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BetrayedH

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BetrayedH Established Member

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Not really a question here. It is what it is. Just wanted to inform my "peeps" that I found out today that the D was official on October 12. xW has officially and legally run away from this problem.

 

Fortunately, I am looking forward to my second life and have been for a while now.

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silicone Established Member

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May I ask what problem she ran away from? Also, glad to see you've found someone you're happy with.

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Let her keep on running- and you take care of you, and the great possibilities ahead.

 

Remember- wherever she runs, there she'll be, still hanging onto her issues.

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Here is to your future! *clicks glass*

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Cheers man, it will only get better from now on.

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I wish the best for you on your second life, may you find the happiness you deserve. You're an extraordinary person, who has been through hell and yet has offered your kindness and sincere advice to others as they too face a painful time in their lives. You are truly appreciated.

 

(((((hugs)))))

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Owl Established Member

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Not really a question here. It is what it is. Just wanted to inform my "peeps" that I found out today that the D was official on October 12. xW has officially and legally run away from this problem.

 

Fortunately, I am looking forward to my second life and have been for a while now.

 

Congratulations man!!!

 

Can I offer suggestions on things to do to symbolically end this period of your life? I can suggest some neat ways to melt down the rings, burn pics, etc... :)

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BetrayedH Established Member

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Thanks for the support. :)

 

Owl, I truly appreciate your sense of humor but I think I've done enough burning stuff. ;) Gonna proceed with different coping mechanisms this time around.

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Congrats man, that must be a good feeling :) Be good to yourself, you deserve it.

 

(btw my final won't be until the beginning of next year)

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Thanks for the support. :)

 

Owl, I truly appreciate your sense of humor but I think I've done enough burning stuff. ;) Gonna proceed with different coping mechanisms this time around.

 

Congrats on getting that done and over with.

 

And if you're not now, one day you'll look back and laugh about dragging those damn couch's out into the back yard and setting them ablaze.:D

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This is one of those times when condolences, and congratulations can both apply............

 

I'm so sorry for what you've been through, and that things didn't work out as you'd wished--and at the same time I'm happy that you're at a point of closure--- with infinite possibilities ahead of you.

 

To echo what others have said--thank you for being here, & sharing your experience and wisdom to help others--it speaks volumes about who you are.:)

 

*tipping my hat*

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BetrayedH Established Member

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Much appreciated. The congrats are certainly bittersweet because this is never what I really wanted. But it proved a necessary outcome in her mind and I'm smart enough to know that it takes two to maintain a marriage. If two people weren't fully invested, this is what had to happen and I find myself looking forward more frequently.

 

And yeah, 96, I don't have any regrets about the sectional and I do get a laugh out of it pretty much every time. Crazy-making, some of this nonsense. Thanks for the chuckle.

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Hi BH,

Your divorce is 2 days less than one year from mine - Oct. 14th 2011.

 

Well, most of the really bad crap is behind you. My best to you. Of course, we only know you on here, but if you are half the man you seem to be here, your XW is a fool. You go on now and live a good life. :)

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frozensprouts Established Member

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Glad that things have resolved themselves, and that you can begin a new phase of your life...you'll make a great single dad and your kids will know you love them and that you will always be there for them no matter what...you'll be a really great example of all the good things a man can be

 

My hope for you is that from this point on, your life will be filled of all the best... you deserve it :)

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Spark1111 Established Member

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Not really a question here. It is what it is. Just wanted to inform my "peeps" that I found out today that the D was official on October 12. xW has officially and legally run away from this problem.

 

Fortunately, I am looking forward to my second life and have been for a while now.

 

Throw a party. Celebrate the ending of one chapter and the beginning of another.

 

What are you doing FOR YOU?

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Steadfast Established Member

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Better to be alone than wish you were.

 

Seldom is divorce embraced by both sides kidd, but what choice did you have? The reality is, your marriage ended long before legal technicalities.

 

You are now free to pursue happiness on your terms and to your full satisfaction. It may not seem so, but this is a great gift. Take advantage!

 

Thanks for your thoughtful posts and sense of humor. One of the good guys-

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BetrayedH Established Member

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Throw a party. Celebrate the ending of one chapter and the beginning of another.

 

What are you doing FOR YOU?

 

Does keeping my head above water count?

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Owl Established Member

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Thanks for the support. :)

 

Owl, I truly appreciate your sense of humor but I think I've done enough burning stuff. ;) Gonna proceed with different coping mechanisms this time around.

 

DARN!!!!!! :)

 

And here I was just getting ready to explain to you how to improvise thermite. :)

 

Oh well...congratulations anyway, my friend!!

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Spark1111 Established Member

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Does keeping my head above water count?

 

It"s the ONLY thing that counts right now.

 

Bittersweet, I understand.

 

Try to find a pic of the couch you lit on fire and scotch tape it to your fridge.

 

Whenever you feel sad, or lonely, or get a bad case of the "if onlys" look at it, and force yourself to remember why it was set ablaze.

 

Then get out of your apartment.....and have some fun.

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BetrayedH Established Member

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DARN!!!!!! :)

 

And here I was just getting ready to explain to you how to improvise thermite. :)

 

Oh well...congratulations anyway, my friend!!

 

It's you that are the good friend. Thanks Owl.

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BetrayedH Established Member

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It"s the ONLY thing that counts right now.

 

Bittersweet, I understand.

 

Try to find a pic of the couch you lit on fire and scotch tape it to your fridge.

 

Whenever you feel sad, or lonely, or get a bad case of the "if onlys" look at it, and force yourself to remember why it was set ablaze.

 

Then get out of your apartment.....and have some fun.

 

And you, too, Spark. I actually do have a picture of the black spot remainders. But it won't make the fridge; that's reserved for my daughter's drawings.

 

Thank you to all of my friends here. You lifted me up today.

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TiredFamilyGuy Established Member

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Seems congratulations are in order. I wish you every future happiness.

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StormySeas Established Member

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I can't imagine how you feel, BH, but know that the kindness, sincerity, and care that you show for others on this site time and time again indicates that you deserve to be treated with such love and respect. I hope that there is a wonderful woman waiting out there for you when you're ready. In the meantime, I hope you have some friends to take you out for some beers, help you cheers to the future, and keep you smiling. Upwards and onwards!

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drifter777 Established Member

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I'm sorry you had endure the horrific betrayal of the wife you thought you married and hope you can truly heal someday.

 

I understand the bittersweet part, but I believe you will find more sweet than bitter as you progress with your life.

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