblue Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 (edited) So due to my husband's careless mistakes, I recently had to put a car and loan in my name because our credit isn't very good. I stress out easily, because quite frankly, he does not share his part of the burden or help make very good decisions. I also have an anxiety disorder I take medication for. Well anyways, I have been very overwhelmed with having to take so much responsibility for everything and say how unhappy I am. He starts acting like a child for someone pushing 30 and tells me he "hopes I get raped on a modeling shoot" Needless to say I am quite resentful even though he goes back to acting like nothing ever happened. saying hope you get raped would be a deal breaker for me in my opinion....i dont know of a crueler thing to say..except i hope you die.someone whispered that to me once that guy was a rapist.......i just wrote in a thread i would not walk away from my next relationship if a guy i dated said this i would so glad i would not get involved with someone who would say such a thing.....so glad i know that the guy i do like right now i know 100 per cent certain woudl bet my life on it he would never ever say this to any woman....in my heart i know that.......deal breaker i am afraid.....for you in my opinion get out while you can.....before he kills your spirit...your post killed a little of mine...hence the honesty do it for you walk away....do it for someone who gives crap from me to you walk away from it friend.......be strong.....im out of loveshack for a little while......you affected me..going to listen to music.....relaise you have an affect you make a differnce in someones life you just touched mine please leave him........deb Edited October 25, 2012 by todreaminblue
TiredFamilyGuy Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 (edited) OP. I read your other threads. Take the advice of aasdf there: "Don't just say that you are unhappy. Nobody can decipher what that means. Be specific" It sounds like you are still not communicating. I mean as adult to adult. Have the "His needs of you: your needs of him" discussion if you havn't already. OK, you were venting, but there is a scolding tone to your mail that if you use it straight off the bat with your H, is likely to result in a similarly childish response from him. That said maybe just divorce already as he does seem like a bad partner for you. How bad does it have to get for you to act? Edited October 25, 2012 by TiredFamilyGuy
Hawaii50 Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 that's smackable. to say something like that about someone you supposedly care about. You're a model? what kind? Hi I'm Aaron.
passingbreeze Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 PlanetPower: When you post something as attention getting as he tells me he "hopes I get raped on a modeling shoot", you DO get a big reaction and lots of comments. However, you haven't responded to anyone on this thread? Why not? We have all been reading your posts about ongoing problems/issues between you and your husband for a long time, and yet you seem reluctant to make changes? Why? 1
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