thembones Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 So the day is finally upon me. I have been dreading it and cannot believe it is finally here. October 23rd, what would have been our three-year anniversary. Broken up 2 1/2 months, NC for 1 1/2 months (have not even seen her in passing). She left me, obviously. I doubt she will contact me, but I just do not know what to do. I just hope that she actually remembers the day. For a long time, I wanted to text her something cute and kinda around the subject, but obviously about the day. Now, I do not think that is such a good idea. I am mostly over her, but still have hope in my heart (unfortunately) that maybe she will reconsider and TRY to work things out. All I ever wanted was a second chance, but I do not think I will ever be given that luxury. Should I text her? I wouldn't call. Text is straight to the point. Should I get her a card and flowers - leave it at her door? I'd be scared as hell. What does it say if I DO contact her? What does it say if I DO NOT contact her? In past experiences, what has happened to you either way? I just want her to know that I do not hate her and still care. I really do not want to talk to her unless its about getting back together, but our anniversaries always meant something special to us. I just don't want to be forgotten Thanks for reading. If you have any advice, please share.
KatZee Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 *PHYSICALLY SHAKING YOU THROUGH CYBERSPACE* Dude... she DUMPED YOU. Do you really think she's sitting at home thinking, "Hm... it's our almost, would have been, three year anniversary. Should I send him a card? What about a gift?" No. She's probably out hooking up with guys. Living her life partying with her friends, meeting new people. SHE DUMPED YOU. It shouldn't matter what she thinks about you or if she thinks you hate her... I'm fairly positive if she wanted you back, YOU'D KNOW IT. I can tell you what's going to happen if you send her flowers on your fake would-have-been anniversary. You will thoroughly embarrass yourself. She will feel pity for you. She will feel awkward. What happens when you don't get a thank you? Or even so much as a fart in response to your thoughtfulness? You'll be right back here starting from scratch. This is the worst idea I've ever seen on LS. Seriously. 1
Simon Phoenix Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 That would be bad idea jeans. Don't do it. That's worse than a birthday text.
Calico Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 What does it say if I DO contact her? "I'm still waiting. I still haven't accepted that you don't want me. PLEASE?" What does it say if I DO NOT contact her? "I don't chase people who don't want me, because I know I'm not a lost little kitten who cannot survive on my own. If you move on, so can I. PS. F.uck you." I just want her to know that I do not hate her and still care. Why? Because you think if she knows that, she'll come back? I don't buy the "wanting to be a better person" line, even if you may feel it's genuine. I think it's one of the tricks of the addicted brain to get a fix. And considering that she dumped you and didn't contact you, why is it important that she knows that you don't hate her? I went through the same stage, but I didn't find any answers that weren't about getting a fix or attempting to get her back. You know what it will really do? It'll make her feel less guilty for screwing around with other guys, and for dumping you the way she did, because she knows you're fine and apparently all right with it. Oh, and she knows you care. I think you have made that crystal clear ... over and over. This would be different if she contacted you and asked if you hated her. You know, if she showed any interest whatsoever in what you think. You project your feelings in HD quality here.
Author thembones Posted October 23, 2012 Author Posted October 23, 2012 I knew it would not be a good idea, I guess I just needed to hear other people say it to realize how stupid it is. I should not care as much as I do. I do not want her to think I am chasing her or waiting for her. I did make it clear that I wanted to try again, but it was her who shut me out. Now, I have been concentrating on moving on. I kinda hope she feels like sh*t about the whole thing, because she ruined anything we EVER had. I appreciate your answers to my questions, Calico. When someone actually answers them from a solid frame of mind, it makes a lot of sense. I like the part about moving on and fu*k you b*tch. Classy and disrespectful at the same time, I like it. Oh, I like that I added the b*tch for more emphasis, subconsciously to boot!
flitzanu Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 yes, horrible idea. think about it and post here, but don't ever contact her about it.
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