Encounter with Ex GF..weird story

[windmask]

Encounter with my ex gf.

i often see my ex gf at school i mind my own business while my ex is near and even she stoped saying hi and all. Anyhows so today I was just going home she calls my name and I was like yea?

 

So shes like how are u etc and then out of nowhere shes like “can you forgive me for what I may have said and done when breaking up with you and after that too” and I said No really I cant with a smile.

 

Shes like then “I know I hurt you a lot and it bothers me so I just wanted to ask for forgiveness”.

 

I replied well No I cant forgive but I get it u did it to all to end up happy so whatever.

 

She replied “well it wasn’t intentional” I said it was all intentional from your end man.

 

And she started crying…well I tried to comfort her by tapping on the her shoulder shes like “please don’t touch me” I said okie sure

 

I said well stop crying man I don’t know what you want me to say really

 

Am like let me ask you a question… shes like “don’t ask any questions just make a statement if you have to”

 

I said fine statement it is I said “ last time I spoke to you, you stopped me to tell me how I was the worst bf, so what you want me to say to that”.

 

Shes like “am apologizing for that”. Then shes like “ I didn’t cheat on you ”.

 

I said well u were telling guys u were single when we were together.

 

She said “well it was only one”. (it was two and shes been going out with that guy since two months before we broke up...shes a liar)

 

 

I said nope there were more but who cares I wont get into this.

 

Then she says “am not talking about this”.

 

I said ok well sure …she just said then she had to go.

I said alright best of luck…

 

END

 

how am I suppose to forgive that and I know she cheated on me. Like I wanted to ask her, yo aren’t u with one of those guys u were telling that u were single to while we were together??…but I didn’t I wasn’t trying to make her feel bad or get into an argument.

 

Honestly I prolly was having the most perfect day today not sure why maybe I was looking a little to good or feeling a little to good to other people or just looked weird getting a lot of odd looks I think in a good way. But w.e and then this.

 

 

I wasn’t trying to be rude like if u were there u would get I was in a good mood and I was trying to have a nice conversation with her. I wasn’t rude at all I answered everything with a smile was very polite.

 

I swear my luck sucks or gods testing me to see if I let her go yet or not. But honestly I didn’t feel hurt or felt any love for her I really honestly answered her questions with complete honesty. Am surprised nothing was going through my mind like if I hate this girl or if I like her at all. It was just truth coming out to the questions she asked.

 

I know shes happy with this dude and honeslty I know shes had a hard life just like me without parents but she ruined so much of my life and I don’t think theres anything left to say to her. However I don’t hate her or have anything against her.

 

I know she said once when she was leaving me that I wasn’t educated enough or had enough money. Even besides that I don’t hate her I say I just wish shes happy in life so much that even she doesn’t look back and cry…I don’t want anyone to cry for something I did but asking for forgiveness after all she did, after all the pain and suffering she put me through I cant do it.

Not wishing her anything bad I think care enough to let her be happy and never interfere with her life ever..

 

 

she was my best friend and someone i loved with all my heart i would not give up on her ever but she left me over money because she said i didnt have enough of it.

 

 

i suffered so much because of her that i cant forgive her anymore but i do wish her the best. ive always been truthful..

 

 

what you guys think of this your input would be awesome...

[witmadskilllz]

Keep doing you man, if you know you're right then stand up for yourself and don't look back. If you're too nice to her and help relieve her pain and suffering, then she won't learn a thing from the relationship. It's sad to hear that you loved her more than she loves you but for now, I strongly advise you to stay away from her and stick to NC.

[windmask]

Hiii witmadskilllz

 

thanks for responding it means a lot really it does. yea i loved her more then anything however i was lied to and i was made to feel horrible when she decided leave and cheat on me. and now she comes back to apologize. ive always let her win but this time around i wasnt trying to make her feel bad.

 

i spoke the honest truth that i cant forgive her...its the first time she ever apologized for any wrong doings even when we were together she always said she would never admit if she screwed up in an argument. she always blamed me or everyone else that fought with her.

