Abilicious Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 Dear all I'm new here and would like to explain my situation. I asked my partner to leave a week ago and although its hard I know deep down I've done the right things. We had been together for 7 years. I have a son whom is 10 from a previous relationship and we have a 3 year old daughter together. He is a cannabis addict and after years of him saying he was going to quit and living with a very volatile character that didn't like contributing towards bills and not taking must interest in the children. I had been called awful names the c word, a sl*g and a other horrendous things over the years and sometimes in front of the children. The last straw was when my son broke down to me and said he didn't want him there any more and that he wasn't "worthy" of me. From that day I asked him to leave. I've had no contact other than him threatening to come up and take our daughter when I have told him he needs to calm down before we discuss those types of things. He sends me texts asking about her and I have let me see her Sunday (at his parents) and have been trying to reach agreement about access. Once I think its sorted he leaves it and then text me again changing the goal posts. He demands I text him straight back however when I do reply he doesn't respond to my reply? I know Ive have totally done the right thing and I am proud of myself that I have plucked up the courage after all this time. Cant stop that feeling going away in my tummy either though. He hasnt asked for me back and I don't think he will as I have thrown him out and to be honest I wouldn't take him back, but secretly I hurt he hasn't realised what he has lost. Feel better to write it down, thank you for listening x
Solcita2 Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 I think for your children sake you should get a lawyer. He is the father of your child and he might say you want to steal his child and whatnot (at least in my country you can). And I think from now on you have to think through the lawyer: visitation rights, AND SUPPORT for his daughter. This guy is obviously wrong, and you did right to ask him out... now take care of your children because you don't know how he might react. Hope it all goes better
Author Abilicious Posted October 23, 2012 Author Posted October 23, 2012 Thanks so much for replying guys and guess what, I am seeing a solictor on Friday because I thought exactly that! I already got legal radvice on visitation rights as I needed to know where I stood. I kinda excepted his habit as beleive me he could be nice to me but only when he was stoned, If he wasn't then all hell would break lose and he would bring us all down. I have only replied to his texts in a formal manner which have only been about his daughter, but he is constantly trying to change the goal posts there which is nothing unusual. its a shame because i tried hard to keep us as a family, but my son put it all in perspective when he said he longer wanted to listen to me called a c***, a s*ag and a Wh*re which he would apologise for when he had got some... Of course he is telling my parents he has stopped now and gave over some money which is all I ever wanted him to do and which is what alot of the arguing was about. Glad I found this place you have been really helpful, thank you
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