Glove_slap Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 If our first love ended the relationship with us that is? It's been 2 and 1/3 of a year for me and she's still on my mind sometimes. The break up was extremely traumatizing lol. I haven't thought about her for months but suddenly here I find myself on loveshack again. Are first loves simply something you cannot forget?
River Rain Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 I remember my first love's name was Jason, I was 17 years old. He ended things because he was dating another girl. I remember thinking that it was over for me, that nobody would love me the way Jason loved me! Silly in hindsight, but that's the way a young heart works. Sure over the years I've thought about him, but just in a fond way, I was over him when I met my next boyfriend a year later. I don't think it's bad that you're thinking of her, as long as you don't let it consume you and make you relive the hurt of the breakup.
KatZee Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 It took me about 6-7 years to fully get over my first love. But eventually it just happens. 7 years after being with him, after dating all the wrong people, I finally met the 2nd person I fell in love with. It took time b/c my first love really set the bar for all guys and no one even compared to him. No one has EVER compared to him. I thought my most recent ex did, but he turned out to be the worlds biggest faker.
ParadeRain Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 (edited) If you ask me, my friends or pretty much anyone I know and being on the receiving end of a break up with a first love... Getting over a First Love is the hardest. You have so much working against you. You are young, immature, naive, no real dating / relationship / break up experience, no perspective, you lose your "innocence" and you are typically more insecure, unsure, etc. Not only are you dealing with the loss and disappointment of losing someone and the break up... You also getting slapped in the face with a lot of life lessons and harsh realities you never had to think, deal with or worry about. For me, I learned so much about myself and many other things while I was with my first love. However, I learned more... losing her. For 99% of us... It's a right of passage that we all go through at some point in our lives. Even if your first love dumps you, at some point they will be dumped by someone they are in love with. I can only count a handful of people who successfully avoided being dumped. Don't think you understand how much I have learned by stalking your posts gibbo.. you'll never know. I've been going through losing my first love for the past 5 months now, and you won't be aware of it.. as sad as it may seem, you personally have been the one to show me the REALITY of it, and pointed me to what I have learned from it... You've unknowingly helped me get through it... At first I was wallowing... laying on my bed sad, with the delusion that she'll be laying on her bed sad just like me... something I learned is that no, she's not doing that, she's laying on her bed alright, but only because she's on all fours being cockblasted by my replacement... once I considered that to be a reality... a short while later I found out she's seeing somebody... it's the REALITY and once you accept it the only way to go is up., I see so many desperate, weak guys posting on here, heartbroken sending desperate desperate pleas to their ex's, I was one of them... before I was enlightened by yourself and a few other posters here on LS... I've grew some balls, and whether I get over her or not, I don't care.. I've learned to live with it, I'm just keeping it real and moving on with my life... topping up my spirit and moral with the occasional one night stand ...enjoying being 20 and free... I have low moments but thats when I reflect on what I've learned here, without even realizing I'm suddenly boosted and ready to roll again. Edited October 22, 2012 by ParadeRain 1
Chi townD Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 Rarely do we ever marry our first loves. But, we will always remember our first loves because they made us feel something we never experienced before in our lives. That's kinda hard to forget. Just like the first time you had sex (whether it was good or bad) you're going to remember it well (unless you were completely drunk as a skunk). Human nature! Got to love it.
fucpcg Posted October 22, 2012 Posted October 22, 2012 The truth is you never let go of any true love completely, that's impossible. You just learn to love someone else when someone worthy of loving comes along. My first love I dated 21-24, took me a good 3 years before I started dating seriously after that. Since her I've had 2 more true loves, and all 3 hold a special place in my heart. 18 years since our break, I still am very close to, and very fond of my first love, and we text each other at least weekly.
Author Glove_slap Posted October 22, 2012 Author Posted October 22, 2012 Don't think you understand how much I have learned by stalking your posts gibbo.. you'll never know. I've been going through losing my first love for the past 5 months now, and you won't be aware of it.. as sad as it may seem, you personally have been the one to show me the REALITY of it, and pointed me to what I have learned from it... You've unknowingly helped me get through it... At first I was wallowing... laying on my bed sad, with the delusion that she'll be laying on her bed sad just like me... something I learned is that no, she's not doing that, she's laying on her bed alright, but only because she's on all fours being cockblasted by my replacement... once I considered that to be a reality... a short while later I found out she's seeing somebody... it's the REALITY and once you accept it the only way to go is up., I see so many desperate, weak guys posting on here, heartbroken sending desperate desperate pleas to their ex's, I was one of them... before I was enlightened by yourself and a few other posters here on LS... I've grew some balls, and whether I get over her or not, I don't care.. I've learned to live with it, I'm just keeping it real and moving on with my life... topping up my spirit and moral with the occasional one night stand ...enjoying being 20 and free... I have low moments but thats when I reflect on what I've learned here, without even realizing I'm suddenly boosted and ready to roll again. cockblasted? LMFAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
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