 

so yea its hard seeing her at school it really is. but by no means am trying to hurt her. ive been hurt and broken beyond ever repair and she caused it and didnt care about it at all. just said well move on cause am moving on so to bad.

 

so i cant exactly forgive a cheater/gold digging person. i say best of luck in life and i do mean that. she may deserve better just like she believed when she cheated on me. so best of luck i say.

 

but thank you for your reply. witmadskilllz

[Stillalive1]

Can't believe,had exactly same experience,i was away working and she found a rich guy from her town (we were in a LDR) who was pampering her,and she was hiding him from me and describing him as a friend.

She couldn't even face me but broke up over the phone crying and telling it was because of the distance.

 

The day after he was already uploading pics of them on her fb and she was keep on dening and still calling me to try to fix things.

 

Than i snooped on her fb and found out she was flirting with him at my back and in the meanwhile calling me and told she loved me and missed me,and telling she couldn't wait to c me again.

 

I felt disgusted like never before in my life,can't forgive her,sure i don't wanna b with her anymore cause i deserve someone better and she's just a cheater and a goldigger too.

 

The point is that i'm having trust issues now and i'm really sad cause i always improved in choosing partners,but that one was a huge step back.

[flitzanu]

pretty simple. she feels guilty for being a jerk, and she wants you to forgive her. that way she can feel all dandy about herself.

 

so stop talking to her, and don't worry about how she feels.

[Chi townD]

Ummm.... I wouldn't say that you were wrong...But I would have handled it slightly different.

 

When she asked for forgiveness, I would have said, " You know, one day, I'll be able to forgive you as a person. But, as a girlfriend, you crossed a line and it cut deep. It was bad enough that you kicked the dog when he's down. But, you came back and stomped on his nuts; poured gasoline on him and set him on fire time and time again. I'm still trying to heal and it's going to take some time because you valued money, educational status and some other guy over my love for you and it hurts. A good definition of love is giving your heart to someone and you put your trust in them not to break it. Well, I'm still trying to pick up the pieces..."

 

Or something like that. It tactful and keeping within your self respect and upholding your dignity. Yet, it also conveys the guilt trip of what damage she actually caused.

 

Now, you've read my story on one of your other threads and I showed you that my situation was similar to yours and what positive changes I made in my life. My question to is, What changes have you made?

[windmask]

thank you so much you guys...

 

Stillalive1-hey man i loved your story and thanks for sharing so am not alone. but yea i dont get it when i was together with her i didnt look at how much money she had ever. i just loved her we both never had parents so we never really knew what loving someone would be like. so we became awesome at it however her intentions changed she felt she needed someone with lots of money and so she started going out with her friends and telling them she was single and got with one guy and still to this hasnt admitted they were together when we were together however facebook says otherwise.

 

To Flitzanu- i get it she feels like a jerk for what she said and did to me. i wish i could put into words how badly she made me feel when she broke up with me. ive always been told theres something wrong with me she was my best friend she pretty much drove me insane and joined the world pretty much making me feel theres something wrong with me. honestly am suprised i made it through i guess ive always had this obsession of proving people wrong and it has always motivated me to go on. and yea ur right shes no good i should ignore her i honestly am ignoring her.

 

i may not forgive her but i cant say i hate her or wish her anything bad.

 

To chi townd

 

ur right i could have done things slightly different too. but heres the thing its very hard for me to make it so she doesnt start arguing. i mean for no reason she would in the past start arguing. when she broke up with me i was walking in the hall way stops me just to tell me how i was the worst bf ever and how her life was awesome without me in it. i replied by saying am happy for you and i walked away.

 

so she always starts it and i hate creating drama and even this week when she came talking to me i wasnt trying to ruin her day i was having the perfect day ever really...and i did my best to not piss her off. i gave her clear short honest answers with a big smile.

 

its hard being cheated on and being told cause ur not rich etc. i dont know whats wrong with people like that.....i hope shes very happy and super rich in life and never remembers me...maybe she deserves it...shes got everything she wants now atleast now she should be happy....

