joel Posted July 31, 2004 Posted July 31, 2004 how long -months, wks in dating and nowing a gal before u expect to get sex out of a relationship. this is for the guys who have dated gals how long do u expect to get it , just imagine my gf if i ever get one finds out from my sexually inexperience that her bf a 23 yr virgin doesn;t now how to make love to her or even kiss . anything i as a guy can do to be more experienced-does watching movies help, .......suggestions and how about kissing on the lips tried doing it to the mirror but not really same thing
Pained Posted July 31, 2004 Posted July 31, 2004 My boyfriend is 25 and a virgin, and it doesn't bother me at all. We've been dating a little over two months, but are taking it slow. I'm NOT a virgin. I haven't been one for 11 years. To be honest, although he had kissed before me, his technique left a lot to be desired. For me, a lot of the fun in it is "training" him (at his request) by showing him what I like and seeing what he likes.
honey2005 Posted July 31, 2004 Posted July 31, 2004 I don't think people go into a relationship and EXPECT to get sex. There's not really a set time, just when both people are comfortable and ready to go that far. Don't worry about her not liking you because you're inexperienced. If she's worth you being with, it won't bother her. I think being 23 and still a virgin is really sweet, and any girl you're with should be honored if you decide to give it to her.
Tech76 Posted July 31, 2004 Posted July 31, 2004 Don't rush things. It will happen when you are both ready. Just enjoy the trip.
Kelebek Posted August 1, 2004 Posted August 1, 2004 I know it's a cliche, and what everyone has said, etc etc....but really, it will happen naturally when you are both ready. It happened with me and my boyfriend 4 weeks into our relationship. I've been friends with him for 2 years though so it's not like I've just met him (although there's nothing wrong with that! ) Three weeks into our relationship, he told me that his mum was away the following weekend...which meant an empty house, so I knew what that meant!! It was good having that full week to think about whether or not I was ready, and by the time it came around, it felt like the most perfect time ever. Just one tip - don't "expect" to get sex...that sounds a bit sordid, to be honest. Sounds like you're only dating the girl in order to get sex - using her. Maybe it was just the wrong word Whenever she trusts that you won't run off on her straight afterwards, that's when she'll start to feel more comfortable and happy with you and then that will lead naturally to sex - which is a natural expression of that feeling. Don't worry about being inexperienced - everyone's got to start somewhere, don't they? Not a single human being in the world is born "knowing" what to do!! Sex can have awkward and funny moments, like I once banged my head off the end of the bed and it was bloody embarrassing but we both just laughed and laughed!! This is why you MUST be comfortable with each other, you need to be able to laugh at yourself in order to enjoy sex. Not all the time - but it helps when you're learning together.
faux Posted August 2, 2004 Posted August 2, 2004 I had been accustomed to not waiting very long for sex in a relationship. One week or less, or one month or less is what I had been used to. I decided for myself that it might be wiser to wait on this sort of thing, and started to date people without being sexually involved. It provided me with a better experience. My girlfriend at present is a virgin, and we just had our one month anniversary a few days ago. It may be another month, or two months, before we decide to have sex or not for certain. I've no problems waiting. I've learned that I really don't want to get that close to someone unless I feel there is a fairly solid foundation for a good relationship. Sex changes things, and I think it's better now to wait. She will be going back to school, full time, and I will be working a job and going to school part time. We need to make sure that these changes don't impact us negatively. If we have sex, we both want it to be in a good relationship. God forbid we share that this summer, and then find out that we simply cannot work around classes and work in the autumn! That would be horrible! As of now, I do not expect to have sex at any certain point in a relationship. I do, of course, hope and expect to have sex, but I don't have any type of deadline to meet. It is more important for me to know that the relationship is a good one without sex, that we can weather stresses of every day life, before trying to introduce the complexities of sex.
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