ambiegirl Posted July 31, 2004 Posted July 31, 2004 well, i really really like this guy but im only 14(15 in augest)and hes 17,18 in 3 months and i hear he likes me but he just thinks that i am to young for him!so now i am at least trying to stay friends with him cuz we are friends and all! but i am trying to find ways to stay friends with him but i also wanna get over him! i just dont know what to do please help!
fellowes7892000 Posted July 31, 2004 Posted July 31, 2004 hey, there's probably not much you can do. to stay friends and get over him at the same time is tough. you need to let the feeling go slowly and then rebuild your frienship after that. that means that you need to have less contact with him for a while, definately not no contact, but just less than you have now. try to find something to keep you occupied for a month or so while you regather. then once you're not so hung up on wanting to be with him, then start hanging out more. maybe in that month you'll find someone new to chase after, or maybe someone will find you and chase you! hang in there, people stay friends in these situations all the time, it;s just hard and you have to be committed to losing your crush before you can be genuine friends. good luck dave
UCFKevin Posted August 2, 2004 Posted August 2, 2004 You deal with it. Because you ARE too young. Sorry. He's a smart young feller.
dyermaker Posted August 2, 2004 Posted August 2, 2004 I'd go as far as to say no contact. You're into him, and he's not going to be into you. That's only a recipe for heartbreak, and reminding you over and over of that heartbreak. I'm amazed at people who try to cling to friendships when they want more--it only facilitates more pain. He's not going to see you grow up and all of the sudden he'll be attracted to you. He's in an entirely different world, he's on his way out of high school, you're on your way in. Four years is a lot when you're young. Imagine a really good-looking, really mature, really intelligent 10 year old. Would you date him? It's the same dillemma.
Butter15 Posted August 2, 2004 Posted August 2, 2004 you are to young i am your age and i know because my friends have been there they have dated someone way older than them their first year of highschool an have gotten dumped because that guy was going to college and said she was to young....if you got to my thread you'll see that mine isn't the young thing it's wanting to still be young and live life and things like that but i just don't know anymore.....if it's just a crush and you never dated it will be easier to get over and easier to be friends in the future.
faux Posted August 2, 2004 Posted August 2, 2004 Originally posted by ambiegirl well, i really really like this guy but im only 14(15 in augest)and hes 17,18 in 3 months and i hear he likes me but he just thinks that i am to young for him! He is correct in that you are too young for him. In three months, when he is eighteen, you will be too young for him until you, yourself, become eighteen years of age. It would be illegal for him to have a relationship with you if he were eighteen, and you were not at least eighteen. In many states, open mouthed kissing is a form of sexual penetration, and could get you jail time in a situation such as this. "Sexual contact" and "Sexual penetration" can be interpreted quite differently, depending on where you reside. What you believe is not a sexual relationship may, in fact, be one. I congratulate him for being wise on this matter. so now i am at least trying to stay friends with him cuz we are friends and all! but i am trying to find ways to stay friends with him but i also wanna get over him! i just dont know what to do please help! I do not believe it is correct for a man of eighteen years or older to be friends with a girl younger than eighteen. I look at the law, and I think that carries over in a few ways. If you want to get over him, distancing yourself for a while would probably be a good idea. The less you see of him for a time, the better it may be on you. As far as you two being friends, it isn't just up to you. If he chooses to for whatever reason, then that is how he wants to call it.
morrigan Posted August 2, 2004 Posted August 2, 2004 Your feelings are hurt, but realize that this guy has the sense and the respect not to take advantage of a girl that is too young for him, physically, mentally, and legally. There are guys--many of them much older than 18--who would have no qualms about manipulating a 14 year old girl. Like everyone else said, distance yourself from this guy. You're going to be upset about what happened if you continually see him, and I have to be honest and say that a relationship with this guy is out of the question. He is going ahead with his adult life, and you are still going to be in school and dreaming about what you want out of life. There are other guys out there that are your age, who may have the same personality and general outlook that this guy had. Don't think that this guy is the only person that will have meaning in your life.
FolderWife Posted August 2, 2004 Posted August 2, 2004 Wait until you're 18, and he's 21, and give him a call for now, you're jail bait where he's concerned
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