[Stillalive1]

Well,my ex was sending me couple of pics she took with the new guy meanwhile we were technically together,after i caught them and i cut the contacts. (It was totally stupid from her side,a very bleak thing to do imho).

Than i asked her to send me back couple of books i ve borrowed to her but she refused saying that she doesn't have time (plenty of time according she has lectures 3 days per week).

A friend of mine has to go to pick up my stuff at her place (hate those bs),and after i had back my books i found out she was writing dedications from me to her by herself inside the books. (creepy thing)

 

At the end i don't care about her anymore, but what made me more upset was her hipocrisy,and the fact that meanwhile i was working away i had my chances to cheat too.

The point was that she could tell immediately she was hangin out with someone else and let me do the same thing too.

I feel like i was with an escort for free and it sucks.

[windmask]

hey

 

it seems u loved her more then she ever loved u. perhaps she doesnt even know what that is. we dont know what she feels or thinks we can only judge from what shes done. although she has the right to be happy she has no right to destroy ur life. which am sure she did even when she isnt around anymore shes hurt you and it will not heal easily.

 

but on cheating oh man listen its as simple as this u got class she doesnt.

 

if she can be happy this way well maybe it was suppose to be like that.

 

the best way u can move forward i think would be just be like maybe i deserved better all along. this world is big and somewhere out there am sure theres someone out there for us....yes i must find this girl am suppose to end up with too.

 

i wish she would find me already but am trying to fix everything issue i have before she does or before i find her.

 

forget the ex worry about u man always worry about u first. after my ex left i realized one thing. its all about u people come and go all the time. u gotta make urself awesome in ur eyes only and just say f off to the world..

 

hope i helped....i wish i would take my own advice lol

 

btw question for you stillalive1

 

my friend says my ex although has a bf hasnt moved on exactly. my friend says my ex isnt over you as much as she would like to believe her asking for forgiveness for what she did proves it and her crying. but i dont know shes got a bf am sure whos rich like she wanted. what do you think? not that it matters id love ur input..

Edited October 24, 2012 by windmask

[Stillalive1]

She didn't loved me at all,she was probably attracted by me,that's why when i was in her town for business she spent the nights in my hotel instead of being with the other guy... And until i caught her she had no problem to b in touch with me,and to hang out with me if i was in her town. I wonder why even if she was hangin out already with the other guy she was the one who was calling first most the time or look for me everytime i was on fb or on skype.

 

Basically i thought someone who's not interested doesn't start the contact but i assume i was wrong.

 

She was not happy with the situation (contacted me by e-mail cause since i caught her she was so coward not to reply at couple of calls then i deleted her number) after she tried to apologize,but she just texted "sorry" and i replied that i don't care about the fact she was apologizing,and don't even care about her happiness anymore,i'm not a member of her family and i don't have to forgive everything,she became a stranger for me.

 

Your ex probably feels a crap for the way she treated u,and the fact u r not forgiving her makes her feel worst. I think she is over u,she just needs to justify her actions but she doesn't deserve your forgiveness just to feel better with herself.

 

To girl i was dating i told her i wish to never c her again cause as far as i know myself i'm sure i will spit on her face.

Edited October 24, 2012 by Stillalive1

[windmask]

hey man no point in putting life on hold. she probably expects you always to be miserable so make a change prove her wrong but do it for urself become better, make improvements in ur weaknesses.

 

btw after reading my story posted in this article why would she ask for forgiveness after a year she broke up with me. like is she not over me or is it just an act or just a simple asking for forgiveness. i dont get her motive so help

[Stillalive1]

I didn't put life on hold,working,partying,travelling and flirting with other girls...

 

I think she needs your forgiveness to move on,she feels guilty for the way she behaved,there r no feelings from her,just selfishness.

She should learn that from her actions there are consequences,when she was backstabbing u she didn't feel so guilty i think.

Edited October 26, 2012 by Stillalive1

[windmask]

Hey everyone..

