unizkhong Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 I'm together with a guy for 6 over years. We started off as classmates and got together after we graduated. I'm been through all his career struggles with him. I understand he wanted to achieve something in career before getting into marriage and he told me to wait for him. We were quite happy together, although with some minor quarrels here and there. 2 years after being together, he told me he wanted to go overseas for a course for 2 years in order to progress in his career. Reluctantly, I still supported him. We had long distance relationship for that 2 years. Towards the end of his training, we had a big argument and we broke off. He said I wasn't communicating well with him and I keep things to myself. After 3 months of separation, we got back together. And a while later, his training ended and came back home. We were together for another year in home country, rather happily. After a year, he told me his company require him to go to another country for training for 1 year. He told me he is very sorry he had to put me into this all over again and promise he will come back to me and get married after a year. I respected his decision and later had long-distance relationship again. We talked on the phone almost everyday. 4 months into it, I went overseas to look for him. 2 days before I flew off from the visit to go home, that morning he told me he really love me and definitely miss me. He mentioned he got some exceptions to his training and will be able to end the overseas training in 2 month's time. That faithful evening, we had a quarrel and he told me he wanted to go separate ways. He said I've something in my mind and refusing to communicate with him. He told me I disrespected him and we are not growing together. He mentioned he will definitely not turn back this time and block me in all avenues of communications (Facebook etc). I am very very certain he still loves me and he does not have any other women in his heart. I also admit communication is my flaw in long distance relationship. I felt less connected to him when he is away from me for such long period of time. I love him so much and I wanted to move on but couldn't.
kae Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 He does love you and he is being very clear and specific to what is bothering him. YOUR COMMUNICATION equals your enthusiam!!! when it gets harder communication is supposed to get stronger not weaker.. your supposed to be more transparent and more open!! what you are doing when you relax here is you are giving him trust issues. You will lose him and he sounds ABSOLUTELY delicious!!!!
Solcita2 Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 Long distance relationships are not for everybody. I wonder why he goes alone when he is require to go overseas? Why haven't you married before this last time and went together? This is gonna keep happening with him, you're not his priority and I understand the importance of career but... only but... why haven't you gone with him? Did he ask you?
Author unizkhong Posted October 24, 2012 Author Posted October 24, 2012 We didn't have money to get married. He's still a trainee and earning quite miserably. And he is required to stay in his hostel during his training overseas, and spouse are not allowed in. Actually thinking through last night, I started to feel for him. After putting myself in his shoes, I will guess he doesn't felt the love and appreciated from me.
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