 

its been a long time since ive been on this site almost a year. so i thought id still write here. so the last time i wrote here was when i ran into my ex a year after she broke up with me and she asked forgiveness. anyhows so after that i ran into few other times however this time she just didnt come up to me to talk which was fine whatever suites her.

 

anyhows she left that semester and i hadnt seen her since dec 2012 heard she found a job i was happy for her.

 

but saw her last month not sure what she was doing at school saw her with a guy which is fine but i dont know why but seeing her makes my heart feel weird.

 

by my heart feeling weird i mean its kinda like its beating super fast, or like the walls are closing in or something stupid like that. i dont know why this is. i understand its done with and i know i prolly wouldnt want someone who cheated on me anyway. but i dont know why my heart goes like that.

 

i honestly dont know what to make out of it. so can you guys help? maybe its just me who this happened to i dont know. cause this is the first for me. i never felt that way when i saw anyone in my life.

 

so let me know what you guys think. thank you in advance

[windmask]

my last page in case anyone wanted to read it.

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/353311-encounter-ex-gf-weird-story

 

Hey everyone..

 

its been a long time since ive been on this site almost a year. so i thought id still write here. so the last time i wrote here was when i ran into my ex a year after she broke up with me and she asked forgiveness. anyhows so after that i ran into few other times however this time she just didnt come up to me to talk which was fine whatever suites her.

 

anyhows she left that semester and i hadnt seen her since dec 2012 heard she found a job i was happy for her.

 

but saw her last month not sure what she was doing at school saw her with a guy which is fine but i dont know why but seeing her makes my heart feel weird.

 

by my heart feeling weird i mean its kinda like its beating super fast, or like the walls are closing in or something stupid like that. i dont know why this is. i understand its done with and i know i prolly wouldnt want someone who cheated on me anyway. but i dont know why my heart goes like that.

 

i honestly dont know what to make out of it. so can you guys help? maybe its just me who this happened to i dont know. cause this is the first for me. i never felt that way when i saw anyone in my life.

 

so let me know what you guys think. thank you in advance

[cavalier99]

Just a normal emotional reaction. I know youd rather had reacted with pure indifference but sometimes it doesnt work that way.

 

Dont read into it. Just forget about her and keep living your life. The important thing is how you are doing in general . Cav

[mutant]

I can relate to that and it definitely feels weird because you are completely over the person. I have bumped into ladies who from a distance look exactly like my ex (standing tall at 6.0", she's easily noticeable) and each time this happened I had the same feeling- heart beating fast etc. I think its okay because it means absolutely nothing as you are back to normal within a few minutes.

[windmask]

k true i get you. i dont know though if it means nothing i shouldnt feel that though..

[windmask]

hey cavalier99

 

thanks but question do you still think of your ex? for me its been 2 years and ive made good progress in letting go but still every now and then when i remember it all i feel how terribly i was treated and then it turns into anger later. seems to happen to me every now and then.

 

was wondering if this would be normal?

[Jmk21]

It's because you still care for her somewhat. Sometimes it takes awhile. I experienced the same thing with an ex I lived with for 2years. She cheated i moved out went nc for 3 years. She hit me up on fb to catch up so I went and the attraction was still there on a physical level. But we were far from who we were and we never reconciled as a couple. Just had sex for a couple weeks and became friendly with light fb chat every now n then. It was weiiird

[cavalier99]

hey cavalier99

 

thanks but question do you still think of your ex? for me its been 2 years and ive made good progress in letting go but still every now and then when i remember it all i feel how terribly i was treated and then it turns into anger later. seems to happen to me every now and then.

 

was wondering if this would be normal?

 

Hmm well im not sure if im a good example. Im in a new RS and i also talk to my ex a lot and even hangout every so often. So there is absolutly no negative reaction to being with her. She is just a friend now.

 

I guess after 2 years i can somewhat see your concern. But the thing is you havent been in a new RS. Also if it is just every so often that you feel the injustice of it all ..id just roll with it. Then continue on. Youll be fine man. Dont worry so much about what is normal and what isnt. Cav

[windmask]

to jmk21

 

thanks for that view. i suppose i might care for her even i find that annoying to admit.